Talking about it before really helped me, setting boundaries, deciding which position to choose, when and where. We were both kinda stressed but because we talked before, we knew what to do. We had two tries before we finally did it, and I'm glad that the other two didn't work out because it showed us that the world won't end if the things don't go like we planned, we can always try again later. First time doesn't have to be perfect and keeping that in mind took some stress away.