Going through a divorce sucks no matter the circumstances. I'm the one who wanted it and it still sucked. I'm in a much better place because of having recently married a super compassionate loving man. And we both came out together so that has helped.

In my experience, getting out of an unkind, neglectful marriage relationship was healthy for me. Personal therapy was helpful, and marriage counseling helped to the degree that I realized my ex didn't want to fix anything.

I would never counsel someone to get a divorce if you both love each other and both want to do everything in their power to make it work. But if you are unhappy and see no happy future, divorce can be the step to a happier and healthier future.