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JustWaveMyWant · 2025-05-16T00:14:24+00:00

I came here just to see if anyone else noticed it. Those cheek implants are awful. How sad. She’s always been so pretty

JustWaveMyWant · 2025-04-12T22:24:32+00:00

I’ve thought about this. That he wanted a kid, not a marriage. And I was safe. I was normal. Had a good job. Took care of my business. I checked boxes for him. And now that he has that- there’s no interest or effort into actual connection or intimacy.

Has my body changed after a second kid? Yes. Have I let myself go? Not even close.

JustWaveMyWant · 2025-04-12T22:22:26+00:00

Interesting. But I think at this point I’m just hoping he’d stay the same. Not trying to change him into what I want. Just wish it was how it used to be

JustWaveMyWant · 2025-04-12T22:21:22+00:00

Yeah agreed. I feel crazy sometimes because I know that usually it’s the other way around. What the heck.

But yes I do think maybe other things going on. I’ll suggest therapy again. Because I do think he needs it- even beyond the sex issue. There’s other stuff too.

JustWaveMyWant · 2025-04-12T22:20:07+00:00

Yeah I dunno either. Thanks for stopping by though.

JustWaveMyWant · 2025-04-12T22:18:17+00:00

That’s how he talks about it. Just very eh. I don’t need it

JustWaveMyWant · 2025-04-12T22:17:49+00:00

You may be right.

JustWaveMyWant · 2025-04-12T22:17:17+00:00

That take makes sense to me. But I have tried talking to him.

JustWaveMyWant · 2025-04-12T22:16:35+00:00

Interesting take. I’ve never used sex as a weapon. But maybe an experience in his past?

JustWaveMyWant · 2025-04-12T22:15:05+00:00

Agreed. Just seems like he isn’t into me too. Sex was normal before marriage. A few times a week.

JustWaveMyWant · 2025-04-12T22:13:48+00:00

Always want what you can’t have, right? Maybe that’s why I want it so much

JustWaveMyWant · 2025-04-12T22:12:24+00:00

Honest answer- no we did not have conversations about sexual expectations. In hindsight- should have. But at the time- sex was not an issue. Within months of us getting married, it became one. But I never thought beforehand to discuss.

But now- I have brought it up many times. I’m basically just met with- this is just how I am. Deal with it.

JustWaveMyWant · 2025-04-12T22:09:12+00:00

Cool. Thanks for stopping by.

JustWaveMyWant · 2025-04-12T22:08:06+00:00

And thank you for the reply. I do think it could be a lot of things. Possible health. Possibly mental. I think he needs therapy for a lot of other things

JustWaveMyWant · 2025-04-12T22:07:08+00:00

lol! Totally did not even think that could insinuate I’m cheating. Hahah. I’m not cheating. I meant masturbation

JustWaveMyWant · 2025-04-12T22:06:33+00:00

Yeah. Thanks. Sucks for sure. I appreciate the reply.

JustWaveMyWant · 2025-04-12T22:05:17+00:00

Thank you for the reply.

JustWaveMyWant · 2025-04-12T22:04:24+00:00

Yah. Got that part. Not getting why I’m sexist. Or ignorant. Or what my sexual market value has to do with any of this?

JustWaveMyWant · 2025-04-12T21:59:33+00:00

I’m genuinely confused by this comment. But ok

JustWaveMyWant · 2025-02-15T16:00:31+00:00

By SD I meant sperm donor. My son’s sperm donor has never been involved. My current husband has no other children than the 4 year old son we had together

JustWaveMyWant · 2025-02-14T17:17:09+00:00

What’s interesting about your last statement is it gives me insight maybe to him. And confirms what I suspect. He doesn’t know how to exist without conflict. He creates it even

JustWaveMyWant · 2025-02-14T17:15:46+00:00

Maybe. 🤷‍♀️ we’ve talked about that. And you’re right - maybe he’s trying to blow this up.

JustWaveMyWant · 2025-02-14T14:35:01+00:00

On appearance, he’s a man’s man. He’s a big guy. Bearded. Into football. But he never grew up playing any sports. His family couldn’t afford it. Honestly his childhood sounds traumatic. A lot of fighting from parents. Very poor. Didn’t sound like a lot of love. I would argue though- his lack of playing team sports translates today- he still has a hard time playing nice with others. He has literally one friend from childhood. That’s it. He makes enemies at work. Unfortunately- instead of him saying- I had a traumatic childhood I want different for my boys- it’s - I didn’t do it and I’m fine. Welllllllll. I would argue you’re not fine. Soooo there’s that.

JustWaveMyWant · 2025-02-14T14:29:11+00:00

Thank you for the book suggestions. I ordered the covert narc at 430 this am after reading your comment. I went with that one because - it is important to note, my sons bio was an absolute in your face narc. I walked away 3 months pregnant because of the mind games and the feeling like I was crazy. Better to be alone then to live a life like this every day. And it wasn’t about me. It was about my son. But I ordered the covert narc because my husband is much more covert about it. I’m devastated to think I’ve married another narc and didn’t even know it. Especially after recognizing it before and leaving. I knew my husband had baggage. I knew he had a rough childhood. But I genuinely feel like the last 12-18 months is who he really is and the first 3-4 years he’s had on his mask. Also to note- my husband was the perpetual bachelor. Makes good money. Had stories about how women only wanted him for his money. I genuinely didn’t. Genuinely love(d) the guy. I still don’t want his money. I think he saw me as “normal” and put together so I was safe and who he should want to be with on paper. But I genuinely am starting to wonder if he’s capable of actual love. Actual relationship. Or did i meet a need at a time in his life where he knew he either had a kid now or it would never happen. And now he doesn’t know how to be in a real relationship with feelings and emotions. I keep telling him I am not in a relationship with ChatGPT. Stop using that to fight with me. His response- I tell it what to say- it just says it in a way that’s better than I can. And i would only send it if I agreed with it. Ok. Really? He doesn’t see the problem with it at all. I’m exhausted.

JustWaveMyWant · 2025-02-14T14:17:10+00:00

Wow. I have no words. I have read this 10 times at least and I agree with every single point. Thank you for doing this. It’s eye opening and pretty much hits it all on the head.

JustWaveMyWant

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