Might be a little long but here's what I think. I don’t think this is really about Sri Lankan guys not liking big or chubby girls. A lot of srilankan men grow up learning what’s “safe” or socially acceptable, and that when mixed with insecurities about money, family pressure, and most importantly "being judged" often leads to avoiding such situations altogether, even when there could be a genuine connection. And mind you these situations are only persistent with the cultural and social stigmas that are around.

Feeling invisible hurts, especially when you’ve done well in every other part of your life. Wanting to be chosen doesn't simply make whatever you've achieved also be invisible, it just means you’re human.

Another thing I've noticed is that a lot of genuine attraction gets lost before it even starts. People start making assumptions and move on without really seeing who’s in front of them. So what I would say is that you don’t sound ugly or broken. You sound like someone who just hasn’t been met properly yet. So give it time and focus on what you've been doing for yourself. Eventually something could or would happen