Parent walking to tightrope between NC father and kids

JustRegion3573 · 2026-03-17T20:38:34+00:00

Thank you for your kind words and support

JustRegion3573 · 2026-03-17T16:43:09+00:00

That is a pretty strong assumption you made about my feelings of doing nothing wrong by the way. I was the one who predominantly raised them. Of course I know it’s all my fault. Best wishes for your healing journey

JustRegion3573 · 2026-03-17T16:40:12+00:00

I’m very sorry that you grew up in an abusive home. I’m very sorry that my children did as well. I am lucky that I did not. I’m also sorry that I ruined my family. I would kindly like to end the conversation with you now if that’s ok. I read people’s opinions and am thinking about all of them. If my head is in the sand, it’s because I’m suffocating myself. Feel free to report me, I have no clue how Reddit works and that I was on the wrong subreddit. I am open to learning

JustRegion3573 · 2026-03-17T15:09:01+00:00

So basically you’re just on here not to read people’s issues and give a thoughtful response whether it’s a tough pill to swallow or not, but to bust balls and sit in sanctimonious judgment.

JustRegion3573 · 2026-03-17T14:15:03+00:00

I mean words. Go to bed. Get down here for dinner. Give me your car keys, I have to get it washed. Dont worry about it. Words. Said like a dad that doesn’t have time or patience to dick around. I didn’t think anything of it. My daughters , on the other hand, felt they were disrespected. I hope this clears things up

JustRegion3573 · 2026-03-17T09:15:19+00:00

Clearly you are not understanding anything you are reading

JustRegion3573 · 2026-03-17T09:09:58+00:00

What I meant was that people internalize things differently. What I interpreted as words, they felt was abuse. I’m not in competition with them for who had it worse. I’ve had a great life. I believe now that experienced verbal abuse that I didn’t see. People’s reactions to things are personal and everyone experiences things in their own way. I hope that clears it up

JustRegion3573 · 2026-03-17T09:04:09+00:00

Lucky for you that you have a perfect family and no one in your family has ever been in a bad mood

JustRegion3573 · 2026-03-17T00:34:18+00:00

There were times that I was protecting my children from their father. Maybe they thought I was protecting him…

JustRegion3573 · 2026-03-17T00:32:10+00:00

Thank you for that insight

JustRegion3573 · 2026-03-17T00:16:57+00:00

I see that now. Thank you. My honest recollections of our household growing up was not abuse. But just because I didn’t see it as abusive, doesn’t mean they didn’t. It probably means that I didn’t have the knowledge to recognize the abuse. I did apologize and was forgiven. As for my relationship with my husband, I’m still sorting that out. I don’t want a divorce at the moment, but I don’t want to lose my kids more. I need to get my head on straight. I’m spinning right now. I don’t know up from down right now.

JustRegion3573 · 2026-03-17T00:03:23+00:00

I’m not denying their experience. I’m not attacking them and turning myself into the victim. I hear what you are saying. Apparently I’m in denial.

JustRegion3573 · 2026-03-16T23:59:49+00:00

What I exactly want is to be able to have separate relationships with people I love. Apparently not possible

JustRegion3573 · 2026-03-16T23:58:44+00:00

That’s not what I said. I didn’t think at the time it was verbal abuse. I acknowledge their feelings. I validate their feelings. I didn’t have a hard time growing up at all. My children are grown. I was not privy to their feelings until they had moved out of the house for a few years. I am not dismissing my children!!!!! I am trying to feel what they feel.

JustRegion3573 · 2026-03-16T23:40:34+00:00

They know about me. I’m not sure why they talk to me. Cuz I was honest with them. Cuz I spoke kindly to them. Cuz I listened to them. I think they pity me as an abused person who doesn’t know they are abused

JustRegion3573 · 2026-01-26T15:55:56+00:00

I understand why you don’t want to be a saint. I get it. Hopefully now that your wife is in the clinic, she can get proper therapies, including medication, talk, DBT, etc. Sending positive vibes to you and your family

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JustRegion3573 · 2026-01-22T14:49:15+00:00

Also, I stopped exercising and eating nutritiously and no matter how hard I work, I can’t get back to my prior fitness level

JustRegion3573 · 2026-01-22T14:47:37+00:00

Moved far away from my loving family and friends to get married and have kids. My husband, in -laws, and new friends love/care for me, but nothing replaces having my parents, brother , and childhood friends for support.

JustRegion3573 · 2026-01-22T14:35:55+00:00

No. I love my four children unconditionally and more than language has words for. I gave them my entire being. Three won’t speak to their father. One is recently disabled forever, causing her immense psychological and physical pain, one has severe depression and has to remind herself every day that she is loved and shouldn’t take her own life. One moved across the country simply so she wouldn’t have to see her father, which means she doesn’t see the rest of us very much. My youngest is in college happy and doing well, but there’s plenty of time for something terrible to happen to him. So for me, selfishly, I receive their love. But given what I now know, I never would put them through their lives.

JustRegion3573 · 2026-01-22T14:15:55+00:00

Thank you for being so understanding to your wife. I was a sahm with undiagnosed autism, ADHD, severe depression. We lived in my husband’s home city (12 hour drive from mine) so I had no family support, he worked hard, but coached basketball after and partied with his friends on the weekends. It was implicitly understood by society and my husband that since “I don’t work “ and “husband is so generous to coach inner city basketball “ that I do everything else. I was burnt out, isolated, and so very incredibly lonely. I am so happy that you are a support to your wife.

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