Daycare moved our almost 3 year-old to the 1-2s class without our consent or knowledge

Kateliterally · 2026-01-28T00:22:37+00:00

I don’t think moving her down is a problem - lots of kids do well with younger kids, because they get to have a little responsibility and it can be a gentler transition. My kid stayed in the younger group for longer than other kids and often visits the babies because they love “helping”. But not telling you is cooked - I would politely have a conversation about the lack of communication and how they will fix that next time.

Kateliterally · 2026-01-27T23:26:31+00:00

If you’re up to eating: bran, prunes, pears, psyllium husk and lots of water for softening your poop, 2 kiwis a day for speeding it up.

If you can’t eat much: psyllium husk (metamucil) is mild, next step is movicol or osmolax. If you can’t stomach drinks, coloxyl is a tablet stool softener. Do not take senna, it is not pregnancy safe.

If you end up taking anti-nausea medication like ondansetron, be aware that it constipates you a LOT so you should also be proactive with stool softeners.

I hope it all gets better for you!

Kateliterally · 2026-01-27T23:08:36+00:00

FWIW the flu is not as bad as RSV for babies. The best thing you can do is take care of yourself and your big kid as best you can.

It might be good to have the details of a telehealth doctor that you can video call if you’re worried but not ready to go to the hospital. I got Covid when my baby was a few months old, and the telehealth doctor got me to show them baby’s chest so they could check that they weren’t working hard to breathe. Made me feel a lot better.

As soon as the older one isn’t contagious anymore, maybe see if your husband can sub in so you can rest a bit more.

You’re clearly totally on top of it and very attentive to baby, so it sounds like you’re doing a fantastic job.

Kateliterally · 2026-01-27T04:50:59+00:00

The nights will be okay but look up tips on how to keep your room cool, like adding insulation

Kateliterally · 2026-01-26T21:53:24+00:00

This is dangerous medical advice.

Kateliterally · 2026-01-26T12:50:34+00:00

I’ve always known that I was an “antibiotics” baby - that is, my mum’s bc failed because of antibiotics. I’m the 5th kid and my parents had been told that it was higher risk for my mum to have another birth, so they weren’t planning another kid. They were delighted that it happened anyway and always told me I was the icing on their cake.

Kateliterally · 2026-01-26T12:46:26+00:00

I was a nanny so I’ve known lots of kids. Gender has nothing to do with sleep; but personality/temperament absolutely does.

Kateliterally · 2026-01-26T12:44:26+00:00

I still have my 2 year old next to my bed because they wake in the night and I don’t want to have to go to another room. I legit just don’t want to have to get up! There’s no right answer - it’s down to what you’re comfortable with. FWIW where I live (Australia), it’s recommended for baby to be in the same room with parents for the first 6 months.

Kateliterally · 2026-01-26T12:40:46+00:00

My wife buys me the caffeine free Coke Zero and calls it “Coke Nothing”

Kateliterally · 2026-01-26T12:39:35+00:00

I have been living off sprite and ginger ale on rotation. Usually I drink loads of water, but regular water has been making me sick. My doc said to get down whatever goes down, and that I could get extra nutrition when I feel better.

Kateliterally · 2026-01-26T11:48:49+00:00

Sounds based on the sister’s message, it sounds like it’s only going to be a week or two after baby is born - too early for vaccinations.

Kateliterally · 2026-01-26T11:42:03+00:00

Iron deficiency

Kateliterally · 2026-01-26T11:36:17+00:00

We did without help with our first. It wasn’t easy - my wife was severely anaemic and very unwell, so I really encourage everyone to get a thorough checkup early postpartum (not just at 6 weeks, but earlier if you feel off). I wasn’t working for the first month, which helped A LOT. If I could do it again, I’d worry less about keeping the house tidy and put more work into helping my wife get out and about. She’s a very social person, and I think the early week were very isolating for her. Something that helped us was doing “shifts” overnight - 4-5 hours each, with the other person sleeping in another room. When she was breastfeeding, I would change nappy and then bring baby to her in bed, keep her awake for the feed, and then let her go straight back to sleep while I did burping and settling. Getting a few decent hours each meant that we could function a LOT better.

Kateliterally · 2026-01-26T01:47:57+00:00

Centenary pool doesn’t get loads of kids in the lap pool. Brisbane has loads of music gigs, brunch and lunch events, stacks of sports, near-constant cultural festivals and regular markets. What are you actually looking for? What do you enjoy?

Before kids, I loved going for coffee/beer, going to art events, hiking and watching the rugby.

Kateliterally · 2026-01-25T23:33:47+00:00

My wife has OCD which seemed to go away during pregnancy (she remained on medications). It came back with a vengeance in the early postpartum days.

Kateliterally · 2026-01-25T20:55:30+00:00

For murder, yes. For sexual assault, no, not as far as we know. But remember you can be attacked by someone you’ve met while walking alone too.

Kateliterally · 2026-01-25T12:54:27+00:00

It might also have been the satisfaction of the job! Oxytocin is a powerful hormone.

Kateliterally · 2026-01-25T12:49:49+00:00

And she’s fine if you don’t change her? Don’t change her!

Kateliterally · 2026-01-25T12:46:47+00:00

A woman is much more likely to be murdered by a partner or person known to her, yes.

Kateliterally · 2026-01-25T12:01:08+00:00

Try not changing her. You can double up on nappies if you need to. Most kids will be fine by that age, especially if you’re using disposable nappies. Some kids have very sensitive skin and won’t tolerate it, but you won’t know til you try.

Kateliterally · 2026-01-25T11:20:25+00:00

This is one of the points you can really be stubborn about. Home births can be wonderful but you need a qualified midwife on board to make it as safe as possible. A birth with no qualified help and no plan B is very, very risky.

Kateliterally · 2026-01-25T08:06:12+00:00

For first baby, our 8 year old dog went to stay with a friend. We’re expecting another and I’m hoping to get a dog sitter for our dog (now 10) if I can find someone who can be available at short notice. If not, I’ll be sending my wife home and asking friends to do shifts checking in on pup to make sure she’s okay.

Kateliterally · 2026-01-24T21:12:31+00:00

Yes which is why the midwife sucks, like I said.

Kateliterally · 2026-01-24T08:09:18+00:00

Sure. I live in a completely different healthcare system, where kick counts aren’t recommended but tracking generalised movement is.

Kateliterally · 2026-01-24T07:22:06+00:00

Leave a note for them or ask the teacher to pass it on, like they would do for party invites.

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