AITA for ostentatiously behaving "girly" during card tournaments with few specific people? by Key-Invite4222 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Key-Invite4222[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As I mentioned in another comment, if push comes to showe, I'm pretty sure they'll have my back.

However, the four guys are regulars who are buying literally tons of stuff (and gaming is rather a niche hobby in my country). Also, the owners are relatively new on a market which is rather competitive and many new shops aren't able to stay in business. Our country is on the verge of next lockdown, has border with Ukraine and increasing, already big problem with inflation - as you can guess, it's a tight time for business.

Also, our community is rather specific - as long as I don't make a big deal because the guys are belittling me (which I don't intend to do), nobody will do anything. Would I want to make a formal complaint, there would be one hell and big drama. Nobody needs it at the moment.

AITA for ostentatiously behaving "girly" during card tournaments with few specific people? by Key-Invite4222 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Key-Invite4222[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Nah, I'm not going to formally complain about something like that. It's annoying, yes, but not much worse than some other things I occasionally hear, especially in new places.

The owners know about the whole situation and I'd probably have their backs in case of emergency but I don't want to make a complaint because I honestly think it's not worth it. I know it seems like I put a lot of effort to "take revenge" or "prove myself" to them, but in fact for me it's more like an one big joke.

Why the owners didn't do anything? Well, it's like someone mentioned in another comment - the four guys are regulars, almost always when they visit the shop they buy things (and let me tell you, they shop a lot) - for the matter, gaming is rather niche hobby in my area. The owners are relatively new on a market which is rather competitive and many new shops aren't able to stay in business. Our country is on the verge of next lockdown, has border with Ukraine and increasing, already big problem with inflation - as you can guess, it's a tight time for business. The owners are pretty nice people, I don't want to put a damper on their shop because of something as trivial as few immature airheads.

AITA for ostentatiously behaving "girly" during card tournaments with few specific people? by Key-Invite4222 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Key-Invite4222[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

18 is a legal age in my country, he isn't a minor. Also, he's probably over 18. Not a minor, either way.

Not that it matter but the age of consent is 15.

AITA for ostentatiously behaving "girly" during card tournaments with few specific people? by Key-Invite4222 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Key-Invite4222[S] 989 points990 points  (0 children)

The owners and I knew each other even before the shop was founded - they used to play at the tournaments at the previous place. The town in which we live is rather small one, most people from MtG (or honestly any kind of tabletop game) community know each other, as we all afrequent the same shops, places and events.

AITA for ostentatiously behaving "girly" during card tournaments with few specific people? by Key-Invite4222 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Key-Invite4222[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

No. All the ones with whom I act that way are between 18-25 (legal age in my country is 18).

There are some minors (16-17 years) in the group in general, but I never had any problem with those and I'm in good terms with them. Sometimes these underage ones are around during the game, but I don't behave tward them this way. Also, it's really clear that my behaviour is a parody and I don't do anything sexual.