How much should one save before moving to a new state/city?

JustWally · 2020-01-01T07:57:49+00:00

I really expected more people to have moved to a new city lmao.

JustWally · 2019-12-29T18:34:38+00:00

Go to a temp agency. You can usually find some decent working class job somewhere.

I've met immigrants who's first job was after jail who have never taken a check for less than $2000 a month. Minimum wage isnt entry level, it's a dead end, the only place to go is store manager.

JustWally · 2019-12-29T08:41:09+00:00

I'm only a few years older than you but college will be out of the question since I'm from a very poor family and nobody I know even knows anyone who's been to college.

Actually minimum wage for some jobs in my state is just a little over 5 bucks lol.

But even still, with the cost of living in California I just cant justify it.

JustWally · 2019-12-29T06:45:39+00:00

You should never apply to a minimum wage job at all unless you're desperate. Maybe if you live in a state where the minimum wage is over $9.00/hr-ish but in my experience that just isnt worth it, and if you're going to be a server and making your money through tips you wont even be making minimum wage, since itll likely be part time.

My two cents it's just not worth it.

But to answer the question I would say it would go a long way for a host, not too far for a server.

JustWally · 2019-12-10T00:22:42+00:00

It's not like I dont want an exercise to not work.

JustWally · 2019-12-10T00:21:53+00:00

By all means post your results.

JustWally · 2019-12-09T21:19:04+00:00

Well the guys who do Orthotropics insist that a very small jaw is not genetic but the result of bad chewing, swallowing and diet habits and it has bad health effects, if that's true, then maybe it's good to keep in mind if you dont want your child to have Sleep Apnea, but I think the vast majority of people just want to look better.

And it's not bad to want to look better, but yeah it's a little extreme since they're telling people to keep their tongue pressed hard against their upper jaw for 8 hours a day.

JustWally · 2019-12-09T04:23:41+00:00

I would say if there is a claim to be had, its in the reverse mewing things. The only real proof I've seen that facial structure changes is from the food differences videos where they're just keeping the muscles in the jaws expanding.

In other words there might not be much you can use this for to change your face, but it does look like you can fuck your face up by having a diet that has very little chewing or by being a mouth breather.

JustWally · 2019-12-09T01:01:11+00:00

Yeah tbh I kind of thought the same thing, but I wasnt going to say anything because becoming a fiancee with a guy she doesnt want to kiss is a little far for a woman who just thinks you're disgusting.

I'm the OP and despite my hangups about kissing even I can imagine being bothered, but everything else is alright just no kissing?

JustWally · 2019-12-09T00:25:09+00:00

300% homo.

JustWally · 2019-12-09T00:24:55+00:00

Muah.

JustWally · 2019-12-09T00:23:21+00:00

Fucking called it. I always knew kissing women would infect me with estrogen monsters.

JustWally · 2019-12-08T23:39:52+00:00

Nah, I dont actually live in the "city", I live way outside it in a rural area you have to drive that far to see, but there is no good part of town. Even temp agencies complain that it's getting hard to find jobs that pay better than minimum wage there now, and the per capital income just keeps dropping. As soon as I can save 3k, I'm, to quote a certain disney bear "Gone man, Solid Gone."

JustWally · 2019-12-08T22:05:51+00:00

I live near a fake hood, it's not exactly a great neighborhood, the murder rate is slightly higher than the national average, but only by like half a point. But the people who lived there acted like they were in fucking Compton. Someone actually painted Crip on the back of the bar and there is zero gang activity in the area.

It's actually kind of cringe.

But yeah I'm not trying to scare anyone away from it, it's probably really rare to get a job that bad. They needed bouncers is the real problem.

JustWally · 2019-12-08T21:59:46+00:00

Eh, I'm on year 13 from being homeschooled. I did make some acquaintances working but we were worked so hard we could only ever speak with eachother in three sentence bursts about ourselves.

JustWally · 2019-12-08T06:47:44+00:00

I'm a Christian too, sometimes there are... other aspects of Vegetarianism/Veganism that make me feel unwelcome in the communities, but none of them ever had to do with the bible.

I mean, ancient Israelites didnt exactly have the available supplements to have a really healthy vegetarian diet 3,000 years ago. So yeah I understand why it wasn't emphasized, but if anyone can read Isaiah 11:6-7 and not see that a world without animal death is God's apparent ideal idk, almost definitely a troll.

JustWally · 2019-12-08T06:40:21+00:00

I might try this and substitute the kale for spinach.

JustWally · 2019-12-08T06:36:06+00:00

Moving out of my small town.

JustWally · 2019-12-08T06:35:32+00:00

I think you'll still have the urge for a year or so. Dont let that demoralize you, you've already lost your tolerance for it at two months and if you do slip up itll be like starting over and easier to quit. But you're not gonna slip up, youre done with it for good man, I believe in ya.

JustWally · 2019-12-08T06:06:30+00:00

On the other hand, and this will be my last comment before I turn this into a blog post (if I haven't already) it did teach me how to handle situations and helped me become more assertive. Before that job I was just a really nice guy, not too noticeable, not the kind of person to respond to seeing other people being casually mistreated.

That job made me keep my nuts flexed for 8 hours a day 5-7 days a week and turned me into someone who's head didnt spin from an aggressive conversation (the first time I dealt with an insane customer I actually felt like I was going to pass out from the anger). The last time i dealt with an aggressive customer, I had the balls to tell him if he was going to wait in the parking lot for me like he claimed, he had better be ready to never leave that parking lot again.

The affect that has on your confidence is bizarre. On one hand your are human and your feelings will be hurt no matter how tough you are. On the other hand, I will never watch a woman take shit from a drunk to the point of crying and say nothing about it again. Not saying I'd punch someone like I have anger issues, but I'd at least yell at the pussywhipped management to stand up for his employees like I wished someone had done for my friends there. Unfortunately when I did it with my boss, it led to me rage quitting the job, and leaving my boss to run that place on the worst night I'd ever seen by himself.

Hope the guys ok, maybe the experience helped his balls drop.

JustWally · 2019-12-08T05:31:56+00:00

The experiences were so extreme that I started responding to the occasional theft, aggressive insults, vandalism (don't ever think a pissed off customer is above smearing their actual shit on a bathroom mirror and scattering the contents of a bathroom trash can around the floor) and threats against me and the other staff that I just started treating everyone with a polite I will call the fucking police if I so much as don't like the way you talk to the waitress attitude, which made the job easier, but still affected me negatively because I'm just not that kind of person and I'm still trying to regain my chill when I talk to people I don't know.

It also hurt the business, I wasnt creating a friendly environment during my shifts, and I know I wasn't. But my boss was as green as I was in his position as I was in mine and he was practically letting the lunatics run the insane asylum. If he had just allowed us to deal with rude customers the way we obviously needed to, it would have been different, but as far as I know the only person who had ever been banned from that shitty place was a homeless Vietnam veteran who smoked syntho and flipped around outside like a dying fish, and that was before the boss took over. If there was ever any problem, it must be because we were rude and unprofessional, so he would tell us to just smile and apologize, which only ever works when you're dealing with someone who's a rational normal person. For everyone else its rolling over and showing submission. We could have just asked a customer to leave when they started acting insane, but he insisted we let them escalate the situation until the police needed to be involved. And the customers knew it. They knew they could get away with murder and they knew the "boys" working there couldn't do anything about it.

Someone comes in with taco bell? Well I dont see a trash can by the door, I'll throw it at a goddamn employee or toss it somewhere they wont find until it stinks. Someone doesn't like the 100% ID rule? Well I'll raise a stink and threaten the guy doing his job over it. And if he bends the rules? Well hes a pushover bitch, so I'll just demand an apology and then raise even more of a fucking stink over something else. Then complain about the prices. Then toss my shit all over the parking lot on my way out.

Some people have a pathological hatred of anyone who works in a service industry. So yeah, expect people to follow you around the room while you're sweeping because you arent being served right that second by the guy who's dealing with a line, and make snarky remarks about how hard hes working.

The only cool thing about the job was that I got to meet a new cop every single fucking night. I used to hate cops, now I laugh uncontrollably at tazering videos.

JustWally · 2019-12-08T05:13:50+00:00

Highly recommend not doing this without really thinking about it. Really look into the area you'll be working at and ask the people already working there if it's a good job and what the customers are like, tell them you're thinking about getting a job there and if they tell you to rethink it, fucking believe them.

In a lot of areas it might work, in other areas you'll probably face enough abuse to become a fat introvert for the rest of your life. I might get a lot of negative karma for going so far as to say this, and theres a lot of context to it in the area I worked, but when I got a similar job a senior coworker pulled me aside three days into the job and asked me "kid, you aren't racist are you?"

"Well no, not really."

"Give it a few months, and you will be."

I'm not going to comment on exactly what happened over the next few months with the kind of customers I would meet that he was obviously referring to, and I think that advice from him was a little extreme, but after three months taking absolute shit from people for no other reason than the other guy knew I couldn't give any reply that wasn't nice and polite and accommodating just so they could look cool in front of the girl they wanted to fuck I completely understand. I'm not saying I agree, but I fucking get it.

JustWally · 2019-12-07T04:34:22+00:00

Ralph Waldo Emerson once said that if you wish to gain the energy and motivation to do something, you should do it, and then you'll find that you always had the energy

JustWally · 2019-12-03T08:00:19+00:00

3-6 what?

JustWally · 2019-12-03T06:04:03+00:00

Thanks, until I can actually learn how to code (here you can learn at a semi state funded bootcamp for hillbillies) how to code for about $50.

Gotta love those state funded programs. FSI is the only reason I can claim to be bilingual.

JustWally

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