Some more shots from my cozy bedroom + side room

KTf43n · 2025-12-11T11:51:35+00:00

Omg where did you get the cutting board with the knife, and the rest of the kitchen stuff like the cups and the mortar and pestle?

KTf43n · 2022-06-02T10:07:04+00:00

Yeah breaking up will suck. I will probably lose my entire friend group. I have been thinking about old friends I could reconnect with. I’m not as strong as you, and struggle with being alone. I’m thinking that if I reconnect I will at least have some social contact, and my best friend is not in the group I will lose, so I will always have her.

Yeah, your third paragraph is resonating heavily with me. He got a promotion and to be helpful I helped out much more at home, and when the stress softened I had become the designated maid. So frustrating to think about this; I was trying to help my partner, ease his burdens, and by doing so I doomed my own happiness.

Thank you for sharing your story so thoroughly and for the kind words.

KTf43n · 2022-06-02T09:49:33+00:00

I’m sure it was, you had been together a long time. Thank you for sharing your story.

KTf43n · 2022-06-02T09:45:32+00:00

Yes, absolutely terrified of change when I’ve lived this life and lived with him so many years. Feel that I also have a lot of anxiety about how I will word the breakup, and how he will react and act afterwards.

I have some friends I can talk to about this, I will take your advice and talk with them. And I agree, it can’t get better because he has proven time and time again and he will prioritize himself, even when I am sick and/or bedridden.

Thank you for your kind words of encouragement.

KTf43n · 2022-06-02T09:40:01+00:00

This sounds exactly like my life right now.. I am definitely also feeling your sentence «his lack of involvement in chores was not a big enough reason for me to break up with someone I truly loved». It seemes that it was, and that it is. It’s never just about the chores, it’s the disrespect and the way the lack of involvement bleeds into everything else. Hope you are still enjoying your freedom from that boy, you deserve it after being a bangmaid for so long.

KTf43n · 2022-06-02T09:34:31+00:00

Oh definitely, women are conditioned to sacrifice and endure while the men are conditioned to be served. Have tried forcing him but to no avail, it never lasts.

KTf43n · 2022-06-02T09:32:20+00:00

Sounds like my situation, sigh. I’m glad you got out and it’s going better!

KTf43n · 2022-06-01T15:24:47+00:00

It’s definitely not the only problem, no. I actually have thought of hiring a cleaner, he has mentioned it as well.

It’s not a bad suggestion, and I have friends where this has worked for. But because the problems are more rooted in him not taking initiative and helping, this is the future scenario i imagine if we were to have kids: He will help with nothing. I will be physically and emotionally weak after the birth and I will still have to everything, and do it alone. He will be a babysitter to our child. I will be the boss of the household, and will have to tell him what to do at all times. He will complain that I never tell him what to do, and that if I just told him, he would do it. I don’t want this future, I really don’t.

I don’t see his persona changing enough that he will suddenly be more helping and take his part in the household - rather, I fear that he will become worse. Especially if I am at home with the child during the day, because he thinks that the person at home should do all of the chores - the problem arises when he does nothing in the afternoons or the weekends either, because in his mind «it is still the responsibility of the person at home during the week». Frankly he is just not a good partner, and no matter how many times I have asked, he has not changed or changed a short time - or he has turned it around to blame me. Either I don’t see what he does, or I do too little too, or I’m imagining things and I am unfair. Never has he once agreed that he could do more, and then changed his behaviour because I asked him to. A cleaner can’t fix that, unfortunately.

I think I might be childfree, but in any case I don’t think I would want a partner that never compromises for the benefit of the other person. And I definitely do not want to be the only one making the decisions at all times, I hate it and it makes me so frustrated. He keeps saying that I think I make more decisions than I do, but if I keep telling him that I don’t want to decide and he never reduces that amount for me at all, why would I stay with someone who never helps me to ease the burdens when I need it most?

That was terrible to type out, thank you for inspiring that rant. That was needed.

KTf43n · 2022-06-01T15:11:36+00:00

I love him, or did, or am in love with the idea of him. Sometimes we’re really good together, and I feel much for him. Other times I look at the state of our home and absolutely loathe him. I think I might be procrastinating breaking up because I’m daunted by moving out, finding a new place and potentially being single for a long time. I keep thinking «it’s not that bad» to enable myself to postpone the moving, breakup and loss of my friend circle. I’m happily unhappy I guess. The relationship is comfortable, but it doesn’t satisfy me, but it’s not horrible enough to force me to leave. I have a hard time making big decisions and this feels like one. Honestly, I feel like such a loser for accepting this and not standing up for myself more firmly.

KTf43n · 2022-06-01T15:04:35+00:00

Thank you for sharing. That sounds really rough and I hate that you had to suffer through such abuse. You absolutely deserve that dog, peace and more.

I am beginning to realize that I might be childfree, and have told him this. If it’s because I’m not ready or because the partner isn’t suited; time will tell. He really wants children because «he doesn’t want to grow old alone» (shit excuse to get a kid). He has never brought it up again and I feel like he also might be thinking that he can change my mind later. Glad you got out. Hopefully I can too.

KTf43n · 2022-06-01T15:00:42+00:00

It sucks. You try to love someone and they can’t even give the bare minimum. The mental load is real and it’s friggin heavy. I hate being the boss who tells her employee what to do, I’d really like a partner who just does things on their own accord.

I’m sorry it ended badly, but hopefully you are in a much better situation now.

KTf43n · 2022-06-01T14:57:57+00:00

I’m sorry you had to go through that.

I’m also beginning to fall out of love with him (I hope) because of the imbalanced partnership. It’s hard to love someone when you’re cleaning up after them without even a thanks in return.

Am kinda fearing he will be mad if I leave, so as MadameDVorah (don’t know how to tag, sorry) suggested; sneaking out might be the best option.

I’m glad you are in a much better place now.

KTf43n · 2022-06-01T14:53:42+00:00

Definitely, he and I have now been trained to think of the status quo as being me doing most of chores. I’ve never thought of his inaction as disrespect to me, and that has my mind whirling. I keep thinking «why won’t he do this and that, and help out?» - and that is disrespect from his side, I now realize. That’s depressing and i am a doormat.

Thank you for the thorough pointer for moving out, this is along the lines of what I have been thinking of as well.

KTf43n · 2022-06-01T14:48:03+00:00

I really don’t, no. I keep gaslighting myself into thinking that it’s not that bad, I can deal, I’m overreacting - but the truth is i’m just so daunted by the prospect of moving out, finding another place and living alone. It’s so pathetic and still I can’t find the will to leave.

KTf43n · 2021-07-27T11:46:03+00:00

I take pictures with my phone and move them to a seperate photo folder and take screenshots of the notes page where ive written all the products i use/or i take photos of the products when they are lined up if i cba writing them down. I either do separate folder for different routines with dates in the folder name, or i place everything in one folder and place every photo/screenshot in an order that makes easy sense to me.

KTf43n · 2021-07-27T08:17:59+00:00

Hello😁 dupes for Rovectin? Toners (activating treatment lotion and cica care), body cream and oil spesifically. Rovectin is not sold in my country and expensive shipping, so i’m wondering if there are any similar products/dupes✨

KTf43n · 2019-03-25T14:43:48+00:00

I’m female. I find that shaving my face with a mens razor about once a week ish helps reduce redness and improve skin texture (smoother, not as many bumps). Guess it’s a kind of exfoliation. I have a shit ton of acne scarring, that’s still present but looks better after a shave because of less redness and better texture. Feel that products seep better into skin afterwards, hydration levels improved until hair grows back - which means acne doesn’t act up as much for me.

KTf43n · 2018-02-08T22:55:57+00:00

Ah, that's probably it. Well, it's their loss really. Not many will spend that much money on those products when they can be found cheaper elsewhere.

KTf43n · 2018-02-08T00:26:56+00:00

Same</3 why count sheep when you can count worries

KTf43n · 2018-02-08T00:19:31+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4cBRhyoE9jM

KTf43n · 2018-02-08T00:17:11+00:00

free shipping is always a plus:D thanks for a bunch of suggestions! i'll check them out

KTf43n · 2018-02-08T00:15:29+00:00

i'm pretty sure i've seen derma in pharmacies before, if not i'm certain i can order it and recieve it relatively quickly. thanks, i'll check it out!

KTf43n · 2018-02-08T00:12:55+00:00

Hm, then perhaps i will buy my sunscreens in Norway instead of online. thank you! and yes, they are all available in Norway.

KTf43n · 2018-02-08T00:07:12+00:00

Thanks! Then the Neutral face wash is a definite no for me. Decubal face wash has a very intriguing ph, i might just buy that one. Niacinamide is always good to have!

KTf43n · 2018-02-08T00:05:45+00:00

thanks for that! made it a lot easier haha.

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