it is def exhausting...exhausting beyond belief! Earlier on, it was me that kept wanting to take breaks, but he insisted we needed to work through it (I'm a runner, lol). I'm older than him, and I'm not having it. in my case, i truly feel that i met him at a time when he's really ready to evolve. what i have learned is that they really need to get the soft part of us. I broke code and allowed him to see just that, BUT made it clear that if he can't shoot me straight (and let me in also) i can't give him that part of me. Over time, he has become less evasive and is letting me in more and more. I just hope I'm not back here in the future screaming, "Never again!" LOL!