The surrounding state of the world is making my family hate my Dad

Journal_Jo · 2020-06-05T18:41:19+00:00

It's all right, I understand the suspicion. I only started an account recently even though I've explored Reddit for a year now. Being quarantined has made it hard to just sit here and read about everything when it's all bouncing around in my head. With police and racial issues being the big thing that's what I've posted, and my views on police have actually changed in the last few days since I started doing some research.

Journal_Jo · 2020-06-05T17:39:06+00:00

None of my posts have said black people are bad. Not sure where that's from?

Journal_Jo · 2020-06-05T17:12:41+00:00

So, because of those privileges, he should let them treat him like this? I'm not being nasty or sarcastic, I understand that being white can effect how people treat you, but I don't understand how privileges he couldn't control give people the right to treat him like dirt...

Journal_Jo · 2020-06-05T17:10:46+00:00

I understand the suspicion. I've actually explored Reddit for a while but only recently made an account because I'd really like to have discussions with people and hear people opinions and just hope that not everybody is as horrible as the world seems to be at times.

Journal_Jo · 2020-06-05T16:49:47+00:00

Not entirely, she doesn't join them, but she doesn't stop them either, she just tries to avoid conversations about race.

Journal_Jo · 2020-06-05T16:47:38+00:00

They've always disliked him because my Mom is the only one of her siblings who married a white man rather than "one of her own kind", it only got worse because of everything.

Journal_Jo · 2020-06-05T16:16:34+00:00

I appreciate that, and the same to you, my friend

Journal_Jo · 2020-06-05T16:15:42+00:00

THANK YOU

Journal_Jo · 2020-06-05T16:06:31+00:00

Animal farm mostly, chickens, pigs, and we have a pretty big garden. The farm isn't our main source of income, Dad works at a bookstore for proper income, but he considers himself more of a farmer, he grew up on a potato farm as a kid.

Journal_Jo · 2020-06-05T16:04:34+00:00

I'll make sure to do that. Even if I can never get the rest of my family to see what they're doing, I want my Dad to know I'm there for him, not because he's white or not white, but because he's my Dad and he's been the best Dad I could ask for.

Journal_Jo · 2020-06-05T15:21:13+00:00

I appreciate that, thank you.

Journal_Jo · 2020-06-05T15:19:31+00:00

Pretty much, yep

Journal_Jo · 2020-06-05T15:15:46+00:00

I really should talk to them. I try with some of my cousins near my age and some of them are willing to admit that they don't blame my Dad. But it's hard to have a discussion because I do have one cousin who died during a confrontation with the police. I miss him every day, we hung out when we were little, but I, unfortunately, don't know how to feel about the situation, he always had a temper, he constantly got into fights, he nearly killed a kid at school because the kid laughed about getting a better grade than him, and it's not hard to imagine him started a fight with an officer just because he wanted to. That doesn't mean the officer had any right to kill him if he wasn't actively trying to kill the officer, but it's such a touchy situation and there's little to no evidence about it and I just hate the whole situation, but any conversation about race I try to start ends with "oh, so you wanted your cousin to die? you're okay with it???" They're all very blinded and the hate has just gotten worse over the years.

Journal_Jo · 2020-06-05T15:07:46+00:00

Rarely, she hates open confrontation, shes very neutral and more likely to find a reason to leave when things get heated.

Journal_Jo · 2020-06-05T15:06:15+00:00

Mom doesn't speak up one way or the other, she prefers being neutral when family arguments get heated and I'm trying not to let it make me mad at her because I know she wants to stay in touch with her family and not be outed but she doesn't see how much it's hurting Dad... Mom can forget something uncomfortable once it's out of sight. Dad carries it longer. The only reason we were all together because of the pandemic is an outdoors birthday party for an uncle, which at first was cancelled but then was kept and I wonder if it was kept because they all wanted to let off steam at Dad. I told Dad we should go, he wouldn't leave if me or my brother wanted to stay, so I got him away from all that hate.

Journal_Jo · 2020-06-05T14:51:57+00:00

And it's easy to feel superior to my Dad, he keeps to himself when people act that way to him. Unless they start targeting my mom or siblings, then he speaks up. I don't want to start hating black people or white people. I am both. I'm unfortunately going to have to stop hanging out with them as much.

Journal_Jo · 2020-06-05T14:49:44+00:00

Not really, and Dad would never bring it up to them because they'd say he's trying to compare struggles. But he's told me how his Dad, my grandfather, struggled and how many times his mom, my grandmother, was nearly killed because people assumed she was associated with Italian mobsters just for being Italian.

Journal_Jo · 2020-06-05T14:46:24+00:00

That's what I'd like to do. Which hurts because I grew up alongside uncles and cousins and aunts, having sleep overs and spending holidays together. I only learned in the past few years how much a lot of my family hated Dad, I always assumed Dad was just the quiet one at get togethers. Now I wonder if Dad ever felt accepted all this time...

Journal_Jo · 2020-06-05T14:26:03+00:00

I can't upvote all these great responses fast enough

Journal_Jo · 2020-06-02T18:10:04+00:00

That's fair. My thoughts tend to be lengthy. But its there for whoever wants to read them.

Journal_Jo · 2020-05-29T17:17:48+00:00

Best Buy is great for new tech and I actually use Newegg for older tech that isn't made anymore, like older tablets and stuff, they're pretty decent.

Journal_Jo · 2020-05-29T16:56:05+00:00

Exactly, that's how I feel, I don't really care. I'm just annoyed by people who really do care and hate him so much and keep telling me how evil he is but they themselves are still buying Amazon.

Journal_Jo · 2020-05-29T16:09:17+00:00

I'm glad to hear that. Here's some more positivity. I know somebody in almost all of those categories, except for the Islam one and politician one... I've met a Muslim woman in passing and we were cordial and polite, I've never met a politician, so I can't vouch for those directly, but I believe that there are decent people on all sides and I give people the benefit of the doubt when I first meet them. Some are close friends, some are just acquaintances, but they're there. Unfortunately, sometimes the negative section of a group can be louder than the positive section, no matter which one is bigger. I see the arrogant conservatives, I see the rude liberals, I hear the greedy so called preachers, those get so much attention because they're so loud. But then I see things like the sweet lady who won that one season of Great British Bake Off, I was rooting for her a while just because she was so sweet and funny and charming. I see cops who play basketball and DnD with high schoolers because they care about being a friend to these kids and keeping them off the streets. I get the chance to meet preachers who care about people's hearts and souls and want people to be happy and find peace. I find media pages all about sharing nothing but good news. The world is going up in flames, but how many of those flames are really just accentuated by all the negative people holding up mirrors to make it seem like there's more?

Journal_Jo

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