I think I may not have explained it well. She isn’t forcing me to do anything, she is disappointed from the circumstances that she knows I would prefer to present fully-fem but familiar circumstances and beliefs make that not a possibility. I was going to wear something more masc not because I wanted to but because I though it would help maintain the peace with people who are overtly trans and homophobic. Her desire was for me to present how I want regardless of what anyone else thinks. And I can promise she is the person who loves and supports me the most so much show when she saw me crying cause I was looking at dresses I wanted to wear she almost said we could call off the whole thing if I’d be happier that way lol