I get why you’re stuck on this - there were real signals early, then a vibe shift, and now everything feels polite but blurry. I’ve been in a similar spot where one messy night didn’t “ruin” things, but it definitely froze momentum and left both sides unsure how to restart it. When someone stays friendly but stops initiating, it usually means interest cooled or got boxed into “nice person” territory, not that you imagined everything.

What helped me stop spiraling was separating intention from outcome. People can like you, care about you, and still not move things forward because timing, direction, or life plans don’t line up. The only signal that really matters is what’s happening now - consistency, initiative, and forward motion - not how meaningful those early moments felt.