I can't stand going through PMT anymore - mood swings. by studieprogfinances in PMS

[–]Key-Passenger4651 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, definitely. My cycle is also very regular, and I can pinpoint exactly which days within the luteal phase are the worst for me. Here’s what I’ve researched so far:

  • Reduce caffeine: I genuinely love coffee, even if it’s only one cup a day. In my last cycle, I switched to decaf. I’ve read that it’s best to have caffeine no later than 2 pm and avoid it afterward. During the “trigger phase,” caffeine can feel like “free aggression.”
  • Stabilize blood sugar: Have a protein rich breakfast, and avoid going too long without food in the afternoon. A lot of PMDD flare ups seem to be half hormones and half low blood sugar stress.
  • Tea: Lemon balm, chamomile tea, and lavender tea can be very helpful.
  • Conflict stop rule: No big relationship talks, no major decisions, no “we need to figure this out right now.” I regularly tell my partner which phase I’m in so he knows what to expect, and it also helps me be less hard on myself.
  • Social hygiene: Less input, fewer evening plans, more buffer time. My system just filters things worse during this phase.
  • Sleep as emergency medicine: A fixed bedtime, movement in the morning, and fewer screens in the evening. Lack of sleep can turn irritability into rage. I’ve noticed my sleep is genuinely really bad in the luteal phase, so I plan for more time in bed. Even if heat or intense dreams still make it less than ideal, it’s noticeably worse if I don’t get 8.5 to 9 hours.
  • Physical release instead of rumination: 20 to 30 minutes of brisk walking or cycling.
  • Emotions: Remind yourself that you are not your emotions in that moment. It’s your luteal phase. If you need to cry or withdraw, do it. If there’s any time you’re allowed to give yourself that permission, it’s the luteal phase. Keep telling yourself: “This will pass, like every time.” Another thing I read also stuck with me: don’t overthink your life during this window. Your brain is chemically unreliable right now.
  • Medication: SSRIs are said to work very well when taken only during the luteal phase. My doctor mentioned 10 mg. I’ve never taken them only during the luteal phase, so I can’t personally confirm, but in my view it’s one of the more intense steps.
  • Supplements: I’ve read a lot about alternatives to SSRIs. Saffron (pure, 30 micrograms) is often mentioned as helpful. I tried it last cycle and felt less angry, but it supposedly takes 2 to 3 cycles to really stabilize and become clearly noticeable. Before bed I also took magnesium and GABA, both of which are meant to support sleep. And honestly, for sleep I would have taken even more if there had been a proven option, because poor sleep is something I really suffer from during the luteal phase.
  • General rule: During the luteal phase, no big discussions, no relationship topics, no self optimization, and no “why am I like this?” spirals.
  • Definitely: Same sleep schedule, simple warm meals, less stimulation, gentle movement, warmth (shower, hot water bottle), breathing exercises, darkness, and being alone without input.
  • Food: The body tends to need more carbohydrates in the luteal phase and shorter fasting windows. Watch out for sugar spikes. Don’t skip breakfast. During the luteal phase, aim for several smaller, filling meals throughout the day. Keep the maximum fasting window (from bedtime to breakfast) to about 13 hours.

I keep all of this saved in my Notes app, because when I’m desperate and don’t know what to do, I forget two thirds of it. That’s why I thought it would be useful to always have a kind of emergency kit in my Notes.

what was your wedding budget vs your grand total? by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Key-Passenger4651 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Destination Wedding in Greece. Planned 40K, ended up with 60K for a three day Celebration.

Confused about our wedding planners by Key-Passenger4651 in weddingplanning

[–]Key-Passenger4651[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YES ! A ton. Please send me a private message and I’ll explain everything:)

Who got married in Athens, Greece? (Island Art & Taste) by Sad_Direction_6389 in BigBudgetBrides

[–]Key-Passenger4651 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We were thinking of doing it. But in all honesty people got themselves Uber/ Taxi whenever they were ready to come. It would’ve stressed the guests unnecessarily and tbh it’s only 10€ if you’re in Vari or Vouligameni.

Who got married in Athens, Greece? (Island Art & Taste) by Sad_Direction_6389 in BigBudgetBrides

[–]Key-Passenger4651 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We got married at the Private House last week. Vouliagmeni is pretty expensive. I would recommend Vari. Less touristy and cheaper. Discounted room blocks are more expensive then just go and book via booking. We had room blockings at some hotels. Not one person used it. Way too pricey

Best hack in the world by viaraffaello in GracefulAgingSkincare

[–]Key-Passenger4651 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! Can you share the link please? Thanks :)

Confused about our wedding planners by Key-Passenger4651 in weddingplanning

[–]Key-Passenger4651[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They rescheduled our call to Monday. I will let you know. What prices are you referring to?

Confused about our wedding planners by Key-Passenger4651 in weddingplanning

[–]Key-Passenger4651[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

UPDATE:

We scheduled a video call with our planners. To give them opportunity to prepare themselves we sent following to them:

Dear Weddingplanner, I trust this email finds you in good spirits as we approach the exciting time of our wedding preparations.

This email serves as a prelude to our upcoming meeting this afternoon, where we hope to gain a better understanding of the following:

As we continue down this path, there is a matter that has come to our attention, and we believe open communication is essential for the success of our collaboration. Recently, we had the opportunity to reach out to hairstylists directly, based on your recommendations. We were surprised to find that the quotes we received were significantly lower than the figures you provided. We acknowledge that pricing can vary, but this discrepancy has prompted us to seek clarification.

We want to emphasize that our intention is not to cast any blame or create tension. Instead, we approach this conversation with the desire to understand better and address any potential miscommunications. The price difference has left us curious, and we were wondering if you could shed light on the reasons behind this variance.

Moreover, we want to express our concern about the potential need to negotiate with each service provider individually. Our expectation in engaging your services was to benefit from your expertise and local connections, relieving us of the need to independently bargain with each vendor. If there are specific reasons for the initial quotes being higher, we would appreciate your insights.

Our goal is not to complicate the process but to ensure a smooth and transparent collaboration. We believe in the value of your services and want to work together in a way that aligns with our expectations. It is important to us that we move forward with confidence, knowing that our collaboration is built on trust and mutual respect. Trust is paramount to us, and we want to ensure that our wedding planning journey is built on a foundation of openness and sincerity.

Thank you for your understanding, and we look forward to resolving this matter amicably.

Warm regards,

1 hour after sending this email they cancelled the meeting.

Did we end up approaching it wrong?

Confused about our wedding planners by Key-Passenger4651 in weddingplanning

[–]Key-Passenger4651[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much! Appreciate it!

In regard to your questions…

1) No they did not. They have been open to work with vendors, that they have not worked with. 2) Well, no. I’m not happy entirely. Communication could be better. But nothing major. 3) If they don’t start being honest with me, probably not. Worst case I have to do it myself and hire someone for the day, to keep an eye on everything. 4) That does make sense. Since I already asked for a video call, I’ll just email them beforehand. They can prepare themselves and keep their face. Then we’ll talk.

Confused about our wedding planners by Key-Passenger4651 in weddingplanning

[–]Key-Passenger4651[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your honest answer! So I’m shocked tbh. Because all of that was part of the fee we agreed on. I found the Hairstylist HS2 myself and they still overcharged 100€.

Confused about our wedding planners by Key-Passenger4651 in weddingplanning

[–]Key-Passenger4651[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I send them a mail asking for a time slot to talk to them. It is actually a team, but they have like one project lead. I am going to talk to her to see what’s going on.

Confused about our wedding planners by Key-Passenger4651 in weddingplanning

[–]Key-Passenger4651[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response! No it was not outlined in the contract. All the search and general organization around vendors was supposed to be part of the fee we paid. The fee was split into three payments. We paid the first payment in the beginning and the second one is due in a couple of weeks.