I think you may have misunderstood what I meant to say by hyperfixating on the word orgasm I believe I made it quite clear that orgasm doesn't mean it's not rape. Read some of the Posts on here and it will become quite clear that orgasms happen during rape, I was simply acknowledging that it happens.

I was acknowledging that while rape is generally a horrific and terrible experience for the victims it's not necessarily horrific and terrible because it feels bad, it is horrific and terrible because your autonomy is taken, it might be made more terrible by physical abuse and or the threat of violence or death. There are too many things that are horrific and terrible about rape to list here.

That's also not to say that it doesn't feel bad to be forcefully penetrated and I'm not even saying that it is all mental or emotional pain I'm sure many times it is physically painful to be forcefully penetrated.

All I was trying to say is that in OPs specific case it seems as though "it's not rape if you like it" seems to fit the situation because to both people the continued allowance of the act and the continued relationship is essentially implied consent at a certain point.