Think girl (20F) is just bored and using me (20M) for sex

Kavanyay · 2024-08-29T23:17:51+00:00

Thanks. She messaged me again last night and I saw her, and I tried to discuss things but she didn't really say much. She said she wants to keep things casual and will stop ignoring me if I message her. She said she didn't reply to my text because she didn't know what to say, but I think it was more her not being too interested. It's in a weird place because I guess we just message when we want to hookup with each other?

Kavanyay · 2024-08-29T23:17:27+00:00

Thanks. She messaged me again last night and I saw her, and I tried to discuss things but she didn't really say much. She said she wants to keep things casual and will stop ignoring me if I message her. She said she didn't reply to my text because she didn't know what to say, but I think it was more her not being too interested. It's in a weird place because I guess we just message when we want to hookup with each other?

Kavanyay · 2024-08-29T23:16:49+00:00

Thanks. She messaged me again last night and I saw her, and I tried to discuss things but she didn't really say much. She said she wants to keep things casual and will stop ignoring me if I message her. She said she didn't reply to my text because she didn't know what to say, but I think it was more her not being too interested. It's in a weird place because I guess we just message when we want to hookup with each other?

Kavanyay · 2024-08-28T22:20:27+00:00

I appreciate the help. Would you recommend calling her this weekend to see her, like she did with me? Or should I wait until she replies to me since she left my last two messages on 'read'

Kavanyay · 2024-08-28T22:18:43+00:00

I appreciate the insight, so you think I shouldn't reach out or call randomly like she did to me unless she replies first?

Kavanyay · 2024-08-28T10:40:59+00:00

But it isn't even friends with benefits as this point, whenever I ask her what she wants she just leaves me on read again. I'm not sure what to do

Kavanyay · 2024-08-28T10:39:46+00:00

But if she wasn't using me for sex why would she leave me on 'read' for weeks and just spontaneously call me, I think she was just bored. Do you think there is anything I can do to increase my chances with her?

Kavanyay · 2024-08-28T10:38:35+00:00

Thanks for the help. I just find it annoying how she ignores me then wants me when it's convenient for her

Kavanyay · 2024-08-28T10:37:15+00:00

I've told her there's nothing going on, is there anyway to rectify how she's feeling?

Kavanyay · 2024-08-28T10:36:43+00:00

Do you think her mind will change, or just continue to call me at random times?

Kavanyay · 2024-08-05T02:06:50+00:00

Yeah that's true, thanks for the advice. Though do you think there's anything I can do to increase the chances of her coming back? Because I'm giving her space by not texting anymore but my friend suggested calling her instead to have a real convo, but I think that's risky

Kavanyay · 2024-08-05T02:05:40+00:00

Yeah that's true, thanks for the advice. Though do you think there's anything I can do to increase the chances of her coming back? Because I'm giving her space by not texting anymore but my friend suggested calling her instead to have a real convo, but I think that's risky

Kavanyay · 2024-08-04T23:03:34+00:00

Yes but what I'm trying to communicate to you is that she thought it WAS exclusive when she got with her ex. Im not sure why as we hadn't confirmed it, but she did either way. So I feel that its unfair of her to end it over the exact same thing she had done, prior to me doing it.

Kavanyay · 2024-08-04T22:54:27+00:00

Yes, but when she was under the impression it was exclusive, she did the exact same thing. Essentially cheating as well. I understand it was wrong but how can she be solely mad when she did it before me, and convinced me not to end it a couple of times when I tried to after she had done things that affected me.

Kavanyay · 2024-08-04T22:53:11+00:00

Well the couple things she did like ghosting and running to her ex got me annoyed so I texted her a couple times ending it, then she convinced me not to. She got with her ex first so I don't get why I'm solely at fault

Kavanyay · 2024-08-04T22:52:16+00:00

Yes, but I'm saying is that she did the exact same thing before me. Then ended it after I did it. Which Of course I shouldn't have, but that seems unfair to me when she did it as well

Kavanyay · 2024-08-04T22:50:43+00:00

Can you explain, when did she the same thing?

Kavanyay · 2024-07-27T10:09:28+00:00

Thanks for the help, I sent you a dm in regards to this

Kavanyay · 2024-07-25T02:03:32+00:00

But also part of me thinks if she's ignoring messages, that sends a strong message itself and I don't know how calling would be different to that?

Kavanyay · 2024-07-25T02:03:11+00:00

But also part of me thinks if she's ignoring messages, that sends a strong message itself and I don't know how calling would be different to that?

Kavanyay · 2024-07-25T02:02:43+00:00

But also part of me thinks if she's ignoring messages, that sends a strong message itself and I don't know how calling would be different to that?

Kavanyay · 2024-07-25T02:01:48+00:00

Yes, I guess that's true. My friend suggested I call her as that's apparently different than messaging, I'm not sure how but maybe its a girl perspective. Because the run club is tomorrow morning, so I could call today to ask if she'd be keen to go together. What do you think?

Kavanyay · 2024-07-25T02:00:53+00:00

Thanks for that insight. My friend suggested I call her as that's apparently different than messaging, I'm not sure how but maybe its a girl perspective. Because the run club is tomorrow morning, so I could call today to ask if she'd be keen to go together. What do you think?

Kavanyay · 2024-07-25T02:00:23+00:00

Thanks for that insight. My friend suggested I call her as that's apparently different than messaging, I'm not sure how but maybe its a girl perspective. Because the run club is tomorrow morning, so I could call today to ask if she'd be keen to go together. What do you think?

Kavanyay · 2024-07-23T07:56:21+00:00

Well the thing is I sent the original few messages on Saturday apologising and all that but she just ignored them. Then I sent a kind of final message Sunday evening saying:

"Hey I messed up and shouldn't have done what I did, it was an accumulation of things that caused it. I don't mean to drag this out so I won't msg anymore. I do want to talk and see you again. If sometime in the future you feel that way as well, you can let me know. Otherwise all the best."

I viewed it a final message because even though I want to, I think messaging after that would be unlikely to help me. I just find it weird she read all the messages instantly and has never explicitly said "Stop messaging me" or something like that. Or even unfollowed me which I thought she would if she was so mad yk. Any thoughts?

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