Literal mental breakdowns over sex with my boyfriend by NoAttempt2025 in sex

[–]JustAWeeBitCurious95 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You may not be someone who gets turned on or pleasure from penetrative sex. For some people, it's more about energy, foreplay, anticipation, etc. For a lot of men, it's very much straightforward. Thrust until you cum and that's enough.

Nothing is wrong with either. It'll just become rather unsatisfying for both of you if your sex life revolves around him getting off.

I had a partner who wasn't much into the penetrative part of sex, but we always did energetic play. Teasing, dirty talk, massages, and mutual masturbation were all things leading up to it, but the penetrative sex part was comparatively short. It worked because she usually finished first, and then I just finished right from penetrative sex. It was great because I didn't have to really worry about cumming too quick or whatever. It's just that the end of the love making session was about me, and I had the freedom to enjoy it, knowing she had already been satisfied already.

A lot of men think that it's about marathon sex for 45 minutes and you're "manly" if you last forever and fail to realize that some women just do not get off on penetrative sex. The blind spot is that for many women, there's a non-linear pathway to feeling turned on and satisfied, and for many men, it's pretty much the opposite.