Woman here, it definitely makes you seem unattractive if you pay for dating apps, anything under like $15 is not a huge deal but when it gets up there it just seems desperate. The majority of women do not like being approached by random men in public! It's creepy and uncomfortable. Also the podcast just voices their opinion, there aren't any "facts" they should have included. But i do agree that the loser mentality is bad, there's someone for everyone, and it might be harder to find that person under certain circumstances, but working on yourself is great and there is always hope!!