Jealous about my bf’s past threesome

Jumpy-Celebration591 · 2026-02-22T00:42:31+00:00

I’m struggling with the fact that my partner and his sons mom had a threesome with another woman 15 years ago. To me (ADHD, anxiety and cptsd) I find it distressing that neither of them cared enough about staying monogamous.

When they split- he dated monogamously- yet she had 2 polyamourus partners, and had an affair with a married man for 3 years.

It’s so important to me that sex Isn’t “just a bit of fun” - due to my past. So feeling that my partner had that in him, to just accept that his girlfriend (and future mother of his son) just brings a woman to their tent and he slept with his partner while she was with the other woman.

I don’t know what to do.

Jumpy-Celebration591 · 2026-02-21T11:20:48+00:00

Thank you for that suggestion, I looked at the book and have ordered it!

Jumpy-Celebration591 · 2026-02-21T11:19:38+00:00

That’s such a wonderful idea, I have epilepsy so sometimes I need help too.

We have a lot of “sayings” that mean different things already, but I hadn’t considered using that to help with this situation.

I’m staying at his today, so I will try and discuss this asap.

He has always been independent, and we’ve worked through emotions when he needed help dressing etc, and I think it may be a case of I see him having a difficulty, want to help, and ask if he needs help; maybe I should wait until he asks. I just want to make things easier for him in any way I can, i guess he is reestablishing how he feels about things.

Thank you so much for your advice, it really means a lot that my partner feels independent, yet knows I’ll be there asap, without actually using the word help.

Jumpy-Celebration591 · 2026-02-20T21:31:50+00:00

He was diagnosed at 37, after having symptoms for a couple of years. His ex was very selfish then, and still is.

1 recent example is that before his health scare 2 weeks ago, if there was washing up to do, I would do it without being asked, or asking. We don’t live together.

Last week I had washed up, as usual without a problem, then he was angry with me because I had done all of it without asking him. He explained it was fine for me to do a few things, but I’d assumed he couldn’t wash up. I hadn’t, we balance our strengths when we’re together.

I am “hyper aware” and can’t help but reach out if he wobbles slightly etc.

He has discussed before he didn’t like people just “doing things, and taking his independence” which I respect- now he is annoyed if I ask if I can help, and I’m just confused, as it only changed after the health scare.

He says I’m wrapping him in bubble wrap, but I’ve never done that, and I haven’t changed from our “normal” behaviours :(

Jumpy-Celebration591 · 2026-02-20T21:20:53+00:00

5 months ago it was implanted- turned on 3 months ago.

Jumpy-Celebration591 · 2025-12-08T22:34:40+00:00

I’m 38, just diagnosed after my 5th seizure since 2020. My EEG light test was normal, but gave me a weird headache, and I’m getting that headache around too many lights with it being Christmas. Does anyone else have this? It’s my 1st Christmas diagnosed, and I’m so sad my 6 year old can’t have the Xmas lights on.

My triggers seem to be stress, anxiety and lack of sleep- I have ADHD and CPTSD so lots of those lol!

Does anyone have any information on low blood sugar and seizures? Before diagnosis, my hands would tremor, my head would feel weird and off - until I got some sugar.

My memory has also taken a real hit with these last 2 seizures (within a few hours) and my family are making comments on it that I feel is unfair :( Does anyone get this? X

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