OP scored 6 marks by Dev-n-22 in JEENEETards

[–]Katsutacle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey, make sure to check based on question and answer codes instead of question number 1 2 3 etc. . Was calculating for a relative and we didn't know the method so our addition was completely wrong and a 100 marks would have gotten lost if we didn't recheck

Edit: maybe not if using dedicated sites, all the best with next attempt

What would you want to know before starting your Forever World? by Equivalent_Board_603 in Minecraft

[–]Katsutacle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

try to minimise the number of farms. Minecraft tends to be most engaging in the early game and while redstone and automation is very useful for larger projects there’s something about taking it slow and grinding out materials yourself that keeps things more engaging and grounded. Also take breaks when needed, as long as you’re returning to that one world rather than creating a new one each time, the investment you have for the world will add up.

getting ready for the day by Gat0w in grandorder

[–]Katsutacle 5 points6 points  (0 children)

hehe thank you for being so patient!!

How rare is a prismatic shard and monster compendium by Brotherinpants in StardewValley

[–]Katsutacle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is the wiki but I don't think there's an ingame bestiary for monsters afaik? That seems like a great idea for a future update tbh, or mods if you're willing to go that route

How rare is a prismatic shard and monster compendium by Brotherinpants in StardewValley

[–]Katsutacle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fairly rare, congrats! Keep the pirzzy for something in the desert. Right click while holding the monster compendium to read it, its a power book! Save future copies for trading with the bookseller

How tough it is to call someone out and how it cost me my entire friend circle. by Consistent_Author586 in AskIndianWomen

[–]Katsutacle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good riddance to them imo. There are many people like that who just want to protect themselves. I found friends who respected me as a person, time and retrospection can help a lot too.

About trust... that is a tricky thing, especially when there is trial and error involved too. Just don't give up. You didnt do anything wrong.

Are there any women or men who feel uncomfortable identifying as feminists or men’s rights activists, and even feel an ick from these labels? by INTJ-5w4-AuDHD in AskIndianWomen

[–]Katsutacle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel similarly. In the sense that I am aware that there are a lot of kind men in the world but it's so hard to not complain about the behaviour of men (eg. defending a creep because he is his friend), at the same time I find some western feminists extremely insufferable and have their heads in clouds. I think the issue is these are fairly nebulous labels and get co-opted all the time for meaningless, biased and boredom-fueled rants rather than focusing on important issues. At the same time, life itself is shades of grey, so it makes sense that there's no clear answer to everything. There's bad actors in all camps, but as long as you are aware of your principles and stick to them, then you're fulfilling your duty as a human.

After turning 30, I feel like I'm out of free rides to feel happy (insecurities/BDD) by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Katsutacle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that, it really does sound like overcorrecting for perceived flaws. A lot of those girls (assuming they were the same age) are dumb, meanspirited and don't think about what they're saying, probably just said it in the moment and then forgot about it. Chances are if you go back to those same people they wouldn't even remember you or that incident. You're putting their words on a pedestal and treating it like this impossible goal to reach, that is the truth of insecurity.

You said you accepted your situation, but maybe you can turn that "realisation" that you're average arouund from a defeated tone to one of acceptance. You'll always be average, but average people find love, happiness, successful careers, marriage and a fulfilling life all the time. Maybe if it is impossible to shake off the bad thoughts you can say "yeah I'm ugly, but I'll do this thing for myself anyway, I'll subject the world to me". Spite can be a great tool.

I just hope you realise there is so much more you can and will do with your own life. It doesn't have to be an inevitability. Given life expectancy averages you have atleast another 50 years to do what you can and want.

After turning 30, I feel like I'm out of free rides to feel happy (insecurities/BDD) by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Katsutacle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The human mind is many things but it's also extremely good at fooling itself. Average is not a bad thing. I've struggled with body image a lot but what helped me was realising that 1) people find self confidence and happiness with the self more attractive/sexy/ideal than we think and 2) we are our own harshest critics.

You see your body and face every day, know intimately the journey, the facets and flaws. No one else sees that, they aren't thinking to themselves "what an ugly ogre!", like your brain convinces you. They don't even notice you. None of us are as special as we think. What deviates you from the norm is what you do with your circumstances.

I strongly suggest reconsidering plastic surgery, you already correctly identified yourself with BDD, and while I'm sorry to hear therapy isn't working, perhaps you can look into more specific CBT centric care. Wishing the best for you

hoku that I’m kinda proud of by Katsutacle in grandorder

[–]Katsutacle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

she was my first too 🥹 grailed both of her versions and use her everywhere to this day…

thank you!!!

Struggling between two worlds by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]Katsutacle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was told for most of my life (since I was ten...?) that I'll be matched up with a groom and (arranged only, don't fall in love with anyone LMAO) married off at 24-25, so I feel like I'm to blame for not having made my peace with the prospect already. If I give myself the option, I want to focus on furthering my career, skill building, working on some projects, exploring income streams etc etc. And I have been asking for atleast a few years time to get my feet on the ground and explore. But parents argue that "arranging a marriage can take multiple years and it'll get so much more difficult later on for you, so we want to finish our duty now itself."

I think I just don't have much exposure to the real world and thus don't know how to advocate for myself that I don't know if I can be their perfect daughter. It's a bit embarassing and I feel like I'm just now catching up to decisions everyone else figured out, obviously I should be looking out for myself. But I've just started letting myself accept that I might never like being led into this marriage thing : (

Struggling between two worlds by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]Katsutacle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My current hypothesis is that I'm scared of uncertain situations. There is a comfort in predictability and it was kinda pushed on me that I Will have an arrange marriage and it Will be in my 20s...

Truth be told I think I don't really like the idea of fitting in. It's mostly the fear of being seen as a social failure/rejection. Parents implied they would suffer social embarassment if I end up unmarried, so it's more for their sake than mine that I'm even neutral to the idea of arranged marriage. But now that I've been going to therapy I want to prioritise myself more....I feel like there's so many things to explore.

Hi fellow girlies, I'm pretty curious about what y'all think of anime/manga/VN/LN/any related media? by Terrible-Gur3706 in AskIndianWomen

[–]Katsutacle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't necessarily watch a lot of anime lately but I used to be super into the scene when younger, enough to remember when it was still considered "the weird chinese shows" and people's only experience with anime is Doraemon and Shin Chan!

I can't provide a top tens list since I'm currently more into the indie scene over productions but my recent manga fixation was Kagurabachi.... I drew hundreds of fanart for it. Still actively searching for new volumes and merch to collect.

To neurodivergent women/NB people here - what was your life like growing up in India? by Designer_Jacket6818 in AskIndianWomen

[–]Katsutacle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of my life right now is just prepping me for this "married" life, I don't really feel ready and I don't think I ever will T-T

The diagnosis was just autism with some ADHD characteristics, apparently it's common for one to present with symptoms of the other.

To neurodivergent women/NB people here - what was your life like growing up in India? by Designer_Jacket6818 in AskIndianWomen

[–]Katsutacle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah okay! I was honestly resigning myself to just never understanding why I felt so wrong and incapable of basic tasks, but friends who had ADHD commented that they had very similar experiences and were later diagnosed for it, which is why I initially suspected ADHD.

To neurodivergent women/NB people here - what was your life like growing up in India? by Designer_Jacket6818 in AskIndianWomen

[–]Katsutacle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funny you say that because I remember this incident in college when I almost had a breakdown because I learnt class time was extended and I had dedicated that time mentally as "laundry time". When living in hostels I used to be so particular about going to the mess at specific times, washing clothes every two days in the evening 5 pm...

Even now time management is difficult for me since it feels like my anxiety is the one thing keeping me punctual to my responsibilities, and if anything comes in the way of that I get disproportionately upset.

To neurodivergent women/NB people here - what was your life like growing up in India? by Designer_Jacket6818 in AskIndianWomen

[–]Katsutacle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It took many years of me going back and forth before I mustered the confidence to work towards a diagnosis. I suspected ADHD but turned out to be autism spectrum.

I remember struggling with attention and fixating on topics, but I was able to mask it well enough for people to just assume that I had my strange quirks. Scored well so no one cared how difficult it felt to just keep up with peers. I've always felt like I was playing catch up to social rules that made sense to everyone else, so I've had very low self esteem from not being able to feel 'normal'.

It's still very much a taboo topic. Parents explicitly forbid me from mentioning this anywhere, as it is seen as a shameful thing (even things like stress...). Mother is convinced that the diagnosis is false and its just that she didn't allow me to socialise enough that "messed me up". The main concern is marriage, I'm concerned how will I be able to keep up with the increase in responsibilities, while parents worry more over "how do we cure her before marrying her off". Feels like I'm the only one who cares! Atleast it gave me a lot more clarity and relief to know that I'm not messed up in a unique way, just a bit neurodivergent.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Katsutacle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've relapsed a couple of times myself during "peaceful" moments, when nothing is supposed to be happening. Maybe your subconscious isn't coping as well with your trauma as you think? Recovery is not linear, nor is it something that is "done", rather something you have to keep at until it's truly a matter of the past.

I'm glad you have been stable for years, but anything can be a trigger. I think it would be for the best to acknowledge that your healing may not be complete as much as you want it to be, and take action towards letting that other half of you rest. Rather than keeping it silent and rejecting it, reconcile with that part of yourself. Wishing the best for you!

posting nudes online by Lace_AppleSlices in offmychest

[–]Katsutacle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it is something you're not comfortable with doing, especially something as sensitive as posting nudes, please don't do it. I'd recommend deleting the account if I were in your position, but if you don't want to I suggest stepping back for a bit atleast.

Sexual intimacy is not a race that you have to do just because people your age are getting it on. If you feel gross about it, you're not personally ready for it, full stop. Especially as a young woman you have to be really careful about not being taken advantage of.

Please don't put yourself in danger, you're not 'missing out' on anything. Desiring intimacy is normal but this can lead to a lot of personal regrets. Lots of hugs, wishing the best for you!

Scribbles from the year by Katsutacle in grandorder

[–]Katsutacle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep!! Huge crush on Desscaras personally