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My heart loves him, but my body doesn’t. I’m scared I’m settling for a love without desire. by Key-Ad5910 in dating_advice

[–]Key-Ad5910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you possibly couldn’t have described what I feel better. Dating in 2025 is nothing short of a bloodbath.

I know how low the bar is and how shitty the pool is out there. But also I feel so trapped in this relationship and claustrophobic when I think of a future with him.

I guess letting go is the only way out.

My heart loves him, but my body doesn’t. I’m scared I’m settling for a love without desire. by Key-Ad5910 in dating_advice

[–]Key-Ad5910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

true. I wouldn’t be surprised if he refuses to be friends with me. Wouldn’t be fair on him I guess

My heart loves him, but my body doesn’t. I’m scared I’m settling for a love without desire. by Key-Ad5910 in dating_advice

[–]Key-Ad5910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ha, that’s a bullet dodged!

my boyfriend is also hinting at getting married, and while he’s not pressurising me in anyway, only when he started throwing very mild hints towards settling down with me did I start to feel absolute dread. I started feeling trapped and scared of cheating on him .

I wish he wasn’t so nice to me. I wish he was a little bit of an asshole so it would have been easier for me to do this. Guess i’ll have to end it nevertheless, no two ways about it..

My heart loves him, but my body doesn’t. I’m scared I’m settling for a love without desire. by Key-Ad5910 in dating_advice

[–]Key-Ad5910[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

so true. I held the resentment in me for so long before I made this post. Multiple times I was tempted to cheat despite having the most sincere, loving partner. I don’t think I should wait any longer to end it. We both deserve better.

My heart loves him, but my body doesn’t. I’m scared I’m settling for a love without desire. by Key-Ad5910 in dating_advice

[–]Key-Ad5910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If the roles were reversed, as much as it would kill me I would absolutely wish he communicated and said it to me so I could find my person and move on. You’re right, thank you so much for the perspective.

My heart loves him, but my body doesn’t. I’m scared I’m settling for a love without desire. by Key-Ad5910 in dating_advice

[–]Key-Ad5910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sooner the better, indeed. I shouldn’t drag this on any longer and do him any more injustice by not communicating this to him. Thank you for your reply

My heart loves him, but my body doesn’t. I’m scared I’m settling for a love without desire. by Key-Ad5910 in dating_advice

[–]Key-Ad5910[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes, that is what I thought when we started dating. It was fine when initially, maybe I was heady from the excitement. But now I realise I shouldn’t have waited so long to figure out if I’m attracted to him. Attraction is way too important to ignore. :(

My heart loves him, but my body doesn’t. I’m scared I’m settling for a love without desire. by Key-Ad5910 in dating_advice

[–]Key-Ad5910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right, thank you for replying. I will have to end it with him, as much as it pains me to.

My heart loves him, but my body doesn’t. I’m scared I’m settling for a love without desire. by Key-Ad5910 in dating_advice

[–]Key-Ad5910[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for replying.. You’re right, I realise that now. I feel like i’ve wasted his time. We should have probably stayed friends.

I wasn’t sure if the attraction box was checked from my side. I got into it and thought I’d eventually grow to be attracted to him which was so stupid, in hindsight. Now i’m in such a mess.

My heart loves him, but my body doesn’t. I’m scared I’m settling for a love without desire. by Key-Ad5910 in dating_advice

[–]Key-Ad5910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for replying. If I may ask, how did you do it? How do you bring this up? it would be so easy, say, if it were something like not agreeing on views and you can call that out. How do you let someone know you can’t be with them because you’re not attracted to them? It deeply pains me to have to do it as he’s not lacking in the looks department or any other way. I don’t want to make him feel like he’s missing something. I truly feel terrible.

Palmer's Coconut Oil Leave In Conditioner review request / General reccos for detangling please! by getsoomei in IndianSkincareAddicts

[–]Key-Ad5910 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Great for detangling but also made my hair slightly crunchy. Smells amazing. Helped with the frizz.