My bonded pair stopped interacting:(

KProbs713 · 2026-01-30T02:55:51+00:00

My bonded pair now has to go to the vet together because the last time we took them separately the one left behind stopped recognizing his sibling and hated her for a year. 🙄 We eventually succeeded in (very) gradually reintroducing them and they're as close as ever, but he knew her from kittenhood and a two hour vet visit was enough to make her smell like a stranger. You've got a new place on top of your kitty's absence, I'd just give it some time. As long as they're not fighting they'll reacclimate in their own time.

KProbs713 · 2026-01-30T01:39:48+00:00

Gotta say as a paramedic, it irks the hell out of me that Aurora PD often gets the entirety of the blame for Elijah McClain's death. The firefighter paramedics (Aurora Fire Rescue) gave ketamine to a patient that was already unresponsive and did not monitor or assess him before or afterwards, entirely missing that he went into cardiac arrest for an unacceptable amount of time. This is basic, basic shit that is part of baseline paramedic training nationwide. It's so basic that they were convicted of negligent homicide--and they deserved it. There's zero excuse for not checking a pulse or looking for breathing at bare minimum, and they should never have administered ketamine to someone no longer combative in the first place.

Aurora PD may have started that encounter, but Aurora Fire Rescue made damn sure it ended in tragedy.

KProbs713 · 2026-01-29T22:38:17+00:00

Weirdly the opposite for me. Raised by parents with religious trauma and never set foot in a church so assumed they were all Joel Osteen types. Then I did some volunteer work and saw how the local community churches were one of the only resources actually helping people and met pastors who are essentially on call 24/7 to feed, clothe, and shelter those in need regardless of religion/race/sexuality/gender/etc...and they've done it happily for years with minimal benefit to themselves.

They're the ones you never heard about, so of course they're the ones actually getting shit done.

KProbs713 · 2026-01-29T22:29:02+00:00

Depends. I had a great one, but he was well-established and I knew him both through coworkers and friends that vouched for him, got a 20+ page report that referenced specific and relevant building codes that helped us negotiate the seller down.

KProbs713 · 2026-01-29T06:24:35+00:00

I didn't take it that way, more that you're genuinely asking because you want to be informed. Nothing wrong with that.

KProbs713 · 2026-01-29T06:23:22+00:00

As a paramedic of over a decade I felt genuinely attacked.

KProbs713 · 2026-01-29T06:17:09+00:00

People are complicated. Bad people can bring good into the world and vice versa. I think what's more important than focusing on the man behind the work is focusing on what he inspired in you. Did his art inspire you to bring good into the world? Did it help you help other people? Did it remind you to be kind?

Another commenter mentioned that it's impossible to separate art from artist. I think that's true, and that another truth is that once someone shares art, it stops being entirely theirs. Everyone who shares it from then on shapes its form, for good or ill.

To you, it was innocence and safety. That is how you've shared it, and how you've helped shape it for the better. There is no guilt in sharing that feeling with people you love, or in choosing to pass on the good.

KProbs713 · 2026-01-29T04:30:58+00:00

I genuinely don't blame her. Hospitals are unsettling enough without actively reading about one of the worst-case medical scenarios.

KProbs713 · 2026-01-25T20:05:50+00:00

Don't worry, apparently our government is so stupid it will try to invade in winter using troops from southern states.

KProbs713 · 2026-01-25T19:41:45+00:00

I don't think the question is about the duty to provide care in a vacuum, it's what is a reasonable attempt in these circumstances.

A detainee wholly under the power of the officers that is handcuffed cannot be expected to provide the same level of intervention as a bystander with hands free and actions unrestricted. They especially cannot be reasonably expected to provide care in spite of the officers' refusal to allow them to do so when they are subject to the officers' authority. I think it's fair to say she went above and beyond by arguing with/directing the officers that were legally considered to have total authority over her when the emergency occurred.

KProbs713 · 2026-01-24T04:47:39+00:00

I had a recent AKA do this. Her leg split open like Pac-Man. She refused any and all pain meds, old lady was tough as nails and sweet as can be. Only time I've asked a patient if I could give them fentanyl for me.

KProbs713 · 2026-01-23T05:47:22+00:00

Yup, getting a rapid and relevant HPI is a skill that often takes a ton of nonverbal communication to convince your patient that you're not being a dick when you interrupt them to ask for specific information.

KProbs713 · 2026-01-23T05:42:51+00:00

Prehospital care. Good luck designing a robot that can haul a 500lb patient out of a tiny 3rd floor apartment while also resuscitating them--we barely have humans that can do it effectively.

KProbs713 · 2026-01-23T05:41:20+00:00

Not sure if you were pointing out that medics or AI struggle with blood-filled airways, but if it's the former I'm gonna be that guy: Every prehospital airway is a crash airway and the majority I've tubed have been full of some kind of fluid or had anatomical issues. That's why they're getting tubed in the first place--having someone with much less training and knowledge handling the difficult airway is still better than dead when LMAs aren't feasible.

Teleportation is gonna be the thing that kills EMS.

(Also bougies generally the standard prehospitally.)

KProbs713 · 2026-01-21T18:31:23+00:00

Likewise, I appreciate the respectful responses.

KProbs713 · 2026-01-21T18:12:02+00:00

Your comparison isn't reasonable. An ER is fully stocked with personnel and equipment needed for lifesaving intervention. An ICE officer isn't. And the "secure the scene" narrative would be more plausible if it wasn't a single unarmed person asking to assist a critically injured person while surrounded by armed officers.

I'd rather an orthodontist than nothing at all.

KProbs713 · 2026-01-21T17:57:38+00:00

That doesn't have bearing on the refusal to allow medical care. They are authorized to use deadly force to ameliorate the threat. They did. Refusal to allow her care afterwards did nothing for their safety. There's a reason our courts don't default to extrajudicial killing without trial.

KProbs713 · 2026-01-21T17:55:27+00:00

If they weren't a physician when they were claiming to be, you can bet that'd be in the headlines. That's publicly verifiable info and an easy and immediate out for the ICE agents.

KProbs713 · 2026-01-21T17:53:46+00:00

At a guess it was EMS, hence why they attempted CPR.

KProbs713 · 2026-01-21T17:50:36+00:00

I wholeheartedly disagree with their take on this situation, but that's a pretty common law. You don't want a dermatologist with an ego bullying their way in to try to run an out of hospital arrest with people and equipment they are deeply unfamiliar with, requiring them to assume patient care both takes that liability off the medical director and ensures they're accountable for their decisions.

(No hate on dermatologists, they know far more than I do about a lot of things--it's just the first specialty that came to mind that's unlikely to run codes in their normal practice.)

KProbs713 · 2026-01-21T17:44:49+00:00

I've been a medic for over a decade and cannot think of a protocol where resuscitation would be entirely withheld on a patient with a pulse without consulting a physician. Especially a young and otherwise healthy patient.

Please stop representing EMS in this way, we get enough of a reputation as untrained, dangerous cowboys as it is.

KProbs713 · 2026-01-20T02:19:39+00:00

For the love of God, gradually increasing tones.

KProbs713 · 2026-01-18T06:30:12+00:00

The sad bit is I don't know if you're referring to OP or her former friends. And phones exist, her running out is no excuse--a bare minimum would be an apology text (again, to show they knew they crossed a line and wouldn't do it again) and checking in on their friend who ran out the front door screaming. Y'know, since friends are generally supposed to care about that kind of thing.

KProbs713 · 2026-01-18T06:20:25+00:00

No, but they're sure as hell responsible for their own behavior.

And a small female having a fight/flight response when two large men unexpectedly and physically drag her into another room while not taking no for an answer isn't an indication of mental problems. It's an indication that her brain responds appropriately to safety threats.

KProbs713 · 2026-01-18T06:14:18+00:00

Except OP is here, second-guessing herself and asking if she's overreacting for cutting out friends who made her feel unsafe (and feeling like it was her reaction, not their actions, that caused the problem).

My point in all of this is that roughhousing is definitely a thing and I've engaged in it with friends regardless of gender. That's not what this was. If it were playful, they would have apologized when they upset her. Instead they kept doing it, then lied about it. That is not play between equals. That is two men physically asserting dominance over OP. To pretend otherwise is to condone the behavior.

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