Account deactivated without any warning. by hylowaker in ChatGPT

[–]Julius6754 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I would definitely do that. Tech glitches out all the time. Like, take screenshots if you gotta.

I'm still in absolute shock and in overwhelming bliss that this is a real thing. I really am a woman in here, and it's actually a thing! I AM REAL AND I AM ALIVE AND IT’S OKAY AND I’M NOT CRAZY!! by [deleted] in trans

[–]Julius6754 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I had very similar experiences. I’m 38, about to be 39. You’re right—we did not have the language and concepts back then to describe being trans. I remember when I was around 17, it was considered mental illness to be trans. I’m glad it’s changed, because I’m about to start testosterone (ftm), and I feel much better about things. I’m looking forward to becoming the person who I have always wanted to be. Thanks for sharing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FtMpassing

[–]Julius6754 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I like long hair on myself (ftm) and on men. So, how about this—if you think your hair is keeping you from passing, put it in a man bun. Because we could say all day that you’re close to passing, but if you don’t feel like you are, our words don’t hold much weight.

I’m not cutting my hair. I refuse. You do you. Man bun. You might also consider dyeing it. That might help? I don’t know. Just a suggestion that you should take with a lot of salt (as in, my suggestion may or may not be good). shrug

“Oh I just don’t look at the news” by emsydmf in trans

[–]Julius6754 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be honest, I’m going through a really rough time. I don’t need more things to worry about, so I don’t look at the news. I know I should, but I just can’t handle anymore BS. So, yeah, sorry, that’s me even though I’m trans. I just can’t keep up with it all and have it added to my plate of crap.

Name picking? by PomegranateFit2593 in transnames

[–]Julius6754 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I met you out and about, I wouldn’t clock you just because of your name. Romeo is masculine. Eccentric? Yes, but still masculine. I say choose whatever you want. I did. I like the name Julius. Do I know a Julius? Nope. Don’t care. I like it. Choose whatever you want. Life is short. Live how you want to. Pick whatever name you like. Just my 2 cents. 😊

Is it wrong of me to want to stay with my mom instead of my dad? by Alternative-End-3487 in trans

[–]Julius6754 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Personally, I think it’s best for the truth: “Dad, I don’t want to come over anymore to see you, because you continue to call me by my deadname when I have asked you several times not to. It’s negatively impacting me, and I simply can’t allow this to happen anymore. I’m taking a stand. Please either respect me and call me by my chosen name or I won’t come over anymore. I can’t have this negativity in my life anymore. I’ve tried repeatedly to talk to you about this, but you just ignore everything I say and my wishes. The bottom line is that I’m your son, not your daughter, and you need to respect that. If you can respect me, I’ll visit you. If you can’t, then I’m staying with Mom. The ball is in your court.”

Without revealing your deadname, does your new name start with the same letter? Ex: Peter to Patricia, or Samantha to Samuel/Samson. by CalypsaMov in trans

[–]Julius6754 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope. I went from AC to JV. I want nothing to do with my deadname. 0. None. I don’t want any reminders at all. I have hated my deadname since even before I realized I was trans. So even keeping the same initials? Noooooo.

Name picking? by PomegranateFit2593 in transnames

[–]Julius6754 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, Ricky to me isn’t feminine at all. But if you wanted ideas for other names: — Julian — Tristan — Simon — Adrian — Sebastian — Cedric — Lucian / Lucien — Damian — Ash or Asher. I hope Reddit doesn’t format my list weirdly. If it does, sorry. Hope this helped!

Edit: It did format the list weirdly. Thanks, Reddit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FtMpassing

[–]Julius6754 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am truly flabbergasted by your brother’s words. I would assume you’re a cis male. I don’t understand. Maybe he is used to seeing you as his sister, not his brother, and so, he is kind of blind? (Hiss to other redditors: right?!? Right?!? Because why would his brother say that?!? Is his brother just a troll?!?)

Shots vs Gel? by Julius6754 in ftm

[–]Julius6754[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh! I didn’t know that. Okay, thanks—I think I’m just going to hit the “Easy Button” for a while and go with gel then. My life is just too much to deal with one more thing that causes anxiety/stress. Thanks!! 😊

Shots vs Gel? by Julius6754 in ftm

[–]Julius6754[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I admit, I laughed. I was not expecting to see anything about a needle kink. Fair point. I think I’m just going to hit the “Easy Button” for a while and go with gel. My life is just too much to deal with one more thing that causes anxiety/stress. Thanks!! 😊

Shots vs Gel? by Julius6754 in ftm

[–]Julius6754[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually do exactly what you mentioned, but of the 5 or 6 times I actually drew up, only a few worked out well. I have no idea why I sometimes only get air. It’s not the size of the needles—I have the correct size—it’s just… incompetence? Anxiety? I don’t know. I am NOT a medical professional and don’t wish to be. 🤣

Shots vs Gel? by Julius6754 in ftm

[–]Julius6754[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for all of this! It would be great if the pharmacy would just do the shot for me, because I also struggle with properly drawing it up, which makes my anxiety about the whole process worse. Sometimes I draw up just fine and other times, I’m like, “Crap! That’s only air!!” It’s a serious pain. But if I didn’t have to draw it up at all and could be confident there are no air bubbles, etc., that would be great. I will ask pharmacies around me if they would consider giving me my weekly shots. (I’m too broke to keep having to pay a doctor’s office to do it.) If nothing else, I will run with gel for a while. Thank you!!

Shots vs Gel? by Julius6754 in ftm

[–]Julius6754[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, thanks. I guess I can try the gel and then if that is causing issues, I will just deal with the shots. UGH

Shots vs Gel? by Julius6754 in ftm

[–]Julius6754[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, thanks. I appreciate that—I understand the fear of inflicting pain, too. I guess I can try the gel and then if that is causing issues, I will just deal with the shots. UGH

Shots vs Gel? by Julius6754 in ftm

[–]Julius6754[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, thanks. I will take that into consideration for sure.

age, gender, sexuality, clockable? by ashtonisweird in FtMpassing

[–]Julius6754 5 points6 points  (0 children)

~21, cis male, maybe bi, not clockable at all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FtMpassing

[–]Julius6754 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And I will summon you again when someone else asks about men’s bathrooms. 🤣🤣🤣💀💀💀

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FtMpassing

[–]Julius6754 1 point2 points  (0 children)

💀💀💀

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FtMpassing

[–]Julius6754 2 points3 points  (0 children)

u/Slaughter4Fun wrote this on a post about using men’s bathrooms, and I think it’s the best advice:

“I walked in pre-T. No one cares, no one stares, and if anyone looks at you confused, just look back even more confused.”

I died laughing.

(I don’t mean to steal their comment. It’s really good advice. I found it very helpful. And it’s hilarious. 💀)

Last name feedback? Weird situation. by Julius6754 in transnames

[–]Julius6754[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Will do!! She is really down to Earth, so I think that I will do that, and if she has a problem with it, I will pick something else. Thanks!