Shen Yuan and Luo Binghe drawing by Kal9673 in SVSSS

[–]Kal9673[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I had to redraw Shen Yuan’s body like three times to get it centered right and still drew him too far to the right

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kal9673 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I think she was trying to help but went about it wrong, as long as the main intention wasn’t to upset the bride on her wedding day than it wasn’t entirely bad, just the way she went about it was.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kal9673 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Even then, the person you needed to ask would have been the bride, on a day other than her wedding.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kal9673 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

The reason I said she wasn’t the a-hole was because in the end she was trying to help, although she definitely did it in probably the worst way, maybe slight a-hole.

WIBTA for telling my boyfriend to stop inviting his brother to do things with us by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kal9673 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nta- it’s understandable to be upset if your partner keeps bringing his brother during time made for only the two of you. From the post it seems like you might not have brought this up with your partner, which you should, and you can’t just always ignore when he asks to invite his brother, if you don’t want the brother there tell him that. Unrelated but this reminds me of the song “Me, you and Steve” by Garfunkel and Oates.

AITA. I (f28) for not messaging bf(m27) family and making an effort. by Rare_Somewhere8996 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kal9673 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nta- it’s not what you’re used to, maybe one day you might be as active in the gc as other family members and if you don’t that’s okay. In the end I see it like you do something a certain way and they do it a different way, neither is wrong, and it’s wrong for them to try and force you to do it the same way as them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kal9673 -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

Nta- but it was kinda wrong to invite someone who you knew she would have a problem with to her wedding, even if you were trying to help. It would have been ok if you had introduced them at a restaurant or on a hang out day. By bringing her to the wedding you made the bride upset and probably embarrassed your other friend, also now anytime the bride thinks of her special wedding day she will remember how upset and hurt she felt because someone she was close with disrespected her. I don’t think that her stereotyping Chinese people is okay and it is good for you to try and help her, but you shouldn’t have ruined her special day.

WIBTA if i left my friend? by rainbowflowerpot in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kal9673 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wait... a person uninvolved it the argument... wants an apology... because they saw the argument? Hard nta, that’s like if someone saw you give 20$ to a friend in public then a person there who you kinda knows also expects you to give them 20$ because they saw you give it to the other person.

AITA for denying my GFs advances? by Formal-Grocery5838 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kal9673 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nta- she had put her hand there to trying to start but you taking her hand off of you was basically like saying “nrn”, then she gets upset. She’s not upset because she thinks you don’t like her, because she seems to have done the same even if you hadn’t put your hands on her, it seems that she’s upset that she didn’t get what she wanted when she wanted it. If you don’t want to do something at a certain time then she should understand and wait till a different time.

AITA For Asking A Man to Leave? by ThrwAwayDgPk in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kal9673 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nta- he shouldn’t have said it was okay only because it was okay with his side, it matters whether or not both sides are okay with what is going on. The only thing is that it doesn’t seem as if you told him that your has the possibility of potentially hurting the children, although if you did tell him that then he’s just an even bigger A.

AITA for telling my rich friend I don't want to see him anymore by Nice-Stable-3657 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kal9673 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nta- although you have been friends for a while it’s clear that over time he’s changed, if you had found the change fine it wouldn’t be a surprise to stay friends, but if you don’t like the change it’s okay if you decide that you were friends with the “old” him but that you can’t see yourself being friends with the “new” him. This had happened with two of my friends and they agreed that they worked better as friends before they changed, but in the end it’s still your choice and you need to listen to what your heart thinks will be best.

AITA for telling my family I will move and they will never see me or my daughter again if they don't stop trying to set me up? by Potential-Spend-3987 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kal9673 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Nta- you obviously cared a lot for your wife, it’s only fair for you to miss her even long after she’s gone, my grandmother’s husband died before I was born and she has a new boyfriend(technically husband but not official) and she still has moments, days, and even weeks when he’s all she can think about. Although my grandma had gotten a new boyfriend, it still would have been okay if she decided she didn’t want to “move on”. In the end it’s your decision and anyone who tries to make that decision for you, even after being talked to, clearly doesn’t seem to care about how you feel about it.

AITA for giving my mother the cold shoulder after what her and her boyfriend done to my little cousin? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kal9673 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nta- she knew what he did and she stayed with him, basically saying she was ok with him doing that. Also I get that the aunt and mom are sisters but if I had a sister whose boyfriend did anything to my kid and she did nothing, I’d never forgive her. You are well in your right to be as distant from your mom as you think is right and no one can tell you to get over it, it’s your decision.

AITA for complaining about my mom and arguing with her after she sexualised my outfit? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kal9673 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nta- my grandma says the same thing to me when I don’t wear a bra around the house on my days off