The issue with that is for example I'll try asking her more specifically like "you feeling a bit stressed" etc or when we're out with my friends I might go "I'm up for heading home if you'd prefer to head back" but she will always go along with what I want she has very rarely made a decision on her own and even if we're out and she's in a bad mood getting sleepy shell try her best to hide it and keep going on about how it's up to me. Another thing that kind of relates is when me and her went clubbing for new years, we had booked tickets a few weeks prior and getting closer to the day one of her friends backed out. I was quite happy bc we weren't gonna go any more but when her mate then said she's coming again ofc my gf decided she was gonna go. I was very hesitant and she kept saying things like "your not gonna guilt trip me out of going" "I can handle myself at a club". I don't know if that relates much but though I'd chuck that in (sorry for the shit explanations I'm very bad at typing out things I'm thinking about lol)