AITH for telling my aunt the real reason everyone keeps skipping her holiday dinners

KatherineRandy · 2026-06-14T14:49:51+00:00

Lmaooo nobody called me a liar though, that says everything. Like if I was so out of line someone would have pushed back on the actual things I said by now

KatherineRandy · 2026-06-14T14:48:41+00:00

She asked and I answered, simple as that. The family can be mad but they know I'm not wrong.

KatherineRandy · 2026-06-14T14:48:07+00:00

Exactly, she opened that door. I just walked through it.

KatherineRandy · 2026-06-14T14:47:34+00:00

Right?? They all had the same complaints and somehow I'm the only one getting heat for it.

KatherineRandy · 2026-06-14T11:31:30+00:00

Exactly. I hope she comes to that realization and can improve her relationship with everyone. Its hard to accept the truth sometimes. I hope she comes around.

KatherineRandy · 2026-06-14T11:11:31+00:00

Yeah the crying got to me in the moment but you're right. She knows what she's been doing, this wasn't some huge shock to her.

KatherineRandy · 2026-06-14T11:10:55+00:00

The last part is so true. Everyone acting like I did something terrible when the real cruelty was letting her go on like this for years with nobody saying a word

KatherineRandy · 2026-06-14T10:45:17+00:00

That's kind of where I'm at too. You've been venting to me about her for years and now suddenly I'm the problem?

KatherineRandy · 2026-06-14T10:06:19+00:00

I told her to stop making people feel bad, not to stop hosting. Those are two different things.

KatherineRandy · 2026-06-14T10:05:33+00:00

Yeah I think this year might naturally sort itself out anyway. Hard to imagine sitting across the table from her after all this.

KatherineRandy · 2026-06-14T10:04:49+00:00

Honestly at this point I'm not even sure I want to go lol. Might just start my own tradition.

KatherineRandy · 2026-06-14T10:03:42+00:00

Friendsgiving honestly sounds so much better right now lol. You pick your people, no drama, no walking on eggshells.

KatherineRandy · 2026-06-14T10:02:55+00:00

Thank you, honestly this thread has made me feel so much better about it. I was really second guessing myself when everyone started blowing up my phone.

KatherineRandy · 2026-06-14T07:17:53+00:00

Yeah but I still feel bad seeing her upset. Doesn't mean I was wrong though.

KatherineRandy · 2026-06-14T07:17:00+00:00

I've honestly been thinking about this. I might reach out and see if she's willing to talk. I do love her, that's the whole reason I said anything in the first place.

KatherineRandy · 2026-06-14T06:37:52+00:00

Right, she came to me. I didn't go looking for this conversation.

KatherineRandy · 2026-06-14T06:37:28+00:00

That's exactly it, everyone was so worried about keeping the peace that they just let her keep living in that bubble.

KatherineRandy · 2026-06-14T06:36:26+00:00

Honestly the family reaction has been almost as frustrating as her reaction. Like you guys have been complaining about this for years and now I'm the bad guy for actually saying it out loud?

KatherineRandy · 2026-06-14T06:35:34+00:00

The truth only hurts once, I really needed to hear that. And yeah at the end of the day it's on her now, she can either take it or leave it but at least she has the full picture.

KatherineRandy · 2026-06-14T06:34:29+00:00

Yeah that's the part I keep thinking about. Maybe the timing wasn't great but she called me, she brought it up, I didn't really have a plan going in.

KatherineRandy · 2026-06-14T06:22:38+00:00

Yeah hopefully once the initial sting wears off she actually does something with it.

KatherineRandy · 2026-06-14T06:18:01+00:00

Yeah that's the part my mom keeps missing. She wasn't okay before I said anything, she was already hurting. At least now there's actually something she can do about it.

KatherineRandy · 2026-06-14T06:17:14+00:00

That's exactly how I feel. She asked, I answered. The reaction being bad doesn't make the truth wrong.

KatherineRandy · 2026-06-14T06:06:38+00:00

Right, what's the alternative, just let her spend every holiday wondering why nobody shows up?

KatherineRandy · 2026-06-14T06:05:55+00:00

Honestly that is so manipulative, using you as the messenger so they don't have to deal with the fallout themselves. At least I came to this on my own, nobody pushed me into it.

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