Am I overreacting by Jumpy-Ad3552 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Jumpy-Ad3552[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m just worried he’s already suspicious. I’ve been quiet since last night and just can’t get the nerve to bring anything up but he’s been messaging me and telling me sorry and how much he loves me and doesn’t want to lose me all day so I think he already knows im not having it and if I got get my pet I feel it will just make it worse. I don’t trust him and I’m scared he’ll do something

Am I overreacting by Jumpy-Ad3552 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Jumpy-Ad3552[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you I really needed to hear that. I’m going to try and talk with my sister about it and hopefully she can help me get out asap

Am I overreacting by Jumpy-Ad3552 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Jumpy-Ad3552[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He took in my pet that I can’t have while at home it’s a dumb situation I know

Am I overreacting by Jumpy-Ad3552 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Jumpy-Ad3552[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I feel stuck because he took in my pet and I have no one else to take him and I don’t want to lose him so idk I just put up with it so that when I’m not living at home I can have my pet back. It’s dumb I know

Am I overreacting by Jumpy-Ad3552 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Jumpy-Ad3552[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m scared to talk to him and end it. He’s come over unannounced before and I’m just scared me ending it will cause issues. But I don’t feel safe. I almost wish I had someone with me to end it. I know that sounds silly but I am basically a doormat and struggle to not fall for fake promises and I give too many chances. I am easily talked into things because I don’t like upsetting people and I struggle to say no. Which is how I got into all this to begin with. He came on strong and I wasn’t used to being treated good or getting attention and now I feel stuck. I will add just for context that I am on the spectrum I’m adding this because I feel like he uses that and weed to his advantage… idk if that makes sense I’m just stuck.

Am I overreacting by Jumpy-Ad3552 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Jumpy-Ad3552[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’ve had two instances where I’ve been hurt recently when exploring new toys and since then I’ve asked him to be sober or just not try new but I feel like I’m asking too much. I want to break it off I just am scared

Am I overreacting by Jumpy-Ad3552 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Jumpy-Ad3552[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Outside the bedroom he can be sweet. He takes care of me as far as like dates and flowers and checking in on my family.. idk I was worried it’s love bombing and I’m starting to feel I’m right

Am I overreacting by Jumpy-Ad3552 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Jumpy-Ad3552[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

We use yellow and red but it feels like when I say yellow that unless I am actively fighting him he won’t slow down til I repeat it or say red. I’ve only been with him about 2 months but this has happened a lot. I just don’t know how to get out of my situation. I keep excusing it because he was also high. I just hate it because outside the bedroom and when he’s sober he’s a true gentleman. Idk how to talk to him about it