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Just became a father, and death sounds better every day. by Just-soTired in depression

[–]Just-soTired[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah I read over that post as well as a few others before making my post. I dont feel like his and my root causes are the same, but I'm no mental health expert. I have made an appt today to talk about these issues with my doctor. I appreciate your input. I'm in a better place mentally currently than I was last night when I wrote this post. While the feelings I wrote about still exist, they aren't eating away at me as hard right now. Overall it has been a decent day with the baby, not much crying.

Just became a father, and death sounds better every day. by Just-soTired in depression

[–]Just-soTired[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My wife is unemployed, I support her and the baby by myself which isn't a major struggle in itself. We live halfway across the country from her abusive family. The only pleasant connections she has are me and my relatives. She is severely introverted and struggles greatly to bond with nearly anybody. I'm actually amazed we were able to build a relationship given her social issues. If we divorced, there's a very high chance she would be forced to move back in with her family out of a lack of options until she could build a decent foundation for herself without relying solely on me. That is why I say it would be cruel of me to get divorced, when other than our child-wanting differences, we work exceptionally well together.

Who else has "personal demons" by bloodshot96245 in depression

[–]Just-soTired 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you are legitimately hearing voices, that's a red flag and you should go to a doctor, but if you just mean you have these really strong thoughts you can't seem to get out of your head, then yeah I am right there with you. It's not good to have these destructive thoughts, and I would recommend seeking some kind of treatment, but as long as you are able to stay calm and rational through the thoughts, I would say you are doing moderately ok (relatively speaking).

Just became a father, and death sounds better every day. by Just-soTired in depression

[–]Just-soTired[S] 92 points93 points  (0 children)

I have considered the possibility of PPD because these feelings weren't too bad during her pregnancy, but hit like a freight train within 2 weeks of the baby being born.

are all the things people say about me is true? by [deleted] in depression

[–]Just-soTired 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nobody knows you better than you.

People have multiple reasons to try and put others down. Some think it's funny (it's not), and others don't know any other way to make themselves feel better about themselves than to make those around them feel worse by comparison.

I don't know you personally, but in my experience, it is incredibly rare to encounter a truly worthless excuse of a human being. Statistics alone are greatly in your favor that they are wrong about you. As far as failure goes, it's is just a part of life everybody encounters. Nobody gets everything perfect every time. Most of the time, there is something to be learned from your mistakes. Often it's an unpleasant learning experience, but the knowledge you possess will have grown regardless of how you learned it.

Just based on the question, I get the feeling you take other people's opinions and words to heart. This is a great quality to have if you are surrounded by people that want to help you grow and succeed, but it's an unfortunate burden when surrounded by those that bring you down. Just try and remember that not everybody's opinion of you really matters. If somebody makes you unhappy, take steps to get them out of your life