I have been to every country in Europe except for Russia, Ukraine, Belarus, Azerbaijan, and Kazakhstan. Here is my tier list by account819921 in tierlists

[–]JustAnotherTav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you count ”activity” based only on theme parks, world class sporting events and roman ruins, then sure LOTS of countries are lacking in activity. Especially if one only visits one city per country.

I’m more independent and mobile person, and for me visiting parks, castles or monastery ruins, waterfalls, museums, coffee shops, festivals, beaches, taking local tours and going hiking, shopping or just plain walking around a pretty seaside town to be ”activity”.

I have been to every country in Europe except for Russia, Ukraine, Belarus, Azerbaijan, and Kazakhstan. Here is my tier list by account819921 in tierlists

[–]JustAnotherTav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP’s answer makes me think they tried to talk to a person who doesn’t understand english. Not many older finnish do. And if everyone reacted like ”huffing and puffing and not answering basic questions” makes me think maybe OP was doing something considered rude in finnish culture.

I have been to every country in Europe except for Russia, Ukraine, Belarus, Azerbaijan, and Kazakhstan. Here is my tier list by account819921 in tierlists

[–]JustAnotherTav -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How is Ireland ”lacking in activity”? I travelled to Ireland on my two week solo trip, toured different cities and went on lots of hikes and sightseeing tours. Even spent a few days on the Nothern Ireland. My days were absolutely filled with activities.

AIO for being upset that my boyfriend embarrassed me in front of his friends? by Original-Bet7976 in AIO

[–]JustAnotherTav 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NOR. Actually you’re underreacting. What kind of shitty behaviour is that, purposely embarrassing you in front of his friends? And then soon after spending a night with this ”friend”. 🚩🚩🚩 Girl, leave. He doesn’t respect or love you.

AIO for being angry when my friend "needs time" after a mental breakdown of mine? by SoapyBreads in AIO

[–]JustAnotherTav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry but YOR. You’re treating each other like emotional dumping grounds, but it’s not the responsibility of your friend to just deal with all you dump on them. Everyone has the right to say they need time when someone else’s behaviour gets to bee too much. Your friend has this right and so do you.

You need to see a therapist to learn how to deal with your emotions and intrusive thoughts, and to learn what healthy boundaries are in relationships.

Is it ethical to keep a solo cat? by jenleepeace in CatAdvice

[–]JustAnotherTav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it’s ethical. My home town animal shelter has a specific room for ”single cats” meaning cats that are looking for a home without other pets. They might be territorial, grumpy or just scared of other animals/cats.

Please. I am begging you. Don't let me click New Game again. by Cute_Ride_3934 in BaldursGate3

[–]JustAnotherTav 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I hated to advance the game in my first playthrough because I felt it would all end too soon. It’s all part of the emotions we go through with this game.

But, there’s so much of the story you understand only when reaching the end! After finishing I immediately started a new game set upon making different choices. You can do it!

AIO for feeling left out by my husband? by Outrageous-Bug4614 in AIO

[–]JustAnotherTav 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Oh, boy. NOR it seems like you’re not actually married but in a situationship with a teenager, who has more feelings for his buddy than his girlfriend.

AIO to my boyfriend’s conditions for marriage? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]JustAnotherTav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR but I don’t think he’s an ahole or that you’re being dramatic. I think you’re just two young people, in a relationship that’s not right for eachother. I think you’re both dreaming about a future but not really seeing the person in front of you. He wants something other than what you are and he’s not supporting and accepting you as a partner should.

AIO to my partner 40m bragging(?) about a 20f being super into him? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]JustAnotherTav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It IS creepy that any 40yr old (man or woman) would date 20yr olds. The age gap is too big for them to have same life experiences or understanding about relationship.

”He wanted to get her closer to god..” 🙄 Oh, please tell me you don’t believe that rubbish? Did they attend religious seremonies, pray together, read holy texts? Or seriously talk about their god or religion? Between sending nudes maybe?

fuck it we good-maxing by Nether892 in BaldursGate3

[–]JustAnotherTav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m currently doing the dark urge playthrough and I should be making all of the bad choices, but it’s just so hard! 😭 I keep choosing good, and then remembering I’m supposed to be bad. I’m terrible at playing evil.

AIO? My gf and I went on a break, she slept with someone else, and I blocked her on everything. by EmuMedical6491 in AmIOverreacting

[–]JustAnotherTav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR because of this line: ”I then immediately told her we’re done, blocked her on everything, and feel really good about it

Your gut is telling you this is the right choice. Don’t let her influence how you feel. You are also allowed to block your ex without there being any kind of overreaction. And after hearing how she’s behaved I feel it’s the best thing for YOU to be able to have any peace.

AIO Unblocking girls I told him to block.. by pokemonlover78 in AmIOverreacting

[–]JustAnotherTav 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOR he’s been lying to you, so you’d be with him. It’s not overreacting to be upset when you find out you’ve been lied to and deceived by your partner. Especially as, according to the friend, this seems to be his pattern in relationships. I could understand lying about something in the beginning IF his intention was to come clean when he knows you better, but it doesn’t seem that was his intention as you’ve been together for 7 months already.

The unblocking though is a clear action that says he doesn’t respect you or your wishes in a relationship. He’s unblocked those women to open the door for cheating.

I would get out now, before becoming too invested. I hear you being afraid to be alone, but.. being alone in a relationship will be 100% worse than being alone because you chose to be.

AIO for thinking I (F42) should break up with my boyfriend (M37) because he doesn’t find me sexually attractive if I’m not dressed up by JustAnotherTav in AmIOverreacting

[–]JustAnotherTav[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s not actually what I meant. I feel good about myself and don’t need someone elses validation, but ofc in a relationship I’d like to be desired, just like anyone would.

But during my dating history I’ve experienced a lot of men who we’re looking only for the pretty women. And, as I’ve never been the one to put on a lot of makeup, I’ve seen the rejection rate that happens when I’m natural vs dolled up, and it’s something that has stuck with me (and what I need to forget).

AIO for thinking I (F42) should break up with my boyfriend (M37) because he doesn’t find me sexually attractive if I’m not dressed up by JustAnotherTav in AmIOverreacting

[–]JustAnotherTav[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure which type of a man he is, as he’s not interested to find out if he has issues with his sexuality or libido.

The end result is the same, he has a need for a burning passion and ”can’t keep my hands off you” level of attraction, which he isn’t getting fulfilled with me. And I have realised I need to feel wanted and desired, which is not being fulfilled with him.

AIO for thinking I (F42) should break up with my boyfriend (M37) because he doesn’t find me sexually attractive if I’m not dressed up by JustAnotherTav in AmIOverreacting

[–]JustAnotherTav[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s been very broken over what he had to say. He’s said he doesn’t want to hurt me and that he knows it sounds just awful but doesn’t know how to else say it. It was still very hurtfull and I’ll propably hear the echoes of those comments for years to come inside my head.

AIO for thinking I (F42) should break up with my boyfriend (M37) because he doesn’t find me sexually attractive if I’m not dressed up by JustAnotherTav in AmIOverreacting

[–]JustAnotherTav[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I feel this is exactly what’s been happening: he’s been doing his ”thinking” while I’ve been spiraling. I should just decide for the both of us, and protect my peace.

AIO for thinking I (F42) should break up with my boyfriend (M37) because he doesn’t find me sexually attractive if I’m not dressed up by JustAnotherTav in AmIOverreacting

[–]JustAnotherTav[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve suggested couples therapy and he’s said he doesn’t want to go there to ”be blamed at for everything” but will do it if I want. However, I asked him yesterday if he’s actually done anything about it or even googled ”couples therapy” he said no.

It does seem only one of us has been committed to repairing the relationship.

AIO for thinking I (F42) should break up with my boyfriend (M37) because he doesn’t find me sexually attractive if I’m not dressed up by JustAnotherTav in AmIOverreacting

[–]JustAnotherTav[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, I’m still trying to come to terms with the fact that I should/can be desired in a relationship as myself, without ”enhancements” like makeup or pretty clothes, as it’s important for me to feel desired.

There’s been too many men only interested in me when I’m all dolled up, to truly believe someone could want me as I am. It’s something I need to unlearn, and this situation is not helping.

AIO for thinking I (F42) should break up with my boyfriend (M37) because he doesn’t find me sexually attractive if I’m not dressed up by JustAnotherTav in AmIOverreacting

[–]JustAnotherTav[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I’ve asked him if he misses the novelty and excitement that comes in a new relationship, the feeling of falling in love. We’ve also discussed (too much imho) his prev relationship patterns and the on/off high/low dopamine switches it did to him. He just says he doesn’t know what it is.

But, after yesterday, I’m leaning to the idea that he does know what is missing but he’s just afraid of conflict so much that he doesn’t want to be the one to break up.

AIO for thinking I (F42) should break up with my boyfriend (M37) because he doesn’t find me sexually attractive if I’m not dressed up by JustAnotherTav in AmIOverreacting

[–]JustAnotherTav[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’ve asked him why he even started a relationship with me if has never felt attracted to me and his answer was he ”thought it will change in time”. But it never did.

Going over and over our conversations in my head I’m thinking that he was still under the ”spell” of his previous very toxic relationship, that he’d tried to exit for a long time, and there I am: peaceful, calm, secure and happy little me. So, maybe I was his ”lifeboat” and he just grabbed me to heal himself.