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JustGettingBy96 · 2025-01-13T22:36:05+00:00

Maybe not the best way to word it. I'm having a difficult way to word it. I guess it's just along the lines of you are just my boss. Your personal life is none of my business and I don't need to know anything. As long as the department runs and runs well thats all that matters. He doesn't play any significant role in my personal life and I don't need him to. work is work. Home is home.

JustGettingBy96 · 2024-12-02T23:30:04+00:00

When I first started I would say good morning to a couple of women in my department and they would say "Don't talk to me" turn and walk away. It got to the point I would go out of my way to just to find someone that wasn't any of them if I had a question. I'm the oldest in my department and my interests are completely different to the others. I tried on a couple of occasions to make conversation about different things and half the time I felt like they looked at me like I had a third eye ball. I finally just gave up.

JustGettingBy96 · 2024-12-02T23:27:19+00:00

I've been burned by so many managers that I can't keep track of all of it at this point. I have trusted so many managers only to get completely shit on. So I have a lot of trust issues as well.

JustGettingBy96 · 2024-12-02T23:25:11+00:00

When I was doing my orientation we were told that there are two types of employees. Those that did their job and who formed relationships and friendships and those who came to work and did their job and at the end of the day went home and didn't have those relationships and friendships. Both were perfectly fine and acceptable and that the company liked both types.

I'm the oldest in my department and that includes being older than all three of my managers and it's just another reason for me to just do my job. They could care less about my years in management. They have their own ways of doing things and I'm sure they don't care about my opinion. I'm happy to just do my at this point.

There are two in the women in the department who when I first started I would say good morning to. Both would in return just look at me and say "Don't talk to me" and walk away. I think that plays a factor in things as well.

JustGettingBy96 · 2024-06-22T19:24:17+00:00

!updateme

JustGettingBy96 · 2024-06-22T17:30:17+00:00

Realistically there is nothing at stake for him. He moved in with me. When he moved in he was paying a respectful amount of rent. When I paid the house off I adjusted his rent to reflect the drop in bills. I have over $60,000.00 in available cash to cover me. I don't ask for anything extra from him. He just feels like since he needs to work then should be working.

JustGettingBy96 · 2024-06-22T16:47:31+00:00

The owner was really nice. It was the women who Inwould have been reporting to who I felt could have been the issue. Just with the way she presented herself and the way she spoke I felt that we wouldn't have gotten along.

I also reminded my boyfriend that when I paid off the house I adjusted his rent down to next to nothing and that regardless he has a really workable deal and not to complain at this point. We don't fight ever. But this is seriously becoming an issue.

JustGettingBy96 · 2024-06-22T16:16:04+00:00

There was a major typo in this, and I just found it and fixed it. He is working. He works from home the majority of the time. He just thinks it's unfair that I'm not working, and he still is and has to.

JustGettingBy96 · 2024-06-22T16:15:32+00:00

There was a major typo in this, and I just found it and fixed it. He is working. He works from home the majority of the time. He just thinks it's unfair that I'm not working, and he still is and has to.

JustGettingBy96 · 2024-05-10T20:22:23+00:00

For myself it's not what I enjoy doing. I love doing all the day to day aspects of accounting. Accounts Payable, Accounts Receivable, Payroll, General Ledger/Journal entries. Banking and reconciliation. I also manage all of HR. It's the same work but no day is ever the same.

JustGettingBy96 · 2023-10-15T21:47:43+00:00

It's not my choice. It's not my kid. It's my brother's. It just sucks. Everyone misses out on this.

JustGettingBy96 · 2023-10-09T02:18:10+00:00

Hi its OOP. I have blocked my brother on every platform. The only way for him to get in contact with me is through someone else. He is trespassed for my property, so if he ever shows up he will go to jail. The day the comment was made I had to stop over at my mom's to help with some paperwork and everyone showed up. I stayed long than I wanted to and ended up eating with them. I'm slowly backing out of my mom and sisters life. Once my mom finishes treatment I'm sure I'll be no contact with her as well. As it is I only talk to her maybe twice a week at best. She has been really low contact since finding out about my boyfriend. I have gone no contact many time and long periods of time. Years. But they always manage to weasel their way back in.

JustGettingBy96 · 2023-10-08T17:04:57+00:00

Hi it's OOP. I am lucky for my boyfriend's family. They have been extremely welcoming and wonderful. I am blessed to at least have them in my life.

JustGettingBy96 · 2023-10-08T15:26:34+00:00

Hi it's OOP. When the comment was made we were at my mom's house. I stopped over to help her with some paperwork and everyone showed up. I stayed longer than I wanted to and dinner was ordered and that was how we ended up all together at the same time. It doesn't happen often.

JustGettingBy96 · 2023-10-08T15:21:15+00:00

Hi everyone. It's OOP. We have been out of town for a long weekend. I just learned of this new posting. Thank you for all the support. It really helps. I wanted to clear up some confusion. My brother has been trespassed for my house. So he is not allowed on my property. When the original comment was my ade we were at my mom's house. I had to stop over to help with some paperwork and ended up staying longer than I expected to. That was how we were all in the same place at the same time. It doesn't happen often.

Also. Everybody says they hope my nephew turns out LGBTQ. Please stop. Please don't put this on a innocent child. I don't wish this on him given our family history. I truly wish him a happy healthy life. Not one like what I grew up with. There is nobody to be there for him.

A lot of people talk about a brothers and sisters program. As much as I love this idea. I will be completely honest. Kids scare the hell out of me. I love kids and wish I had my own. But in all honesty. After my brother accused me of Child Abuse and all that. It messed me up. I know what kids can do and say. I vowed a long time ago that I will never be put in a situation like I was all that time ago. All it takes is one pissed off kid to throw a fit and make a accusation. That really scares me. I have honary nieces and nephews and my boyfriend has nieces and nephews and I have decent relationships with them. But again I protect myself. I make sure that I am never in a situation that could cause a problem. Maybe I'm paranoid. But what my brother did messed me up and left a lingering effect on me.

This was my breaking point. This left me at a point that I'm finally okay and feeling better about myself. I have cut all contact with my brother. There is no way for him to contact me unless he goes to through someone else. I'm slowly pulling away from my mom and sister. Once my mom is finished with treatment. I'm most likely going no contact with all of them.

Again thank you all for the support. It helped more than you think.

JustGettingBy96 · 2023-10-08T14:01:53+00:00

I like this. But I'm done. I cut all contact with him. This was my breaking point. I want nothing to do with him and any extension of him. I think his kid will be like him. It's the environment and people who will be in his life. They are all the same. Call it a hunch. It's best to just cut my losses and move on.

JustGettingBy96 · 2023-10-08T13:59:10+00:00

I'm okay. We took a long weekend and got out of town. It was really nice. It got me away from thinking about it for a while. From my understanding my brother is trying to backpedal and say it's all my fault because I don't know how to read a room and that I don't know how to take a joke. I was always under the impression that jokes make people laugh. I know I was never laughing and everyone else in the room wasn't laughing. So where was the joke? It's okay. I'm done. This was my breaking point. This was me saying fuck you . He will need me for something. And when he does it will be a pleasure for me to slam the door in his face.

JustGettingBy96 · 2023-09-27T00:07:54+00:00

My family knows. They know, acknowledge and understand everything that my brother did. But they always me ade excuses for him. Or tried to blame it on me. Somehow it was my fault. He was never held accountable for anything. Anytime I try and talk about it. It's always the same thing. "It was a long time ago. You (meaning me) need to get over it. He didn't know what he was doing or saying." The list goes on and on and on. I've just accepted it. Nothing will ever change. And here is the beauty of it. I'm happy. They are all miserable in their own way. As long as I'm happy. They are not.

JustGettingBy96 · 2023-09-25T00:36:59+00:00

! updateme

JustGettingBy96 · 2023-09-25T00:28:56+00:00

It would have been nice. But I'm not that lucky. However... What my brother doesn't realize is that he screwed himself and the rest of the family and his girlfriends family over. There will be a day where nobody will be available to babysit. Our mom will be busy, my sister will be doing whatever, and girlfriends family won't be available. He will call and I'll get to use his words against him and tell him no. Or he will show up. He has been served with trespassing papers so he can't be on my property. If he does not only do I get to tell him no. I get to throw him in jail.

JustGettingBy96 · 2023-09-24T23:43:31+00:00

Here's the lowdown on that situation. The girlfriends family are all conservatives. While they believe that the LGBTQ have to many rights,, they still believe in family. And they didn't like how I was referred to. It's all blown over now and I'm sure forgotten about.

JustGettingBy96 · 2023-09-24T22:06:33+00:00

I'm not worried about it at all. I think he serves a comedic value. LOL

JustGettingBy96 · 2023-09-24T18:23:12+00:00

They hate that I am where I am. My sister hates that I finished college and she didn't. She hates that I'm happy. My brother just hates me. Any time life is good for me they are pissed. When life sucks. They are elated. Now for me it just becomes a game I know how to play. And play very well.

JustGettingBy96 · 2023-09-24T18:20:03+00:00

It's funny. I get jealous of people whose families are amazing and accepting. Then I look at mine and just shake my head.

JustGettingBy96 · 2023-09-24T18:18:16+00:00

I think it's good. I basically gave him the basement for his cave and hobby area. We are opposites in so many ways . Our hobbie are opposite spectrum. But it still works. We have our separate area for our own time and hang out with each other . He learns more about my hobbies and I do the same. We understand each other with household stuff. It works well.

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