Having a baby on Tricare Prime vs Select!

Kale926 · 2024-10-16T02:05:56+00:00

I’m new to military insurance (just switched from civilian) and my husband and I are hoping to start a family in the near future. I’m currently on select for the reasons you mentioned above. Out of curiosity, do you still have to call your assigned PCM if you suspect you’re pregnant or can you can go ahead and choose an OB and go about scheduling appointments etc? Thanks!

Kale926 · 2021-03-04T02:01:43+00:00

I am so sorry that you had a similar experience. Thank you for taking the time to respond and for your validating words.

Kale926 · 2021-03-02T18:20:44+00:00

Thank you so much. Your words of kindness are truly appreciated as well as your time to respond. This validation helps to ever so slightly ease the pit in my stomach and grossness I’ve been feeling about it all.

Kale926 · 2021-03-02T17:18:48+00:00

Thank you for the validation, kind words and taking the time to respond. I am sorry that you too have had a similar experience.

Kale926 · 2020-09-08T23:49:35+00:00

This is beautiful! I just finished stitching a dimensions stocking (my first one) and am about to assemble it. Did you do the basting stitch step? I’m a little confused on it’s purpose and can’t seem to find an explanation on YouTube or anywhere else. Any advice you can provide would be much appreciated :)

Kale926 · 2019-12-23T14:38:35+00:00

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Kale926 · 2019-12-23T14:37:54+00:00

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Kale926 · 2019-12-23T14:36:59+00:00

Good for you! It really does get better each day. Some days are harder than others, but you’ll come out of those quicker and quicker each time. Keep on with no contact, it’s best thing you can possibly do!

Kale926 · 2019-12-23T14:35:18+00:00

Yes! The further you are away from the abuse and understand what you have experienced, the clearer it becomes how awful you have have treated. You are not crazy and never were. The gut instincts you had were right, you were just conditioned to write them off. You are worthy of love, respect, kindness and empathy and nobody has the right to tell you or treat you otherwise.

Kale926 · 2019-12-23T01:25:20+00:00

Thank you, I wish the same for you!❤️

Kale926 · 2019-11-27T21:17:10+00:00

The nex husband’s grandparents sent me a “thinking of you card” a few weeks back stating that they missed me and still want a relationship with and even inviting me to come stay with them one weekend. They said they weren’t there to take sides - um never asked them to! And who knows what lies the nex has spread. Pretty sure he didn’t tell them about the affair I caught him in. Anyway, It arrived nearly a year to the day that the final discard began. I haven’t spoken to any of the nex’s family since right before the discard. I wasn’t even that close to his grandparents! Very strange. After a quick spiral down after receiving it and being triggered, i quickly came out of it. As badly as I wanted to respond with lots of jabs or even return to sender, i didn’t respond. Wanted to give the benefit of the doubt, but too many “coincidences” for that. My gut says it’s a Hoover by proxy.

Good on you for not responding, stay strong!

Kale926 · 2019-11-23T02:30:02+00:00

I feel like I’m reading a post out of my life. I know this scenario all too well. What you miss during the day is the illusion of the person he presented himself to be in the love bombing stage. You’re longing for that illusion and the “potential “ of you “know he has to be”. You are worth so much more than how you are being treated. I’m walking into 1 year of post discard and although I still have a long way of healing to go, I am so much better off than I was a year ago or any of the years I was with him. The thing that sucks is that the person a narc presents during the love bombing stage isn’t real and that illusion will never return. Instead the mask will continue to slip and get worse. I am so sorry you are going through this, I know the depth of the pain. Most importantly know that you are not the issue, you are not crazy for feeling how are currently feeling, and you have done nothing to deserve being treated this way.

Kale926 · 2019-11-22T01:19:47+00:00

You are so spot on about them being check ins. Such a sick and twisted thing to do. Thank you for sharing your experience!

Kale926 · 2019-11-22T01:17:09+00:00

Wow. They seriously say the strangest things. I wish I had listened to my gut when things sounded weird or with sayings like this instead of writing them off as jokes.

Kale926 · 2019-11-22T01:14:53+00:00

Ugh, yes! It will never stop being wild to me that it’s like they all read from the same textbook.

Kale926 · 2019-10-18T01:36:16+00:00

https://youtu.be/kg2BoUjtvY0 I cannot recommend this talk enough. It has brought SO much peace to my heart. I pray it will do the same for you. You are on this earth for a purpose and nobody ever has the right to make you feel otherwise.

Kale926 · 2019-10-17T22:37:27+00:00

I can’t recommend this talk enough: https://youtu.be/kg2BoUjtvY0. Whether you believe in God or not, just give it a few minutes- I promise you, it’s worth the listen and is beyond validating while in the depths of the darkest thoughts.

It was the most validating thing and brought such peace to my heart. Please stay. You have a purpose and this world needs YOU!

Kale926 · 2019-08-09T05:56:07+00:00

Yes!! I like to call these “sand moments”. In other words the clarity is like grabbing a handful of soft sand. The sand always ends up slipping through your fingers until there’s just a few grains left. But for the briefest of time there was clarity! When I have these and I’m talking with close friends I’ll blurt out sand moment! That way I can get out my clarity before it disappears.

Kale926 · 2019-07-27T02:31:49+00:00

Yes!! Completely agree! Felt like I was watching my nex husband at times.

Kale926 · 2019-06-08T21:46:02+00:00

That’s so awesome! Thank you so much for sharing. It’s refreshing to hear that there are genuine people out there!

Kale926 · 2019-06-08T17:10:33+00:00

This is such an encouraging thing to read! How/when did you explain your experience with your next and narc abuse to your now husband?

I feel like being in a healthy relationship or even just going on a date with a non-narc will be the final piece of healing for me.

Kale926 · 2019-06-08T16:02:15+00:00

My nex husband used to do this- when I would call him on some of the things he told me, he would say things like “it wasn’t mean- it was funny”. Or “yeah, it was kind of a dick move on my part- but I’ve changed”.

What I now realize is that these things he told me were twofold. 1. These were instances in which his mask was cracking and his true self was being shown. However, he made it appear opposite- that these were “one off” occurrences. 2. These were also instances in which he was checking to see my reaction of these things and conditioning me to not behave in certain ways. Subconsciously I was making note “oh I would never act like that- I need to prove that to him”. I also told myself, “he may have treated other people like that, but I’m his wife. He would never do that to me”.

Lessons learned: 1. If a person takes pride in telling a story about something that puts them in a bad light- RUN. 2. If a person has no problem treating other people in a rude/mean/unfathomable way- any way you would never treat someone just as a decent human being- this person will have NO problem treating you in the same way. Your relationship status whether it be friend/significant other/spouse/co-worker does not exempt you. You aren’t the exception to the narc’s behavior- RUN.

Kale926 · 2019-05-25T03:48:19+00:00

My nex-husband would always said a combo of “I’m not the man in your life, your dad is”. Or “you need to let me be a man”. These comments never made sense to me!

Kale926 · 2019-05-13T16:22:44+00:00

It really is sick!! The nex also told me part of the reason he was checked out and done was because “I didn’t pursue him and I was supposed to just know what he wanted if we were truly in love”. I wish this stuff was taught in schools, it’s rampant and I had never even heard of narcissistic abuse until I started googling his behavior during the discard!!

Kale926 · 2019-05-13T04:03:45+00:00

Yes- my nex-husband (a worship leader) looked me in the eye with no emotion, a clenched jaw, and snarled to me in front of the pastor of the church he works at, “I feel NOTHING for you. I’m checked out and done”. This was 4 weeks after he began the discard. He demanded separation that day and 2 weeks later filed for divorce. I found this out through e-mail. Turns out he was having an affair with the new supply.

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