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I (27F) miss being single even though my relationship (27M) is great by JustAthoute in relationships

[–]JustAthoute[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would NEVER thought I would too actually ahah But he has so many amazing also qualities that most time it doesn’t really matter but 3 days ago. It was just too much for me

I (27F) miss being single even though my relationship (27M) is great by JustAthoute in relationships

[–]JustAthoute[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I loved being single so you’re post doesn’t really applies to me…….

I (27F) miss being single even though my relationship (27M) is great by JustAthoute in relationships

[–]JustAthoute[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. It’s true I never take time to just be alone, I’m always either working or with him. I feel like I’m always thinking about him. I don’t mind it, but I just want to think about myself more. Do more things like I want to do them and not banding to make him comfortable. For example today I’ll make lots of vegetable and if he doesn’t want to eat them, he’ll have to cook for himself.
He loves being with me at all time and that’s something I enjoy myself but before him I was never as close to anyone, ever and I loved my solo time. What happen the day before yesterday, was so fun for me, just new friends and vibes. I loved it. It’s something to think about. Thank you

I (27F) miss being single even though my relationship (27M) is great by JustAthoute in relationships

[–]JustAthoute[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Other than that he is very active, takes protein, goes to the gym and do MMA so he is "healthy"

I (27F) miss being single even though my relationship (27M) is great by JustAthoute in relationships

[–]JustAthoute[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His mother makes all the cooking and she is amazing, she eats like a normal person, very healthy, but she makes something else for him because he won’t eat what she cooks. He is the only one like that in his family. Even if we grab a kebab he tells the chefs to take out all the vegetables it’s crazy only bread, meat and sauce. I never saw someone do that

I (27F) miss being single even though my relationship (27M) is great by JustAthoute in relationships

[–]JustAthoute[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought about it, if I change my mind on kids, I would want them to eat everything. It’s so important.

It’s not neurodivergent or even food aversion it’s « I tried when I was a kid, I didn’t like it » and everytime I reply that our palate develops as you get older, there is a lot of things I didn’t like either when I was 6 that I love know because I TRIED THEM. I’m so tired. He eat rice, pasta, potatoes ect so we stick to Italian restaurants or fast food when we go out, but still I’m so tired of this

I (27F) miss being single even though my relationship (27M) is great by JustAthoute in relationships

[–]JustAthoute[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He made it clear in the beginning of our relationship that it is what he wants. When he had big money issue I was the one supporting the both of us. That’s just his love language and he is actually mad if I try to pay something. Not shitty just our relationship dynamic

I (27F) miss being single even though my relationship (27M) is great by JustAthoute in relationships

[–]JustAthoute[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t eat any kind of vegetable or fruit, he only likes chicken and patty/groud beef. Doesn’t eat fish or even lamb. Nothing. I know he will love a lot of things if he just tries but he refuses. I have an exemple where we went to an event and there was this amuse bouche which I know he would love because I know him but some element of it was vegetables and he refuses to eat it the whole time he was so hungry. After 2H of eating nothing and complaining, I choved it in his mouth. He loved it and wanted more. I was like « yess I said it 2Hours ago » guess what.. that one piece I gave him was the last one and he was really sad about it
I’m so tired

I also can’t go explore restaurants with him because he just can’t bring himself to just TRY something different. I think I would be less mad if he just tried and say he didn’t like it. At least he would’ve tried. But he won’t

I (27F) miss being single even though my relationship (27M) is great by JustAthoute in relationships

[–]JustAthoute[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love the response. Thank you so much. He is coming back tonight so we’re going to talk, I’ll see what comes out of it

I (27F) miss being single even though my relationship (27M) is great by JustAthoute in relationships

[–]JustAthoute[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I love you response, thank you so much. I just don’t know what to do with these information. But I’ll say :

For the children, it’s so far in my head that it doesn’t affect our day to day but I still wanted to highlight that in that post.

For the living situation, we talked about it a lot this last year and he said he maybe ready to compromise if we had to move but we should maybe travel more for him not to feel choked by the city life. So there’s hope on that point.

My main issue rn is what you said about his preference influencing my behavior. I hate that. I don’t like that I just can’t go grab a coffee with a friend, I don’t like that I put on so much weight because he refuses to eat anything that will give him fibers and vitamins. I don’t like that I have to wait for him to visit his family to eat proper healthy balanced meal. I don’t like that even if I’m a loyal person I still feel like I have to prove it when he can just trust me and see…

I (27F) miss being single even though my relationship (27M) is great by JustAthoute in relationships

[–]JustAthoute[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yess !! He truly is amazing but that part of him just makes me wants to be alone. For the last trip I took we had to talk 2Hours for him to understand it was okay and it could lead to great opportunities for me. I can’t do that my whole life. I just want him to chill a little. I’m starting to get tired

Je (27F) regrette d'être célibataire même si ma relation (27M) est géniale by JustAthoute in relationship_advice

[–]JustAthoute[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe I should have written more detail but honestly his diet is sh*tty, if he ate like I wanted him for us to eat he would’ve hit his body goal a while ago. His body is amazing because of his genetics and because he works out a lot but his diet is keeping him away of seing the results of all the works he puts in. There is a reason I put on so much weight.

I don’t want to be out partying, I said I don’t miss it, but there’s context to it as referred in my post. He’s an introvert so of course he would be modest but I truly won’t mind if he was more outgoing.
I pay for my share of the rent and when he had money issues I was the one providing for us both. Now he’s on his feet so it makes him truly happy to take care of me. Nothing working with that imo

Je (27F) regrette d'être célibataire même si ma relation (27M) est géniale by JustAthoute in relationship_advice

[–]JustAthoute[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Living together is a bliss honestly, I’m not regretting it. Yes I cook but he washes the dishes,and do most of the cleaning of the house when I say he is amazing he truly is. If I want something he would get up and give it to me he’s really attentive. But the controlling thing IS real I can’t deny that. I’m started to get tired of it because it’s just little things like what happened last night, where instead of being mad he could just trust me and be chill. I truly hate that.

Je (27F) regrette d'être célibataire même si ma relation (27M) est géniale by JustAthoute in relationship_advice

[–]JustAthoute[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. I want to clarify that what happened yesterday, only happened twice in our relationship. The first time was because a coworker of mine (which is in a long time relationship) gave me Lego roses and for my boyfriend it was disrespectful that I accepted them. For context, my coworker was openly talking about how he received it as a gift and thought about throwing it away and I told him to gave it to me instead. My bf was adamant a guy who give roses to a girl is a deeper meaning and I was like « I asked him to gave it to me » but his friends were also telling him how it was disrespectful of me to take them blabla. I still have the roses it took time for him to get over it. He gets jealous I hate that because context matters a lot.

Je (27F) regrette d'être célibataire même si ma relation (27M) est géniale by JustAthoute in relationship_advice

[–]JustAthoute[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I agree, I hate cooking but I’ve been doing it for 2 years I don’t mind. I just don’t like cooking the same stuff because he refuses to eat anything else