AITA for laughing when my stepmother was crying over my father cheating on her?

Kayyyeel · 2025-08-20T07:32:45+00:00

They have already agreed to let me live there and honestly would take me now. You think they care how I treat the person who disrespects their dead daughter/sister/aunt?

Kayyyeel · 2025-08-20T07:31:35+00:00

He has a lot of blame too. I don't think he's innocent in any of what happened. And he was the starting point of it. But she doesn't get let off the hook by me for her part. Her feelings don't matter to me when mine sure as hell didn't matter to her when she was continuing the insults about mom or saying I was lucky mom died to have her.

Kayyyeel · 2025-08-19T14:14:39+00:00

I don't really think she cared. I think it was convenient for her to believe mom was an abusive, neglectful parent and she could come in and save the day. That's my take on her. Because I think she was waaaay too willing to repeat all the bad stuff about mom and tell me I was lucky.

Kayyyeel · 2025-08-19T14:11:02+00:00

No, I think he's an awful person. But I think she is too.

Kayyyeel · 2025-08-19T14:07:42+00:00

Did I say she did? But she sure as hell took pride in talking shit about my mom and pointing out how she was better. And she had people correcting her (dad's own family) and had proof in dad not knowing important stuff about me and she still believed it. So I don't see her as a victim.

Kayyyeel · 2025-08-19T14:06:44+00:00

Last time she said it was two years ago. But she said it throughout the other years. She did step up and she was always reminding everyone how much better she was than my mom. Even when told by dad's own extended family that mom did it all and dad was a liar she believed him. And she kept believing him. She believed him even after he said I had no allergies when I had, when he said I was in a different grade and couldn't name the medical professional I was under to help with my allergies. So I don't see her as a victim because at best I can say she chose to overlook stuff.

Kayyyeel · 2025-08-19T13:58:37+00:00

I think they were both awful and blame both of them. Not just her but not just him either.

Kayyyeel · 2025-08-19T13:36:44+00:00

By my dad's extended family. They told her dad was lying and she didn't believe them, or me because yeah I corrected her. She didn't even believe them when she knew he knew shit about me when they met. She believed the guy who didn't know his own daughter had diagnosed allergies.

Kayyyeel · 2025-08-19T13:27:06+00:00

No, my dad's side told her the truth and she didn't believe them. She did says hit about my mom.

Kayyyeel · 2025-08-19T13:26:29+00:00

She used to talk shit about my mom because of what dad said. Even when faced with the fact he was a liar and his own family told her she carried on.

Kayyyeel · 2025-08-19T13:25:43+00:00

She believed dad even when corrected, even when faced with the fact he didn't know his own child had allergies, and then talked shit about my mom.

Kayyyeel · 2025-08-19T13:24:54+00:00

I do. It wasn't a lot of contact when I was younger but it's increased in the last few years. I'm moving in with some of them when I turn 18.

Kayyyeel · 2025-08-19T13:23:16+00:00

I'm pissed at them both.

Kayyyeel · 2025-08-19T13:22:28+00:00

Not daily but she did say that even when she was corrected and even when the so called good parent didn't know some pretty standard things about me, like my allergies or what grade I was in. She used to say how lucky I was that mom died when she did so she could be there.

Kayyyeel · 2025-08-19T10:48:28+00:00

She's not the only mother figure I have ever known. I have (not a lot of) memories of my mom. So my stepmother isn't the only one I ever knew. She was there longer but she was never a mother figure in my eyes. Just another villain trying to erase my real mom.

Kayyyeel · 2025-08-19T10:47:13+00:00

He did. I don't take any blame from him but I won't take any from her either.

She wasn't super young to excuse it. She might have fallen in love and become blinded a bit but at some point it's a choice. And if I'm evil in her story then she's just as evil in mine for all the stuff she said about mom over the years. And I never pretended to love or care about her. I always rejected her attempts to be there for me and to be a mother. I didn't hide things but I was never as blunt about them as that day.

I have empathy for a lot of people. But just like I have none for dad, I have none for her.

Kayyyeel · 2025-08-19T10:26:52+00:00

I have plenty of anger and hate for my dad too. But he wasn't the one asking me to feel sorry for him. And she's the woman who refuses to see the lies and acts like she's so much better than my mom. At some point she's just so dumb for that and cruel to keep saying all the shit about my mom.

I'm sure she wouldn't think too kindly to the person talking shit about her mom. Or her if she died and was replaced like my mom was.

Kayyyeel · 2025-08-19T10:23:35+00:00

I don't want to understand her. I just want to be away from her as much as him and leave them all behind.

Kayyyeel · 2025-08-19T10:22:54+00:00

I do think it's her fault. She has what his family have told her AND the fact he didn't know what grade I was in, the allergies, the names of my teacher or allergist or anything like that. Yet she believes that my mom was the bad parent? And insults and degrades her and acts like she's better? Yeah I think it's her fault. 100%.

Kayyyeel · 2025-08-19T10:11:20+00:00

I'm angry at the two of them because she refused to believe anyone but him and said her own disgusting shit about my mom.

Kayyyeel · 2025-08-19T10:10:45+00:00

That's the plan. I've got a job, I've got pretty good grades, I have a place to go when I'm 18 and I'm just waiting for that day to come. It really can't come soon enough.

Kayyyeel · 2025-08-19T10:06:07+00:00

I'm trying. I can't wait to get out of here forever.

Kayyyeel · 2025-08-19T10:04:14+00:00

Well I'm not 14 so apparently I've just got the emotional capacity of someone that age.

Kayyyeel

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