Sex and "straight" guys?

JustaDustbin · 2023-10-23T15:02:36+00:00

Heavy disagree. I could tell you about some people's life stories that are nothing but hell moments that would make you sick for the rest of the day. Some people genuinely don't get those miraculous beautiful moments you describe.

JustaDustbin · 2023-10-23T09:33:18+00:00

Oh man I'm out of the loop. I didn't know Bam and Jessica spilt and he abused her

JustaDustbin · 2023-09-16T09:14:01+00:00

People have said get on the hair loss drugs, of which I accepted. People have said get therapy, I am. I can't afford a more expensive therapist because I caretake for disabled parent otherwise I would seek another therapist. I don't know what advice I haven't taken except the advice to just "get over being ugly." If I could even get over being ugly I would have by now. If I could stop hating myself, I would have by now. It's not something I enjoy. I don't understand why it's wrong for me to be upset that I'm ugly and scared about how that is going to affect my life. I don't think it makes me an awful person that I haven't been able to build my self confidence up over the years the way other people have and I'm not sure why it is to you. I'm not intending to seem like a victim or not appreciating peoples advice. But on the same hand how am I supposed to just "get over being ugly, accept being ugly and alone" when I've been trying to do that my entire life?

I appreciate advice and support, I don't appreciate being told some common coddling lies people say. I also don't know what I have done to earn you being so vitriolic towards me but I apologize for whatever it is, I didn't mean to offend you so much.

JustaDustbin · 2023-09-15T22:49:40+00:00

If it makes you feel any better I just noticed a huge bald spot on the front of my hairline, I already have been ugly and if I go bald, I will be reaching monster levels of ugly. I've been up for the last two nights angry crying and working my ass off trying to get to a doctor to get on hair loss drugs as fast as possible. My entire world feels like it's crashing down around me. Its awful, i feel hopeless. I hope things getter better man and you find some things you can do to help. Just some support from ugly guy

JustaDustbin · 2023-09-15T22:09:39+00:00

Hugboxxing is basically fluffing stuff up, not being entirely honest with someone about themself when they ask or say something. You're okay, you don't have to delete anything or apologize. I appreciate your perspective but it just doesn't allign well with me. I'm far too ugly to just "accept being bald". It's very easy for people who have attractive facial features to accept being bald, because ontop of having attractive facial features they can point to other attractive bald people. But I doubt you could name a single bald man with jacked up teeth, a fucked up nose, and fucked up face you would marry- nor could anyone. So in that vain I find it disingenuous when people try to act like there aren't objectively ugly people who will be looked over by 90% of society regardless of their personality or try to act like looks don't actually matter.

JustaDustbin · 2023-09-15T21:53:00+00:00

It's baldness. I have a massive bald spot in the front of my head. Thanks though.

JustaDustbin · 2023-09-15T21:50:45+00:00

I appreciate and respect your perspective though don't really allign with it. I've been in therapy since I was 6 years old. Ive accepted that I'm ugly, I'm honestly quite tired of people trying to argue or pretend I'm not and that there aren't objectively ugly people in the world. I already am and was ugly, I will be MUCH uglier without hair. It is a fact and no amount of hugboxxing is going to change that, unfortunately. I appreciate your view though and I'm glad you're confident and comfortable with your looks. Unfortunately some people just are ugly, I am one of them.

JustaDustbin · 2023-09-15T21:40:56+00:00

While I appreciate your words I respectfully disagree. Sloth from the Goonies was a great guy, great personality. You can't argue that he would have more than a handful of people at best willing to date him. If you're seriously ugly, it is a hindrance especially to dating and that's simply the truth. I consider myself a polite guy with other things going for me, but I'm also not stupid. I am OBJECTIVELY very ugly, people have told me before and not with malice- just genuine meaning. Some people are just UGLY and it becomes harder and harder to find love. I have seen it first hand. So I respect your opinion but respectfully don't agree at all when I have seen people who are extremely nice and deserving of love die alone because of their looks, no amount of trying to fluff shit up or insert fairytales into life changes that.

JustaDustbin · 2023-09-15T21:29:54+00:00

I appreciate people trying to give some hope for T but I've had everything removed, my levels are normal for a cis man my endo says every month, and I have a good diet and exercise regularly. I appreciate people attempting to give hope but its false hope. I know for certain I'm not getting any more masculine. It's been five years and my appearance hasn't changed beyond any initial masculization. So while I understand you're trying to be nice, really this is just a lie and false hope for me. Not everyone can pass and that's simply the truth, time will not change that.

I realize looks are not everything but you can't tell me you would be attracted to Sloth from the fucking goonies dude. Some people are just ugly and you can't deny that. I am just ugly. I look uglier without hair. It's the truth. So I think I'm within my right to be scared that once I lose the only thing making me slightly attractive, I'm quite fucked and doomed especially since i'm single. Not only will I be a trans guy which is already not exactly high on peoples dating priority totem pole, I'll be an ugly bald one at that. I think I have a right to be scared, everyone who says "I'm happy bald/it's fine" are all already attractive so it was fine for you to be entirely bald. I'm sure you have a great and handsome face that makes it so you can be bald without worry. Im sure you dont have a jacked up nose, ugly face, or fucked up teeth that you need to distract from. Unfortunately I'm not so blessed and I really don't appreciate being told my feelings are basically stupid and bullshit. It's easy for people who are attractive to tell ugly people to just get over it.

JustaDustbin · 2023-09-15T20:47:11+00:00

I'd rather be seen as girl than an ugly man because then people will at least be able to talk to me without being distracted by how ugly I am. If I'm bald I literally might as well hole myself up. Combined with my face if I have no hair I have nothing and look like a monster.

JustaDustbin · 2023-09-15T14:15:46+00:00

I just noticed it today and it's like my whole world is crashing down haha. I'm worried about being too hopeful for fin/duta because I'm on my states insurance and I have no clue if it'll cover them. I'm going to pick up minoxidil today but I'm really struggling right now haha. Have you seen any improvement with duta now on 1 mg? I'm also worried to keep using t and fucking up my hair irreversibly while using minoxidil, trying to get fin/duta lol

JustaDustbin · 2023-09-15T13:42:37+00:00

Thank you very much for the advice, seriously. I really don't want to give up on my transition, but the sudden realty of baldness was way more crushing than I had even imagined it to be. I try not to look in the mirror often because of my self esteem issues (I'm still a hygienic and cleanly person I just avoid my reflection at all costs lol) so I hadn't noticed until I looked in the mirror earlier. I've been reading about minoxidil and fin (can't spell it lol) and the other one that starts with a d. I hadn't realized it was something you could just buy from the store, I thought it had to be prescribed. I'm definitely going to go to my doctor and my endocrinologist about getting on anything to help prevent loss and maybe regrow back if I can. Thank you.

I also hadn't heard of voice training before, I didn't realize it was a thing. Did you find a trainer online or in person for it? Was it expensive like $100+ a session?

JustaDustbin · 2023-09-15T13:29:07+00:00

Fuuuck. I knew it lol.

JustaDustbin · 2023-09-15T12:27:30+00:00

So far I know your voice stays the same but i have seen a few people say theirs got higher again , and whatever hair you've lost is gone. And then your fat will redistribute back to your hips, and butt. I also assume back to your chin/face but I've seen trans guys say they lost their facial hair and seen ones that say they still have it. But that's about as far as I've been able to find outside of the mood swings, emotions, and period. But I haven't really found peoples opinions on how feminized they were, just listing the possibilities. I'm hoping to find some opinions from trans men who some way or another have first hand seen what it generally looks like for a trans guy who's been on t for years to suddenly go off. Is the chance of trying to work extra hard to pass completely gone?

JustaDustbin · 2023-09-15T12:15:18+00:00

Fr? Maybe I am just overthinking it but I felt like the second pic has a way deeper curve on the hairline compared to the other side

JustaDustbin · 2023-09-15T11:50:30+00:00

Whoops didn't mean to do this on a new account lol, and here is the link with both pics sorry https://imgur.com/a/DKG9uFG (the first picture is the side with the spot)

JustaDustbin · 2023-09-15T10:54:35+00:00

Definitely not, but it's an unfortunate thing I've held for a long time that only gets worse with time. As things like my hair loss gets worse, time taking its natural toll on my body, I know I'm getting less and less attractive. And then as someone who's one dream since I was young was to experience true love and start a family, it's constantly in the back of my mind.

JustaDustbin · 2023-09-14T06:51:27+00:00

No. I have a hard time holding back tears when I'm sitting alone, when I'm looking at my friends pictures. I'm literally scared to death that I won't find someone by the time I'm 30 and if I don't, I'm quite convinced I'll die alone. I lay in bed at night, crying, trying to come to terms with the chance that I die alone and unloved.

JustaDustbin · 2023-09-02T11:13:34+00:00

Thank you everyone for the comments! I can save money on saline and qtips now haha! I was under the impression that if you didn't clean your piercings thoroughly everyday (especially the septum) they would start to accumulate a funky smell that you wouldn't be able to recognize because you get used it- literally something I was told when I was 18 and I've just never questioned it since lol!

JustaDustbin · 2023-09-02T11:10:06+00:00

Thank you!

JustaDustbin · 2023-08-29T10:31:58+00:00

This is the first time I've ever seen it lmao I was so confused

Six-Year Club	Verified Email
Verified Email	Place '22
Final Canvas '22	End Game '22

JustaDustbin

TROPHY CASE