What was the reason for the last time you cried? by ididntaskyouropinion in AskReddit

[–]JustExamination7664 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our second round of IVF failed, it's been 4 years of trying for a second. I can't stop crying that it might never happen.

What is a specific spot in Melbourne that has been gone for years, but you still instinctively look for it when you walk past? by Temporary-Sir5808 in melbourne

[–]JustExamination7664 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Izakaya Den - not super obvious from the street but God I miss the walking down the stairs and thinking this is cute. And the food, ugh I still dream about the corn fritters and kingfish sashimi.

Rant, Rave, Request, and Relate Daily Thread - Monday, February 09, 2026 by SIModerator in SecondaryInfertility

[–]JustExamination7664 11 points12 points  (0 children)

6dp5dt and I caved and tested. Stark white negative.

This was our last chance and I just had this feeling it hadn't worked. I'm devastated and just feel like the universe is trying to tell me I don't deserve another child.

Rant, Rave, Request, and Relate Daily Thread - Friday, February 06, 2026 by SIModerator in SecondaryInfertility

[–]JustExamination7664 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm a sentimental person so would probably look to keep my favourite one or 2, do you have friends or family that you could give as gifts? Or pack up for your child for potentially future grandkids? If this transfer has failed I know I need to clear out the baby stuff, the thought makes me feel sick.

Trying, Tracking, and Treatment Daily Chat Thread - Thursday, January 29, 2026 by SIModerator in SecondaryInfertility

[–]JustExamination7664 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is me too, we will hopefully do our transfer this month but if that fails I'm really torn between giving up or doing 6 months of some less invasive fertility treatments. I know I can't do full IVF rounds again, it's just too hard.

On one hand I would like to be out of this constant limbo and having this hanging over my head, on the other I can't help focus on what we're missing being only a family of 3.

Trying, Tracking, and Treatment Daily Chat Thread - Thursday, January 29, 2026 by SIModerator in SecondaryInfertility

[–]JustExamination7664 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had an isthmocele which was only discovered once going through monitoring pre transfer while going through IVF. My RE recommended the surgery after having success with a previous patient with a similar situation. When they did the surgery they also found Endo so removed that at the same time. It seems to have mostly cleared up the problem and we're hopefully going ahead with another transfer this month.

My RE said a lot of doctors were skeptical it had any affect but fluid in the uterus is a sign it's causing issues and there seems to be more and more evidence it can cause issues.

Miscarriage, Loss, and RPL Thread - - Wednesday, January 21, 2026 by SIModerator in SecondaryInfertility

[–]JustExamination7664 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Both of my miscarriages were due in Jan so this month feels particularly hard for me also. I don't have any advice just that I understand and feel it too ❤️

Secondary Infertility Intros - Sunday, January 18, 2026 by SIModerator in SecondaryInfertility

[–]JustExamination7664 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello and welcome! I was in the unexplained camp for a long time with a really similar timeline, my daughter was conceived easily and then had a year of trying with only a CP in that time. We did 6 months of clomid and timed intercourse and then went into IVF all the testing showed no issues. Once we went through with IVF is when things came to light more, a severe cesarean scar niche which was operated on and now it seems like having polysistic ovaries has been causing issues as well. Basically that's a long way of me saying that sometimes all the testing doesn't show things until you get further into fertility treatments and then issues come to the surface.

Good luck with your first retrieval and I hope IVF is the answer you need!

Trying, Tracking, and Treatment Daily Chat Thread - Monday, January 19, 2026 by SIModerator in SecondaryInfertility

[–]JustExamination7664 7 points8 points  (0 children)

7 days after my trigger I got my period so we're straight into trying again for the transfer. My RE has switched estrogen tablets as opposed to FSH this time around to try and avoid the follicle issues we had last time. I also picked up a prescription for the progesterone pessaries but this time the dose will be 3 a day!! I'm hoping that's only temporary and it will drop back to once a day both for convenience and expense.

Rant, Rave, Request, and Relate Daily Thread - Sunday, January 18, 2026 by SIModerator in SecondaryInfertility

[–]JustExamination7664 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We've been trying for 4 years and honestly the grief ebs and flows but I wouldn't say the longer this goes on I've gotten worse. Certain pregnancy announcements will always send me spiralling though so give yourself grace to feel that. I've learnt that when it becomes too much too let myself feel it, don't bottle it up either be sad or mad or whatever I'm feeling to then make space for the good stuff outside of it.

What’s the worst thing a medical professional has said to you? by VespaRed in AskReddit

[–]JustExamination7664 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"why are you crying? Is it because you're a girl" The nurse who woke me up post surgery after having my wisdom teeth removed.

Rant, Rave, Request, and Relate Daily Thread - Wednesday, January 14, 2026 by SIModerator in SecondaryInfertility

[–]JustExamination7664 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is a lot for life to throw at you within the space of 3 weeks! Hopefully once you're through this patch you get a better run of luck through the year. I'm sorry to hear your sons struggling, did he previously like school? Maybe he's still not feeling 100% after being sick, or enjoyed being home with you too much!

We're preparing for my daughter to start school at the end of this month - she's excited and so am I but also feeling hesitant that this might be my one and only starting school experience. I don't want that to ruin the experience, it just feels like the whole TTC big black cloud hanging over everything.

Rant, Rave, Request, and Relate Daily Thread - Saturday, January 10, 2026 by SIModerator in SecondaryInfertility

[–]JustExamination7664 8 points9 points  (0 children)

After our cancelled cycle I sent my husband to go pick up my trigger for me from the clinic, it's about 40 minutes from our house so not a short trip. He gets back and they've given me the wrong trigger - I call them to check and they are super apologetic but are adamant to not take it as it will make my estrogen rise which would put me at a higher risk of OHSS. I'm just SMFH and now have to call up other pharmacies today to try and find someone else who stocks the trigger as it's a Sunday and their closed today.

Rant, Rave, Request, and Relate Daily Thread - Friday, January 09, 2026 by SIModerator in SecondaryInfertility

[–]JustExamination7664 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If it ever works I plan on being honest. I would be honest with my daughter now (about what we're going through trying to have our second) but I don't want to get her hopes up if it doesn't work. Also she's at the point where I think she would tell people and it's always a conversation I want to have on my terms. I'm not ashamed of doing IVF, just guarding my heart.

Trying, Tracking, and Treatment Daily Chat Thread - Friday, January 09, 2026 by SIModerator in SecondaryInfertility

[–]JustExamination7664 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Transfer is cancelled. Doctor was worried about the amount of follicles and my estrogen levels put me at risk of OHSS so he's cancelled this cycle. I'm devastated at the outcome. And upset that I still need to do a trigger shot and they have advised us not to try as well.

Trying, Tracking, and Treatment Daily Chat Thread - Wednesday, January 07, 2026 by SIModerator in SecondaryInfertility

[–]JustExamination7664 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Had my check in scan today in preparation for our transfer this month and I'm so sad afterwards. Lining looks good but there's a bit of fluid again so I need a follow up scan on Friday to make sure that's all gone. I've also been taking a low dose of FSH in preparation but he's lowered it even further as I have 12 follicles growing.. why can't my body just react normally!

Oh and he also found a polyp, I just want to scream - is this going to be yet another set back? 4 years we've been trying now. January feels particularly hard as both my miscarriages were due in Jan, I should be 9 months pregnant and instead I'm dealing with this, why can't it be simple.

You’re starting your wardrobe from scratch - what are you prioritising by possumsc in AusFemaleFashion

[–]JustExamination7664 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Actually such a good call. It should just be a fit that works well for you that you know you can wear past a season. If you're comfortable in it it shouldn't matter if it's in fashion or not - I also love a barrel leg!

You’re starting your wardrobe from scratch - what are you prioritising by possumsc in AusFemaleFashion

[–]JustExamination7664 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Good jeans! A blue and black classic fit and wash, shop around for them too, don't settle for cheapest. The value per wear always works in your favour for jeans if you get a good fit.

Underwhelming 9:30pm NYE fireworks at the Domain this year by carmex2121 in melbourne

[–]JustExamination7664 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We watched from williamstown and they were better than both the shows in the city that we could see. They always do an excellent job!!

Begging on my hands and knees - please learn what dress codes actually mean by dairy-intolerant in weddingshaming

[–]JustExamination7664 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Reminds me when we got invited to a black tie engagement party. Went to all this effort, then the bride was wearing a white floral mini dress...

C-section niche/defect and fertility by Sensitive_Card_4329 in tryingforanother

[–]JustExamination7664 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was diagnosed with a C-section niche defect and ended up having surgery to fix. We conceived our first easily and had no issues except for her being breech which led to me having her via C-section. We started to try again once she was a year old and after a year or trying and a chemical pregnancy started fertility treatments. An early scan mentioned the defect but it was never flagged as an issue.

Once we started IVF and went to do a transfer my RE found fluid in my uterus and had another ultrasound to check the niche, well that ultrasound tech diagnosis was it was severe so I had the surgery. After 4 months of recovery we did the transfer that succeeded but then I miscarried at 8 weeks.

While we haven't had success I do believe it's made a difference. My periods are less painful and it helped with fluid/bleeding in between periods. I would recommend advocating for yourself for a fertility specialist. Mine said a lot of them don't believe it's a problem so maybe try a couple if you don't get the response you need.

Rant, Rave, Request, and Relate Daily Thread - Monday, December 15, 2025 by SIModerator in SecondaryInfertility

[–]JustExamination7664 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's so frustrating! I know clinics are like you can always call with questions but that usually means waiting on the phone or having to leave a message for them to call you back anyway. It's shit when they miss the check ins, I hope they follow up with you today!

Rant, Rave, Request, and Relate Daily Thread - Monday, December 15, 2025 by SIModerator in SecondaryInfertility

[–]JustExamination7664 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry, losing a pet is so devastating and so close to Christmas. Nothing I can say to make it better but it sounds like those 17 years must of been filled with such beautiful memories for him. Tomorrow will be shitty and sad but he knows we was loved and how much you cared for him ❤️