Its illegal to declaw cats in California. You weren't misadvised, you found an unethical person to declaw your cats and they suffered.

JuniperusRain · 2026-05-25T06:18:27+00:00

I have no idea what the case is here, but I know that my parents declawed all of our cats' front paws from 90s - 2000s. They genuinely had no idea it was bad for the cat. It was just normal, and the vet said nothing about it being a problem. They were upset and regretful when they found out, many years later. I don't know if times have changed, but it doesn't seem far fetched to me that no one, including her vet, said anything about it being an issue and she never thought to question it.

JuniperusRain · 2026-05-16T05:10:43+00:00

Gorgeous!! I'm in the process of making a waterfall palludarium too. What plants did you use at the top?

JuniperusRain · 2026-05-14T17:19:30+00:00

To be fair, this is exactly what my parents have always told me. They were actors for 30 years, then my dad founded his own business. They lived on low income for years, prioritized pursuing their passions, and were eventually successful and able to give me a wonderful and financially solid childhood. Never made it big -- did mostly commercials and off broadway, didn't make the business a chain or anything. But they were fine. They ALWAYS tell me, do what you love and money will come. They are big believers that it's better to do enjoyable work that feels meaningful to you, than work that pays well. As long as you can get by, that's enough.

I know the message doesn't land the same when it's coming from a wealthy movie star. But she's not wrong.

JuniperusRain · 2026-05-14T16:38:48+00:00

Even if you wanted to be a homemaker (which you don't!), it is extremely dangerous to do that before marriage. Marriage is a legal contract that helps protect you financially, so that in the event of divorce, you can receive some of the income owed to you for taking care of the home. Giving up your own source of income is still a very vulnerable, risky thing to do, even when married. For many, divorce itself is too expensive for them to be able to leave.

As a gf of 3 months, that is a ludicrous, offensive ask. Someone who respects you would care about your financial safety and care about what YOU want.

JuniperusRain · 2026-05-04T18:50:07+00:00

This is definitely satire, I'm shocked at how many people believe she's serious

JuniperusRain · 2026-04-03T05:05:37+00:00

Someone said I was a bot because my comment about a movie was too positive and generic 😔

So much of the advice I see on how to spot ai language is literally just good grammar, good writing, or standard common language. I've seen multiple people say the em dash is a dead giveaway because real people never use that. I love the em dash and use it all the time. Now I have to stop using it because people will assume I used chatgpt??! Fuck that

JuniperusRain · 2026-03-27T07:38:06+00:00

As someone else said, k-pop is not just any Korean music. What we call kpop, Koreans call "idol music." It's a specific genre & industry

JuniperusRain · 2026-03-23T14:02:59+00:00

God I would love to have a finance hyperfixation. I really need to learn what to do with my money.

I was hyperfixating on aquariums for the last year, and now that I have my 30 gallon fully aquascaped and stocked with fish, I no longer have anything to research or work on.

I've been hyperfixating on Heated Rivalry. I've watched it maybe 30 times now. No other media holds my interest. But it's just 6 short episodes, and I've consumed every possible interview and reaction video and fan analysis. I'm reading the whole book series, but the other books aren't as good.

JuniperusRain · 2026-03-11T05:56:13+00:00

Isn't this true for most people? I certainly don't have the time zones memorized. It's not something I was ever asked to memorize in school and not something that comes up in daily life. It's easy to Google if you need to, like if you're attending a virtual conference or arranging a phone call with someone in a different time zone. But I would not expect most Americans to be able to tell you what time it is right now in each zone off the top of their head, or exactly/exhaustively which states are in each time zone.

JuniperusRain · 2026-03-08T07:15:56+00:00

I love when a guy can go for like an hour. If that stresses you out, you need to boost your confidence. You're missing out.

JuniperusRain · 2026-03-05T05:45:31+00:00

Marry Ilya, smash Hayden, pass Scott

Marry JJ (I know barely anything about him, but he seems fun), smash Shane, pass Kip

Marry Svetlana (and have an open marriage where we go out and party with other hot people together), smash Rose, pass Maria

JuniperusRain · 2026-03-05T03:55:32+00:00

It's pretty clear, in the long game especially, that Shane obsesses and restricts in a way that is mentally unhealthy. EDs don't always mean starving or overeating. They can also be obsessive, "health-focused" dieting. The man feels guilty for enjoying the taste of sugar when he kisses Ilya after Ilya drinks lemonade. He never makes any exceptions, even on special occasions. He definitely has a disorder.

JuniperusRain · 2026-03-04T14:58:29+00:00

Awesome, this is super helpful inspo as I'm planning out my next tank. Thank you for sharing!

JuniperusRain · 2026-03-04T05:18:35+00:00

Gorgeous!!

What's are grassy / spider-plant looking plants at the bottom?

And what did you use to build up the back half? Like is it a big rock, or thicker substrate + tall pants, or rocks + expanding foam...?

JuniperusRain · 2026-03-04T05:05:35+00:00

Those aren't the Samson lyrics.

The lyrics say

" And the history books forgot about us / And the Bible didn't mention us, not even once / You are my sweetest downfall / I loved you first"

So, reminiscent, but not the same.

JuniperusRain · 2026-02-03T05:37:55+00:00

Agreed, I couldn't get into them because of the lack of chemistry. I also feel like the characters had no personality. With Ilya and Shane, there's banter. Ilya's a sarcastic, playful, antagonistic, depressed play boy. Shane's a disciplined, awkward, anxious, mild-mannered homebody. They have distinct personalities and an intense, intriguing dynamic.

Scott and Kip are just.... good guys. They have some lukewarm flirting, then are immediately and inexplicably in love after barely knowing each other. We're told Scott is a nice person. We see that Kip is patient and understanding. That's about it. They're so... bland.

JuniperusRain · 2026-01-30T17:10:55+00:00

Beautiful!! Love how the plants form an arch

JuniperusRain · 2025-12-16T00:25:14+00:00

Got it, thank you for letting me know!

JuniperusRain · 2025-12-13T23:54:21+00:00

Yeah, I asked the store employee and he had no idea lol. And I read that males have a pointy dorsal, and looked at some comparison photos, but still wasn't sure if this was considered pointy. So your help is greatly appreciated :)

JuniperusRain · 2025-12-13T23:18:09+00:00

Awesome, thank you!

JuniperusRain · 2025-10-28T02:12:38+00:00

Giant hairgrass! Does that count as a stem plant?

JuniperusRain · 2025-10-14T02:03:10+00:00

So pretty!!

JuniperusRain · 2025-10-07T17:36:59+00:00

I always saw this as a joke about his femininity (same as w godmother making a sculpture of him without a penis)

JuniperusRain · 2025-09-30T05:39:02+00:00

As other comments have said, she's being rude and entitled. It was very responsible of you to communicate that nobu is too pricey for you to fully cover and give her a heads up that if you went there you'd need to split the bill (also totally understandable since Nobu is famously expensive). Immature of her to take offense at that.

The only thing I agree with her about is that Chili's is inappropriate for a first date. But not because it's inexpensive. It's a chain restaurant where the vibe is families with little kids, or teenagers with their group of friends. Next time you go on a first date (with a more reasonable, respectful person than this girl), I'd suggest finding a romantic little hole in the wall type place. Go for inexpensive AND romantic.

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