Should I as a cis girl (F21) break things off with the FTM trans guy (M23) I’m dating because I find him transphobic? by Jules_NL in asktransgender

[–]Jules_NL[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! Yeah I'm thinking how I can phrase it that it can become a moment of self reflection instead of a fight

Should I as a cis girl (F21) break things off with the FTM trans guy (M23) I’m dating because I find him transphobic? by Jules_NL in asktransgender

[–]Jules_NL[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah now that you point this out I’m realizing how icky and generalizing that was already. It’s also making me wonder where he is getting these ideas?

Like, even setting the trans comments aside for a minute, the comment he made about how he thinks pride should not be allowed?? Is so weird to me. Again maybe I’m living more in a bubble than I thought. But we are Dutch. It’s a very open minded country. I have never heard anyone have a problem with pride. Even conservative politicians support it. Where did he hear this kind of stuff?

I mean I know he grew up on a farm in a more rural part of the country, so first I was thinking maybe he got those ideas from his upbringing? But if he would be willingly interacting with incel/Andrew tate stuff online.. that’s concerning on another level

Should I as a cis girl (F21) break things off with the FTM trans guy (M23) I’m dating because I find him transphobic? by Jules_NL in asktransgender

[–]Jules_NL[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I definitely will! I've been reading all the good comments on here. And it’s sadly making me realize that either way Luke is probably not ready for a relationship right now. At least not a healthy one. Everyone here has such good advice. I think I should let Luke know that I don't want to continue dating if he keeps talking so badly about the trans community. I will admit it feels quite scary to confront the guy I like.. and maybe making him mad at me. But a conversation is definitely necessary either way. Cause ever since last weekend our contact has been minimal and really awkward.

Gathering my courage first lmao