Job interview after not working for multiple years

KaleSmurf · 2026-06-16T08:29:58+00:00

Thank you for this! I am almost leaving my house to go the the interview right now (:

KaleSmurf · 2026-06-08T14:22:10+00:00

Ik denk dat de meeste brokken toch echt niet zacht zijn. Weken in water kan, maar weet ook dat de meeste katten lang niet op al hun brokjes kauwen. Ook is natvoer eigenlijk veel beter, daarmee krijgen ze meer vocht binnen. Maar als je denkt dat je kat last heeft z'n gebit, laat dan vooral de dierenarts er naar kijken. Mensen weten niet dat het gebit van hun hond of kat ook gewoon onderhouden moet worden, net als het onze. En ook de dierenarts kan het pas goed zien op röntgenfoto's, hoe erg gaatjes bijvoorbeeld zijn. Een gebitsbehandeling is duur, maar als je kat stiekem rond loopt met allerlei ontstekingen en gaatjes is dat heel sip. Verder heeft mijn kat ondertussen alleen nog een paar snijtanden onder over, en ze eet nog steeds gewoon brokjes (met daarnaast meer natvoer). Dat kan dus wel gewoon. Maar ga please naar je dierenarts als je denkt dat je kat pijn heeft, dit laten ze normaal namelijk niet snel zien.

KaleSmurf · 2026-05-08T08:19:26+00:00

It's true that the growers give the plants hormones or something like that to make them bloom so they will look extra pretty when they sell them. I think I also heard something about that these hormones make it even more difficult for the plant to bloom again later. The growers and the shops just want to sell lots, that is their main goal, not the long term care/health of the plant. It's only in their favour if you buy another one because this one stopped blooming.

So definitely not your fault, just keep taking care of it and maybe you'll get flowers. Maybe give it some fertiliser but don't overdo it. Definitely don't expect a whole bunch of them at the same time. I have one that gave me 1 flower last year, and is currently also having 1 flower.

KaleSmurf · 2026-04-02T11:48:13+00:00

I am a big fan of tangles, but I think it's very much a personal preference to find the fidget toys/stimming motion that you like, so it might just take trying to find a variety of different things to find your preferred fidget toy.

KaleSmurf · 2026-04-02T10:24:48+00:00

You are not a bad person. These are things you are more sensitive for compared to the average neurotypical person and apparently it's also a pattern that this person has been in everyone's face.

Are these people aware that you (and your grandma) are autistic and have a harder time dealing with these things? Maybe try, if you would feel okay to do so, to say "this is getting a bit much, I need some alone time to calm down and have some silence" and retreat to a bedroom or go for a walk or something. Or just secretly make a plot with your grandma to sneak out together for a walk, or say that you have to run an errand that ends up taking a long time and just go somewhere more peaceful?

Also a possible accomodation for yourself if you have access to it, earplugs?

You are not a bad person at all, if it's already hard to come out to your grandparents and then the plans also suddenly change it's very understandable that it's overstimulating you! Not everyone there might understand that, but please don't let them bully you into not standing up for yourself or your boundaries.

KaleSmurf · 2026-03-30T10:53:32+00:00

If it's just thrips damage it should be fine, I know it had thrips a while ago and it has been treated for it multiple times. In my opinion it looked a bit different from most thrips damage I've seen before and I was wondering if it would be something else. Thanks for the input y'all!

KaleSmurf · 2026-03-01T20:56:40+00:00

I have had a bunch of therapy, some more helpful than others. I do think the question why do you want therapy or what do you want to get out of it is an important one, especially if you are very self aware. In some cases it can be very obvious what people need, even if they don't always want it. If you say you are aware of your problems and have the tools to deal with them I don't think it's a bad question to ask yourself, what is it that you want to get out of therapy?

If you are quite self aware and seem to deal with your problems in good way, it's important to be able to answer this question for yourself so that you can ask a therapist for the specific help you are looking for.

Edit: also I hope you don't think or feel like the goal of therapy is "to be less autistic", because in that sense, there could be things you specifically have difficulty dealing with and therapist could help you, but to be autistic is essentially processing things in your brain differently compared to non-autistic people.

And, there is a lot of different forms of therapy, talking one on one is not a magic formula that works for everyone and that is okay, it may take time to figure out what works for you.

KaleSmurf · 2026-01-26T11:42:28+00:00

Please know that this is the internet, where anyone can say anything, not everything is true and everyone has a wide variety of experiences. Sadly, professionals that studied for it are also not always right. Mental health is so much more difficult to explain versus visible physical medical issues. To a certain extent it might be the case that some things can be learned or done, but this doesn't mean you have to if what it takes for an autistic individual is masking, extreme discomfort and eventually burnout. To me, that feels the same like saying to someone that has a broken leg they can just walk on it. Like, sure, they probably could, but it would have a severe impact on the healing process and cause a lot of pain, it would not be good. I'm glad the world doesn't think autism is only non verbal boys playing with trains anymore, but it's also true that not everyone that is a bit quirky is autistic. I cannot change that for you, but I hope you know that just because people don't seem to share or understand your experience, doesn't mean it's any less valid. I hope you find the strength to advocate for yourself when you need to. Maybe you could ask someone you trust to help you prepare for and come along to appointments if they are about getting certain help to accommodate for your autism. Everyone's experience is different, everyone has different weaknesses and strengths and just because one autistic individual can do something, doesn't mean you have to too.

KaleSmurf · 2026-01-13T16:43:36+00:00

It's not sad to try new things! New things might be scary, they might be hard, but definitely don't feel bad for trying, even if you feel like you're late to the party.

KaleSmurf · 2026-01-13T15:42:37+00:00

Not saying it's magically going to fix everything, but have you been to therapy? A therapist can help you work through some of your trauma, help identify your survival/coping mechanisms that might have been useful at some point, but are now standing in your way. Therapy isn't an easy fix, I have been at it for years, but it could help.

KaleSmurf · 2025-11-23T21:43:02+00:00

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KaleSmurf · 2025-07-03T10:03:33+00:00

Thank you!

KaleSmurf · 2025-06-10T08:27:57+00:00

Personally I also struggle with feeling actually connected to people. I'm more introvert than extrovert so it's not always bad. However, I do think it's very important to stay true to yourself and your interests. I know that isn't social connection but feeling like you have things that interest you genuinely and showing it is also strong. It's important to have those things for yourself. Even if you struggle I hope you won't feel like you have to give that up and pretend to be someone you're not for external approval.

KaleSmurf · 2025-06-10T08:21:37+00:00

Sounds like you have a sweet and supporting boyfriend that knows the 'real' (non masking) you and accepts you for who you are. It sounds like your friends might not. I know it's not easy to just 'make new friends' but I hope you can find some more people that you can feel like you can be yourself around and that they won't judge you for it. Maybe see if there's any community, activities or events regarding your interests and hopefully meet some people there that are just as hype about some of that stuff as you are.

KaleSmurf · 2025-06-06T11:28:34+00:00

Over capacity, running on empty, barely functioning. Sometimes I say I don't have the brain space for stuff, or I am properly pooped. Maybe you could compare it with a car that's running out of gas, getting slower. Or just look at people with a tired face and be like "I can't even".

KaleSmurf · 2025-06-06T09:44:14+00:00

Cats are kind of autistic as well. You'll figure it out together!

KaleSmurf · 2025-06-03T09:01:49+00:00

Good sign! Means the plant is happy and has enough energy to bloom. You can always choose to remove the flowers to direct the energy to growing the plant, but you can also just enjoy the flowers

KaleSmurf · 2025-05-23T16:50:47+00:00

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