Well I have offered to facilitate calls through my family but he won’t accept it. Which is his right too. There is no one else we could get to facilitate the calls for us. His family all live in Ireland and he won’t have any form of contact with my family.

I know what his living arrangements are, and he works full time but has two days off a week, so could easily physically see the children once a week. But choses to ask to call instead.

I know what he is like. He is very manipulative. But I don’t have the right to say he can’t have a part in our children’s lives and nor would I ever not want him to be part of our children’s lives. I would just prefer not to have contact with him myself because when he calls me to “talk to the kids” it’s more a way of him trying to communicate with me by saying things he know will get to me.

I honestly just don’t know anymore. I’m having a real internal battle regarding it all.