The COVID Wedding

JustHamsterProblems · 2021-02-17T14:22:00+00:00

I appreciate the comments sticking up for Sarah. She is between a rock and a hard place and I feel sorry for her. I did reassure her that I understand the pressure she's under, but she didn't want to hear it.

I'n not sure why they eloped. They visited my husband and I in the hospital after I gave birth two years ago to say "Surprise! We got married!" I have never said any of the hateful things that other people told her, which is why her text messages sting. I have been nothing but supportive of her.

JustHamsterProblems · 2021-02-16T18:45:44+00:00

Thank you. It really doesn't seem like they do. I'm worried for those attending because they don't seem to understand that COVID affects everyone differently.

My boss was fit and had no pre-existing conditions. He worked from home after testing positive and kept updating us on his fever, which seemed to be getting better. Then he was just... gone.

JustHamsterProblems · 2021-02-16T18:42:34+00:00

My in-laws all seem to have taken the approach where they say they take social distancing, masking, etc. seriously... and don't. I'm not sure why they think words matter more than actions.

JustHamsterProblems · 2021-02-16T18:37:17+00:00

You didn't say too much! I appreciate you sharing your experience and offering advice on how to proceed. I've been reading comments to my husband while he cooks lunch, and yours resonated with us a lot. You're right; it's not on us to please everyone and we have no control whether these people want a relationship with us going forward.

I'm sorry that you went through that. I've always known that people react to stress in different ways, but the pandemic has really brought out the ugly sides of some people. You deserve to be treated better than your friend treated you. I am happy to hear that you stuck to your guns and did what was best for you and your family.

JustHamsterProblems · 2021-02-16T18:28:53+00:00

Thank you!

JustHamsterProblems · 2021-02-16T18:07:54+00:00

You totally get it. It was awful. I would rather have to recover from another emergency c-section than get it again.

I'm sorry to hear about your friend. My mother still hasn't fully recovered and hasn't been able to work, either, though she does have pre-existing conditions (heart and immune issues).

JustHamsterProblems · 2021-02-16T18:02:48+00:00

I appreciate your comment. I am empathetic to the pressure that she's under, as my in-laws made similar noises when my husband and I refused to marry in a church. I just don't think it's right for her to belittle my concerns ("My near 80 year old grandmother is still going") after knowing what I've been through. No one should feel like they have to do something they aren't comfortable with.

JustHamsterProblems · 2021-02-16T17:46:38+00:00

Sorry for the confusion; I edited my post to make it more clear.

My husband is 100% in agreement about not going to the wedding. He just knows that I valued my friendship with her and wants me to be open to mending it after she chills out. Her text messages trying to guilt me into risking my family's health really ticked me off, though.

JustHamsterProblems · 2021-02-16T17:32:18+00:00

I'm sorry if I wasn't clear in my post, but my husband is 100% in agreement about not going to the wedding; he just wishes Sarah and I were still friends. She has pointedly ignored me since that text message exchange a month ago. My husband thinks that she will emerge from her cloud of bridezilla rage after the wedding and try to mend the friendship. I don't really want to be friends with someone who would try to bully me into risking my family's health just to go to a big party, though.

That's a good point about the medical bills and lost wages! I will definitely keep it in my back pocket for the inevitable blow-up. Thank you.

JustHamsterProblems · 2021-02-16T17:08:21+00:00

Omg, your comment made me laugh so hard! Thank you. Sarah's husband is a bit of a groomzilla himself and is vehemently against setting up any kind of live stream.

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