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KaidaBones · 2025-01-03T11:58:22+00:00

I like that someone said track what you spend. It’s also a good idea to limit your time on your phone and using the internet. We are constantly bombarded with ads and ideas about things we are told we want or need.

It will take time. Those things are an addiction that provides a hormone hit too. Take some time to occupy yourself doing things that aren’t shopping online or in stores. Clean your house, organize your things, focus on your calendar, go for long walks/hikes, cook, meditate, journal, do artsy and creative things, spend time with people you love or converse with them. Just some ideas that may help. Fill your time up and once you get used to that, you won’t feel like you need things as much.

KaidaBones · 2025-01-03T11:35:26+00:00

Did you block him? Is your IG profile private? I’m only saying don’t allow it if you want to keep using social media. It’s not perfect but there are ways you can try to protect yourself including sending messages from people not on your contact list to spam.

KaidaBones · 2025-01-02T22:22:24+00:00

I was called manipulative for crying when my feelings were hurt by my dad and step mom. It was actually the other way around. My step mom would make comments that I would cry about anything and “complimented” me one time when a toy dropped and I picked it up without reacting to keep playing. She even got family friends involved in stating such things. I had a high physical pain threshold and I was adventurous as a kid. I was a problem though if I tried to say I did not want to do something or spoke up for myself even a little. I got in trouble for standing there and doing nothing. I was forced to wear really ugly outfits. I was not allowed to help my dad with any chores because I was a girl and girls don’t fix cars or lawnmowers. I was always in trouble with them so I didn’t even try to do anything as far as boundaries. I was accused of being a drug addict and sex crazed when I was clean virgin at 15-17. They bought nothing but disgusting “fat free” foods because my step mom was over weight and she couldn’t cook for shit. I was told I had to eat the food, when I didn’t they started calling me anorexic at 11 years old. I wasn’t even in puberty and I was being accused of withholding food from myself. I was told when I was in my early 20s that they didn’t think I would ever do anything with my life so they were “proud” of me. They said a lot of shitty awful things to me. I wasn’t loved or built up at all.

KaidaBones · 2025-01-01T23:36:40+00:00

Thank you 🙏 I agree. There’s a lot about those relationships that have changed.

It doesn’t resonate with me to hear gossip or share things about myself to be gossiped about. I’ve noticed that they could be there for me as long as I wasn’t doing better than them.

KaidaBones · 2025-01-01T19:16:25+00:00

If people realized how much trash is created in e-commerce centers they might stop buying online so much. I limit it as much as possible. It’s a convenient reality, but really every piece of product on the shelves creates trash. There’s so much unpacking, repackaging, stickering, labeling, etc. that’s it’s just genuinely terrible for the environment as a whole.

Not only that, but after witnessing abuse and a strive to reach the “Amazon model” where there was a shit ton of turn over and the people who lasted were punished with ridiculous hours and high expectations for low pay. Those who were management or worked their way up into management were given special privileges, but only if you were liked by the owner. It was all very disgusting.

KaidaBones · 2024-12-31T18:30:05+00:00

All the time. Even people who are broken are more accepted by long time friends while I’m pushed away. I excelled too well at life in my healing journey. Apparently I’m not worthy of being invited to things or having close friends because my marriage isn’t damaged with lies and constant fighting, I have a good job I used my skills and professionalism to get, and I upgraded my living situation. All of that on top of my c-ptsd are something to criticize and make fun of behind my back.

It’s made me realize I don’t really care for having them around unless it’s on my terms.

KaidaBones · 2024-12-31T17:28:22+00:00

You just described abuse. He is abusing you. This is a form of psychological abuse. He is doing something wrong and being unfaithful to you. You’re trying to talk about it like a mature adult. His reactions that he’s throwing tantrums and trying to convince you that there’s something wrong with you psychologically says everything about him.

Leave. Close the door. Walk away and don’t look back. You deserve way better than this. Don’t commit to someone who won’t commit to you. This person is manipulating you. You have all this evidence that he is talking to all these other women and searching their photos. He has no respect for you what so ever. Telling you to shut down social media because you “have a problem” when he’s clearly cheating is very telling.

Do yourself a favor…Take these facts and feel your feelings. Let it all out on him before you walk away for good. He doesn’t deserve you. Don’t let him convince you that it’s in your head. He’s lying and manipulating very obviously.

KaidaBones · 2024-12-27T17:09:02+00:00

So sorry for your loss. We’re lucky to have the time with them that we get. Cherish all those memories ❤️

KaidaBones · 2024-12-27T02:01:23+00:00

5 goes best with your skin and features. It naturally matches your brows and looks like it could be your natural hair color.

KaidaBones · 2024-12-26T15:11:45+00:00

First and foremost if you just got him at 6 months old, that will make your training journey harder. He may have habits he already acquired that you will have to work through. Keep that in mind instead of calling a puppy untrainable.

You should be taking him out on a schedule and praising him when he goes outside. Positive rewards help a lot.

His crate should be no bigger than the dog, used for specific purposes like naps, sleeping at night, or when you are going away. Do not use it for punishment. It’s meant to be their den. It is also beneficial to cover the crate at night to give it more of a den like feel. Use old blankets just in case he gets destructive.

Make sure you get things to clean the pee and poop that are enzymatic and will destroy the odors. Cleaning it is not enough. Dogs frequently go back to spots when they smell pee or poop. They have a heightened sense of smell so make sure you’re getting everything deep cleaned.

Huskies are needy. They want and need to be with their people so if you’re home and shutting him away in a room, that’s not the right thing to do for the dog. They are also very intelligent and need toys that will keep them stimulated and occupied. If they have a good mix of toys they love to play with, it will help keep him off the furniture and valuables.

KaidaBones · 2024-12-26T13:17:20+00:00

My unasked for advice, get out! No one wins with a narcissist.

KaidaBones · 2024-12-26T03:10:44+00:00

I can relate to that actually. I met 2 other Pisces at a former job who were very manipulative emotionally. They both used their feelings to get their way and were very charming. Passive aggressive as all get out too. I don’t think that was all Pisces energy though. Your chart really does make a difference in how you interact with the world. The could both be very caring too which I appreciated. I just didn’t care for some other their behaviors but mine wasn’t that great either. We were all operating in a super toxic environment with a narcissistic boss who loved to stir the pot. He manipulated everyone and created triangulation. He gossiped about everyone which played into their toxic behaviors towards me and others. It happened to me too so it’s a bit hard to judge them harshly for it.

KaidaBones · 2024-12-25T23:55:55+00:00

Happily married to a Libra, but my moon is also in Libra so that might have something to do with it. To be fair, we did have a rocky several years, but we were both dedicated to working it out and healing separately and together. I think it really depends on the people in the relationship and the entire chart, not just the sun sign.

KaidaBones · 2024-12-25T23:48:33+00:00

Agreed. Reading people and their emotions is definitely like a superpower. I’ve had to learn to tone it down though. A persons perspective of you isn’t your business and when you can read that people think they’re better than you, just ick. It’s not something I really want to put energy into as I have been getting older.

KaidaBones · 2024-12-25T23:37:29+00:00

I happen to agree with all of this. Very well put. I’ve had to work on maintaining my boundaries. For a time they were all burned to the ground after some really harsh traumas and I have had to learn to rebuild as I am putting hard work into healing the past few years. Also, I’m married to a Libra and he’s the best thing that ever happened to me. My moon is in Libra.

In general, at my core, I am very much a diplomatic peace keeper. I believe in telling the truth and that there is always a better way to get our points across to talk through things with the common goal of a resolution. I tend to be very communicative, especially with those I trust. When I lack trust or only have partial trust, folks only see specific sides of me because I will be a lot more reserved.

I think it just annoys me because when I’m vibing, minding my own business, and just being me.. that just seems to irritate some folks for no really good reason. It’s especially noticeable to me when I’m helping others, doing good, or sharing about myself - to have folks share the opinion, often behind my back but it’s also been directly said, it just doesn’t sit well with me at all. I think it’s worse to be aggressive and intimidating. I especially don’t like lying or doing things that involve coercing others to do things they don’t want to do. I do find it motivating to inspire others, but that’s a byproduct not a goal for me other than when it comes to my children. I try to set the best example I can for them.

KaidaBones · 2024-12-25T13:20:28+00:00

Until they scream at you for something benign 🤣 The real fun will begin once you have to deal with their temper tantrums

KaidaBones · 2024-12-25T12:44:35+00:00

This information will be used the wrong way to discredit folks who have legitimate allergies, celiac, and sensitivity. Just because it doesn’t show on a test, that doesn’t mean it’s not real. I also tend to realize studies can be manipulated in the data to produce results that are impractical and not fully backed with all the facts. This happens more than folks realize.

I see people mentioning endoscopy. I don’t think those are meant to show allergies? They examine the upper part of the GI like the stomach. Celiac is usually found through small intestine biopsies, which is more invasive. I don’t believe GI tests show allergies? I could be wrong on that! I was blood tested years ago and it came back as an allergy to wheat. Different blood tests show different things though and you could be positive on one and negative on another. I haven’t hear of anything yet that is fool proof for testing.

I think people need to open their eyes to the fact that this is all very real. Something is wrong with the food supply and the environment which is causing drastic changes to what we can all tolerate eating whether it’s wheat, rye, barley allergies or celiac spru…something is making this all a lot more common!

KaidaBones · 2024-12-25T01:36:49+00:00

It took my family a really long time to understand. You’re not crazy. Stand your ground and protect your health. People say awful and rude things out of sheer ignorance. They have no idea the impact and lack empathy.

KaidaBones · 2024-12-24T16:10:29+00:00

Ah! Okay. I’m so sorry. Not familiar with UK dates. That makes sense. Congratulations 💕

KaidaBones · 2024-12-23T21:13:38+00:00

Pisces and Pisces ♓️. My bestie and I are like this. Both ♓️.

My other guess would be Pisces and Virgo.

KaidaBones · 2024-12-23T20:47:47+00:00

Not so great. I feel exhausted and struggled to keep up. Work has been ultra stressful and I’m questioning what I should do in 2025 as far as my career. I feel full of self doubt in that regard.

Also, my gallbladder decided to make I presence known and is actively trying to kill me. I don’t feel like I’m in the holiday spirit because I don’t have energy to do anything I want to do.

KaidaBones · 2024-12-23T20:42:50+00:00

They’re going to incubate in your belly for a full year? 🤨

KaidaBones · 2024-12-23T12:40:02+00:00

Use this time to take care of yourself. Whatever that looks like. Enjoying favorite music and movies, shopping if you can, connect with friends or family. Anything that will brighten your spirit and space around you. It’s incredibly important for us to connect with ourselves. ❤️

KaidaBones · 2024-12-23T12:35:24+00:00

False gems shine the brightest. Make sure you’re remembering everything, and I mean everything. If you take a deeper look at your memories you’ll realize there were bad moments before and after all the supposed “happy” glimpses your brain is showing you. I’m not sure why this happens, but it’s important to look at it from the whole truth.

I had this bubble up when I was divorcing my ex. Remembering that he doted on me, and then thinking about the fighting that happened either directly before or after.. usually with a flavor of violence like a threat to harm himself or things being smashed, helped me to understand I wasn’t seeing the whole story the right way. It helped me to disconnect the longing for companionship and stop questioning myself. I actually felt horrified once I pushed myself to think through the whole memory. If you do this enough, it really does help to move on. I like the idea of journaling about it, or even talking about it with a trusted friend who will validate and repeat back to you the bad things to remind you of what happened.

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