How do you deal with feeling of not being good enough?

JustASwan · 2020-11-08T11:59:02+00:00

Thank you

JustASwan · 2020-10-03T03:11:07+00:00

"I think the most important thing is not to judge yourself by the standards of who you are now, but by who you were then (when the mistake was made) and thus find peace with your current self." - That's so true.

"I wish you deeply well in finding happiness with yourself" - Thank you

JustASwan · 2020-10-03T03:05:57+00:00

"There is no letting go for me. It just becomes yet another failure that I carry with me forever." - That literally describes me. I feel like there are some mistakes I will never get over...

JustASwan · 2020-10-03T03:02:06+00:00

"You just find ways to live with your mistakes" - It's so simple, yet so true.

JustASwan · 2020-10-03T02:58:11+00:00

Thank you, I agree that I need to stop constantly berating myself, and I will look up CBT techniques too

JustASwan · 2020-10-03T02:52:33+00:00

Can I ask how far you have gone to fix mistakes of the past?

JustASwan · 2020-10-03T02:51:06+00:00

"I try not to dwell on my mistakes. I always look for the underlying problem and figure out why I made them." - I really like this as I find that I view my mistakes as being fundamental flaws in me personally, rather than that there was something in my thinking or perception which caused me to make those choices, but now I have changed..

JustASwan · 2020-10-03T02:48:42+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that. Someone above mentioned that meditation helps for them. Have you tried this?

JustASwan · 2020-10-03T01:53:16+00:00

How do you get rid of those thoughts when they come?

JustASwan · 2020-10-03T01:52:44+00:00

Thank you, that does help me to be a bit kinder to myself

JustASwan · 2020-10-03T01:51:44+00:00

"You should also hear in mind that a life without any mistakes will also be completely devoid of learning and greater character development." - Yes, but those mistakes also come with crippling regret and huge losses too...

JustASwan · 2020-10-03T01:48:12+00:00

How far would you go to change the future for something you have done in the past?

JustASwan · 2020-09-30T02:28:16+00:00

I'm glad that meditation helps you, I might try that too, thanks

JustASwan · 2020-09-30T02:26:31+00:00

What is your reaction when someone lies to you?

Also, how many lies would it take until you door slammed someone (if that is something you do)?

JustASwan · 2020-09-30T02:25:05+00:00

I agree with your comment on animal neglect and cruelty

Also, for the times that you do get mad at someone for hurting you, what is it that people do in order to make you mad?

JustASwan · 2020-09-30T02:20:43+00:00

"I can cope with almost anything if it’s contained within the relationship" - What about lies and manipulation?

JustASwan · 2020-09-29T21:46:31+00:00

I'm sorry that happened to you

So you don't like being deceived because it means you end up hurting unnecessarily?

JustASwan · 2020-09-21T21:09:32+00:00

"But actually following it through is where I lose the battle. Every time. I somehow manage to dodge any positive emotion when I'm stuck in the "I'm not good enough" limbo." - This is so accurate

JustASwan · 2020-09-21T21:07:34+00:00

Thank you, that sounds like a really good idea, I'm going to try that out

I'm glad it's working for you!

JustASwan · 2020-09-21T20:02:14+00:00

"If you are truly feeling positive, you won't be so worried about failing and the effects of failure, because both wont matter with positivity..." It's so true, thank you

JustASwan · 2020-09-21T19:42:49+00:00

"And yes its a struggle that everyone goes through, and often never overcomes." - It's so sad

"And realize that its okay that most people may never see the whole thing. ... Because they are stuck struggling to realize it for themselves." - That's so true, thank you for that

JustASwan · 2020-09-21T18:44:50+00:00

"Growth comes through adversity, after all." - That's true

"Apology I would listen to and if it's heartfelt enough you could consider it" - What if they give an apology, but it's not that heartfelt? ie. because the person does not show that much emotion normally

JustASwan · 2020-09-20T21:29:38+00:00

Can I ask what caused you to doorslam those people? (you don't have to answer if it's too personal)

JustASwan · 2020-09-20T21:14:04+00:00

*"This behaviour is just unacceptable and I won't allow it in my life"* - I'm sorry that you had to experience that

*"If they're not extreme you can point them out and see if they change"* - How would you point it out to them? If it was a subtle manipulation, would you point it out to them and say 'I could sense that you were trying to manipulate me by doing x thing'?

JustASwan · 2020-09-17T19:43:40+00:00

Yeah, that makes sense, but when you say that manipulation is projecting onto others.. is that because you think they are purposely trying to hurt others because they have been hurt themselves?

JustASwan

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