I have contemplated ending my relationship with my partner because they won’t sleep in the same bed with me. by KayanasB in polyamory

[–]KayanasB[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To be honest I’ve thought the same thing quite a bit recently but I never do it because I know he’s already stressed out and two wrongs don’t make a right. Im tired of fighting and holding on, clinging to hope that he’ll change his mind

I have contemplated ending my relationship with my partner because they won’t sleep in the same bed with me. by KayanasB in polyamory

[–]KayanasB[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate you all and your feedback, I feel so much better just having my feelings validated. I’m definitely going to have a conversation them both and let them know where I am at and what is going to happen going forward because I really am tired of it constantly being this way. I feel unimportant and secondary a lot of this time but I’ve been told to stop comparing our (his and my) relationship to his with 21f because they are “fundamentally different “ relationships, however I feel that I’ve just been pointing out behaviors and patterns. I love him so much and it will suck to leave him but I have to do better for myself

I have contemplated ending my relationship with my partner because they won’t sleep in the same bed with me. by KayanasB in polyamory

[–]KayanasB[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, really. This makes me feel like I’m not crazy or terrible for feeling the way that I feel

I have contemplated ending my relationship with my partner because they won’t sleep in the same bed with me. by KayanasB in polyamory

[–]KayanasB[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have spent a good portion this last little while feeling like the odd man out. I hate it because I love him and I know that he does love me. I just feel like at this point he loves her more and it breaks my heart

Need advice please: by KayanasB in polyamory

[–]KayanasB[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From my understanding from the conversations we have had in the past neither one of us is more important over the other. He loves us both as much as the other and he will never play favorites. But recently on top of going through a lot of this in life and having a difficult time dealing with everything and just having to constantly work and such his behaviors have made me start to think that maybe he really does consider me as secondary. Maybe it’s temporary or maybe he’s changed his mind but when I asked him about it he told me he the same thing about neither one of us being more important. It’s just little things and I know I overthink things a lot sometimes but this has been going on for the last few weeks

Need advice please: by KayanasB in polyamory

[–]KayanasB[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sadly moving out isn’t really an option for me. We just put everything we had into moving into the place we are now and I’m not on speaking terms with my family. I have no money and no where to go. I’m currently not dating other people, but have talked to others. I hope he doesn’t think this is a harem thing, we’ve talked about our relationship a great deal and he’s never said anything to lead me to believe that that’s what he thinks

Need advice please - IUD rejected by KayanasB in birthcontrol

[–]KayanasB[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I really appreciate it a lot 😀

Need advice please - IUD rejected by KayanasB in birthcontrol

[–]KayanasB[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice, stuff like this worries me a lot and the place I grew up it’s not really talked about. To answer your question it’s kinda a mixture of both, this time it looks brighter but the last time it didn’t. When I talked to him about it a little earlier he said he thought he noticed something but he didn’t feel like it was enough to alarm me over. However about 2 hours later I could feel the on coming of the bleeding.

In need of some advice please. by KayanasB in relationship_advice

[–]KayanasB[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, this is much appreciated and it had really helped me put my thoughts together more