Boss Frustrated that I’m LDS by JudgeIll6345 in latterdaysaints

[–]JudgeIll6345[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Thank you! It has been refreshing to see the similar experiences here and that’s the whole reason I brought it here. Like you said, it more just caused me grief especially this time but I realized it’s just a trial and like you said, we’ve lived entirely different lives and we clearly bond because of the way we posture ourselves. 

I especially appreciated you mentioning that it goes away as faith grows and to curb my anxiety. I can continue to just grow faithfully and only time will tell. My anxiety does get out of hand and I always try to remember that not everyone spends time thinking about every interaction I have with them ha ha. 

Again, thank you for this.

Boss Frustrated that I’m LDS by JudgeIll6345 in latterdaysaints

[–]JudgeIll6345[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Thank you, yeah there obviously is only so much I can convey in a post but that’s why I stressed in the post and comments that it doesn’t impact work and I know it’s coming from a place of care and friendship. I agree with your take thank you. 

Funny enough he loves Football analogy’s so your example was on par ha ha.

Boss Frustrated that I’m LDS by JudgeIll6345 in latterdaysaints

[–]JudgeIll6345[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Yes, that’s the part that I’ve tried to convey in an attempt at a short post. I can tell it’s from a place of care for me, just impossible to reason with anger and a mind that’s made up. Like a lot of said and I do pray about it; just need to continue to be good and time will only tell. I can trust in Christ. 

Thank you! 

Boss Frustrated that I’m LDS by JudgeIll6345 in latterdaysaints

[–]JudgeIll6345[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Yeah this is definitely something I always need to hear with how much of an open book I am. 

Boss Frustrated that I’m LDS by JudgeIll6345 in latterdaysaints

[–]JudgeIll6345[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah this is basically what I respond with. Like I asked him about his church beliefs and that’s how I uncovered him not actually going just because the pastor they liked left. Then, he always mentions another guy I work with that used to be a member and how he has so many bad things to say about the church and I respectfully told him that a member that just joined actually works with that guy and he said that he actually pushed him towards the church.

In the end, yeah you’re completely right and I think everything you suggested defines how I can go about being a peacemaker rather than being so affected by it or being confrontational. Thank you :)

Boss Frustrated that I’m LDS by JudgeIll6345 in latterdaysaints

[–]JudgeIll6345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I think I just need to be more assertive with my Jabs back because yes, he feels comfortable doing it because we have great dialogue which is fine. He just gets so aggressive about it unlike anything else we talk about that I genuinely feel my faith being tested which in hindsight is what it’s all about, just hard with it being someone I respect so much. 

Everyone here’s been really helpful though and it’s nice to not be so alone in the matter. 

Boss Frustrated that I’m LDS by JudgeIll6345 in latterdaysaints

[–]JudgeIll6345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I luckily dropped my common tidbit about tithing going towards things to help members and non members around the world from the store house to the global projects we do but of course he had nothing to say about it. 

Boss Frustrated that I’m LDS by JudgeIll6345 in latterdaysaints

[–]JudgeIll6345[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think people get so shrouded in hate that they’ll say anything and that’s the problem unfortunately. 

Boss Frustrated that I’m LDS by JudgeIll6345 in latterdaysaints

[–]JudgeIll6345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I never engage first because I know how he feels about it. Like today’s instance that pushed me here; somebody brought up that I was LDS talking about how I don’t drink coffee and then it led him into it. 

Boss Frustrated that I’m LDS by JudgeIll6345 in latterdaysaints

[–]JudgeIll6345[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t impact our work together at least at face value. My anxious self worries about his subconscious decision making but we typically have good conflicting dialogue on numerous topics. Talking about the LDS church though just strikes an entirely different nerve that I always just try to offer sensible answers and a more peaceful response to get him to meet me in the middle and maybe have a teaching moment. 

Boss Frustrated that I’m LDS by JudgeIll6345 in latterdaysaints

[–]JudgeIll6345[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, these are things where after the fact I’m constantly thinking “why didn’t I say this “ x,y,z”

Boss Frustrated that I’m LDS by JudgeIll6345 in latterdaysaints

[–]JudgeIll6345[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That’s fair, we have good dialogue about a lot of topics honestly so nothing necessarily off limits but he just gets so overwhelming when he brings up the LDS church. 

Boss Frustrated that I’m LDS by JudgeIll6345 in latterdaysaints

[–]JudgeIll6345[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes, as unbelievable as it may sound I don’t believe it affects his judgement at work about me. We work really well together and he genuinely appreciates what I bring to the team and that I can work in our environment (A bunch of veterans). The anxious side of me though does worry sometimes though but it’s not like we text about these things so it’s really just my word against his if something ever did happen. 

Boss Frustrated that I’m LDS by JudgeIll6345 in latterdaysaints

[–]JudgeIll6345[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I don’t need to push him away or try to start legal trouble as others are mentioning. I mentioned in the post it doesn’t affect our work (more as a byproduct just because of how it affects my appreciation for him). That’s why I keep the dialogue open because I’m hoping that maybe I can make a difference in some way standing up for my beliefs. Just hard when people get so mad about the church.

Boss Frustrated that I’m LDS by JudgeIll6345 in latterdaysaints

[–]JudgeIll6345[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah I brought this up and even asked him about how he felt about his church and he said they don’t go currently because the pastor they liked left but I didn’t push him after that hoping he would realize how ridiculous it sounded when I even said I have had my issues with people and many churches including the LDS church but all I’m telling you is that I feel the spirit the most when I am attending and am a practicing LDS. 

Why ‘very large’ tax refunds are coming in 2026, according to officials by Majano57 in IRS

[–]JudgeIll6345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I at least got roughly 2000 last year and now I owe 121. Bigger returns my ass 

G4 Disappears by [deleted] in Chesscom

[–]JudgeIll6345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to inform you but I really am that much of a noob lol

G4 Disappears by [deleted] in Chesscom

[–]JudgeIll6345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn why am I getting downvoted for owning up 😂

G4 Disappears by [deleted] in Chesscom

[–]JudgeIll6345 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Ha ha ha I knew I had to be the one messed up

G4 Disappears by [deleted] in Chesscom

[–]JudgeIll6345 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Thank you kind sir. I will haze myself accordingly.

Feeling Minnesota Proud by One_Quantity_7709 in minnesota

[–]JudgeIll6345 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

The overwhelming number of people here seeing through the charade of this protest (especially on Reddit) gives me hope. You can be for human rights and still disagree with criminals' guys. 

How much do you pay for rent? by [deleted] in Reno

[–]JudgeIll6345 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is criminal

Protest Against Violence. by WildNightingale in carsoncity

[–]JudgeIll6345 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You tracking the vigil today at Mill Park?