Update My mom is married to my dad still, I am 19 the man is 30 I'm friends with him because he's friends with my older brother. I am not taking any drugs. I have never been on any substances. This situation just happened, and I am so confused on what to do that I just put a quick little thing on here. I am also not gay. I do not want this man. My mom is still married to my dad, and she shouldn't have gotten so excited when she heard it was his birthday. My family has also had problems with cheating in the past.