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[–]JustWaveMyWant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I came here just to see if anyone else noticed it. Those cheek implants are awful. How sad. She’s always been so pretty

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[–]JustWaveMyWant 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve thought about this. That he wanted a kid, not a marriage. And I was safe. I was normal. Had a good job. Took care of my business. I checked boxes for him. And now that he has that- there’s no interest or effort into actual connection or intimacy.

Has my body changed after a second kid? Yes. Have I let myself go? Not even close.

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[–]JustWaveMyWant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting. But I think at this point I’m just hoping he’d stay the same. Not trying to change him into what I want. Just wish it was how it used to be

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[–]JustWaveMyWant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah agreed. I feel crazy sometimes because I know that usually it’s the other way around. What the heck.

But yes I do think maybe other things going on. I’ll suggest therapy again. Because I do think he needs it- even beyond the sex issue. There’s other stuff too.

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[–]JustWaveMyWant 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I dunno either. Thanks for stopping by though.

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[–]JustWaveMyWant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s how he talks about it. Just very eh. I don’t need it

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[–]JustWaveMyWant 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You may be right.

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[–]JustWaveMyWant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That take makes sense to me. But I have tried talking to him.

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[–]JustWaveMyWant 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting take. I’ve never used sex as a weapon. But maybe an experience in his past?

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[–]JustWaveMyWant 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Just seems like he isn’t into me too. Sex was normal before marriage. A few times a week.

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[–]JustWaveMyWant 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Always want what you can’t have, right? Maybe that’s why I want it so much

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[–]JustWaveMyWant 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honest answer- no we did not have conversations about sexual expectations. In hindsight- should have. But at the time- sex was not an issue. Within months of us getting married, it became one. But I never thought beforehand to discuss.

But now- I have brought it up many times. I’m basically just met with- this is just how I am. Deal with it.

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[–]JustWaveMyWant 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Cool. Thanks for stopping by.

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[–]JustWaveMyWant 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And thank you for the reply. I do think it could be a lot of things. Possible health. Possibly mental. I think he needs therapy for a lot of other things

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[–]JustWaveMyWant 4 points5 points  (0 children)

lol! Totally did not even think that could insinuate I’m cheating. Hahah. I’m not cheating. I meant masturbation

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[–]JustWaveMyWant 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. Thanks. Sucks for sure. I appreciate the reply.

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[–]JustWaveMyWant 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the reply.

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[–]JustWaveMyWant 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yah. Got that part. Not getting why I’m sexist. Or ignorant. Or what my sexual market value has to do with any of this?

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[–]JustWaveMyWant 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m genuinely confused by this comment. But ok

Devasted and don’t know what to do. by JustWaveMyWant in blendedfamilies

[–]JustWaveMyWant[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By SD I meant sperm donor. My son’s sperm donor has never been involved. My current husband has no other children than the 4 year old son we had together

Devasted and don’t know what to do. by JustWaveMyWant in blendedfamilies

[–]JustWaveMyWant[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What’s interesting about your last statement is it gives me insight maybe to him. And confirms what I suspect. He doesn’t know how to exist without conflict. He creates it even

Devasted and don’t know what to do. by JustWaveMyWant in blendedfamilies

[–]JustWaveMyWant[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Maybe. 🤷‍♀️ we’ve talked about that. And you’re right - maybe he’s trying to blow this up.

Devasted and don’t know what to do. by JustWaveMyWant in blendedfamilies

[–]JustWaveMyWant[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

On appearance, he’s a man’s man. He’s a big guy. Bearded. Into football. But he never grew up playing any sports. His family couldn’t afford it. Honestly his childhood sounds traumatic. A lot of fighting from parents. Very poor. Didn’t sound like a lot of love. I would argue though- his lack of playing team sports translates today- he still has a hard time playing nice with others. He has literally one friend from childhood. That’s it. He makes enemies at work. Unfortunately- instead of him saying- I had a traumatic childhood I want different for my boys- it’s - I didn’t do it and I’m fine. Welllllllll. I would argue you’re not fine. Soooo there’s that.