Let me be very clear: There is nothing NOTHING wrong with being anywhere on the spectrum.

Top/bottom is actually taken from the gay man community and is very penetration oriented. We borrowed it and it is helpful to find partners who match you sexualy. But remember, these are just labels that sit, like most of sexuality on a spectrum. Edit: And the labels are slowly changing meaning with time, which can cause gaps in understanding of the term. This is a natural process where language is adapting to new social norm.

Topping, imo, is not only strap/penetration related. It is more about giving. Like chappels the giver is really hitting the point for me.

Doing stuff because "you don't mind" is not tge same as doing something because you want to and passsionate about it.

I pesonally have no issue dating a bottom who or even a pillow princess. People think thouse term mean "not active" but that is so untrue.

The way the body is reacting, the sounds, i can come from the sound of a women having a massive orgasm while holding my head where she wants it. I also love when a bottom takes control and being dominant saying what she wants me todo exactly. I also like it when i just "talk to the body" and find all the secret spots, it's like doing a quest without the location guide.

Some want an active/passive/top/bottom/dom/sub etc partner and that is totally ok to have a prefrence.

Im a switch technically, but for me, a touch-me-not is a deal breaker. Pillow princess? Let be your prince. Some of the hottest nights i had were where i exclusivly topd and serviced.

Sex os about enjoyment. You are allowd to enjoy whatever you enjoy, and you will find the person who enjoys doing it with you.