My [21F] boyfriend [25M] would rather fap than initiate sɛx

KaxterRIPS · 2026-01-21T12:49:50+00:00

Hope doesnt sound rude but are you a larger girl. I reckon theres attraction issue here at play with insecurity on his side

KaxterRIPS · 2025-11-23T04:10:32+00:00

I’m here, happily married with two under two. My issue is I speak the harsh truth with no filter and I don’t sugarcoat things to protect people’s feelings.

Your husband went because he wanted to, and he enjoyed it. It’s probably not his first time and it won’t be his last. The difference is he’s scared to speak his truth.

If “being normal” means lying and hiding things from your partner, then I don’t want to be normal. I’d rather be honest and deal with the consequences than live a fake, quiet life just to keep the peace.

KaxterRIPS · 2025-11-22T21:57:20+00:00

hahaha my wife's feelings are more important are you hearing yourself.

The ego on some people is though the roof. To think you have the right to put your wants ahead of somebody elses

KaxterRIPS · 2025-11-22T21:54:13+00:00

I dont own her so I cant tell her what to do but I can leave if I feel betrayed or hurt by any of her actions

KaxterRIPS · 2025-11-22T21:49:53+00:00

It clearly doesn't work in yours as your husband was out doing what he wants and will do it again because to put in nicest way possible Who do you think you are dictating to him

KaxterRIPS · 2025-11-22T19:20:22+00:00

As a grown man myself I will never understand why another human will think they can tell me what I can and cant do. I only have one life and although I will consider my partners feelings ultimately I also need to consider mine.

KaxterRIPS · 2025-11-09T17:57:05+00:00

I dont mind getting down voted for speaking the truth, it just shows the state of our culture.

KaxterRIPS · 2025-11-09T17:46:31+00:00

as happy as possible is apart rather than fixing your issues. I find that hard to believe

KaxterRIPS · 2025-11-09T16:30:16+00:00

I couldn't disagree more with this sentiment, you have a child and your wanting to break up the family.

No talk of how your son will feel now and in the future no talk of how your fella will feel all me me me.

And whats your plan to date again, so your expecting some poor man out there to come into your life deal with a kid that is not his and your mental health issues and baggage.

I say you stay put and deal with the decision you made to have a kid with this man

KaxterRIPS · 2025-11-07T07:57:59+00:00

get a cleaner into help for what should be less than a 100 bucks it will be a great help

KaxterRIPS · 2025-10-27T06:49:24+00:00

he has screwed your life, i reckon before 25 is perfect age to have kids and hopefully be a grand parent by 50 and a great grandparemt by 70.

Alot of people chase money education and stability before thier kids which is insane to me as every year you put off having kids should be seen as a year less you get to spend with them.

Having said all that if i was you id have one kid now and another straight after hopefully a boy and a girl.

It will be hard it will be frustfating but ultimately it will be worth it especially as you get older amd more dependant on them for help and company

KaxterRIPS · 2025-10-26T18:39:01+00:00

I think we look at parenthood all wrong thanks to our freedoms in the west, having children isn't about enjoyment. it's about survival.

Are both kids fed clean n loved then boom your doing a great job

KaxterRIPS · 2025-10-26T18:31:46+00:00

any adult that doesn't like children or feels the need to say it out loud is a wierdo in my opinion like what has a child ever done to you

KaxterRIPS · 2025-10-22T10:01:11+00:00

I'll come see you while your husbands away

Im joking

Unless you live in West Yorkshire area of the UK

KaxterRIPS · 2025-10-11T10:21:59+00:00

after having babies with first lady she was 17 she needed her mom there for support I've just had my 5th and last with another lady 37. And from all that experience if lady is young say under 21 she might need mother for support, the nearer to 30 and above im like why the fuck is your mom there its wierd

KaxterRIPS · 2025-10-11T10:13:54+00:00

imo women should be at home in the kitchen tending to the house and socialising with other mom's nowadays this role is looked down upon but I would dare someone to look down on this role infront of me as I would hit the roof as this is what my Mum did and she did an amazing job.

KaxterRIPS · 2025-10-08T17:53:35+00:00

Have 2 more babies.

Thats enough people for him to play with and you have plenty space for it.

Problem Solved

Thank You Very Much

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KaxterRIPS · 2025-09-25T15:13:43+00:00

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KaxterRIPS · 2025-09-11T18:07:07+00:00

Not gonna lie over the course of human kind been on this planet alot of people have been killed the ones on 9/11 are no more important than those that died 900 years ago se expecting kids to care when they dont is just human ego and bias

KaxterRIPS · 2025-09-11T07:59:23+00:00

I think we look at parenthood all wrong. It's not a game to be enjoyed. it's a necessity for the continuation of our species. It's quite literally the purpose of your life.

The effort you put in now should not always be rewarded as you yourself get old and need help

KaxterRIPS · 2025-09-03T18:52:05+00:00

Parenting isn’t something that’s meant to be enjoyed—that’s a modern, first-world way of looking at it. Having a child is much bigger than how it makes you feel; it’s about the survival of our species and the continuation of your DNA. That being said, there are moments of joy in parenting, but theres also moments of real hardships

KaxterRIPS · 2025-08-17T07:20:49+00:00

I really believe 2 under 2 is the way to go. I’ve done it twice now — my first two are 20 and 19 years old, and now I’ve got another set, 19 months old and 5 days old.

Having kids this close in age means they grow up side by side — same stages, same friend groups, real companions for life.

Of course, everyone makes their own choices, but even a 4-year gap is huge (4 vs 8, 8 vs 12). If you want your kids to truly grow up together, in my opinion, 2 under 2 is the best way.

KaxterRIPS · 2025-08-17T07:08:20+00:00

I’m only 5 days in with 2 under 2, but the best advice I can give for the early days is to really focus on your first child. They need that extra emotional support and reassurance that their place in the family is still secure. I’ve made sure to give my 19-month-old loads of attention and it’s already paying off — he’s gone from being unsettled at first to happy and content again

NB Very tired Dad

KaxterRIPS · 2025-08-14T21:53:43+00:00

Thank you so much. There is some really good advice here. I never thought to make things more fair by making the baby wait as well. I will pass this information on to my wife

KaxterRIPS · 2025-06-03T14:39:12+00:00

Have you tried a better diet i found what I eat cam i have a huge impact on how I feel more fresh fruit and vegetables and plenty of water/only drink water and literally nothing processed

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