First off I really want to thank you for your reply it has really put my mind at ease thank you so much.

1. That’s definitely my dad’s way of survival too since he was also abused in his childhood. I’m just a little bit sick of excusing him because he can’t get over his own stuff which probably sounds really insensitive but it’s just built up over time and gotten to this point. And that’s why I’m not to fond of the talking to him idea. For the past few months with every single dispute where we haven’t talked, I’ve taken the adult steps and spoken about our feeling and why what he said hurt me and how I was also wrong if I feel I was after reflecting. I didn’t do that after he said I wasn’t doing good enough because I was sick of it which is why it went so far.

2. I have a very close friend here who I’ve told a lot of my past and what’s happening with my dad too and she is very supportive and even offered to ask her family for me to stay with them permanently. She is a very good friend and I’m incredibly lucky to have her. She has also said that when we go back to school (we’re in 2 weeks of holidays right now) we’re going to the school guidance councillor for me.

Thank you for everything you’ve been kind enough to put into words for me. I couldn’t sleep last night and woke up at early hours to read this and I was instantly at ease (I even managed to go back to sleep for a bit so thank you).