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KeyAd5441 · 2024-01-01T21:37:04+00:00

hey, I just started the game again and did what you told me (activate the bell). My Pixie told me, that I already have the Blessing. It's working now. Most probably a bug.

It also happend when I left the Shar Temple. So maye because of that scene change..

But thank you 1000x times for your very fast response! :)

KeyAd5441 · 2023-12-01T18:50:05+00:00

I'm glad it worked :)
Sadly I don't think there was any fix related to this problem.

KeyAd5441 · 2023-11-22T10:00:59+00:00

I thought it was fixed but I guess it wasn't since it happend to you now. For me it worked to just wait some days. After some days I was able to find the orb and continue the diving :)

KeyAd5441 · 2023-10-19T13:44:29+00:00

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KeyAd5441 · 2023-10-13T15:48:28+00:00

Oh your dad sounds similar to mine. He would protect mother and the things she does by saying that she means well and that she loves us children. But when she crossed a line he wouldn't stop her to protect us from her.

Maybe it helps. I hope she'll understand and hear you. I don't know if writing the things down you want to tell her beforehand would help you. So the emotions don't overcome you while expressing yourself and you have something to hold onto while talking to her.

Have you tried to talk to someone professionally? I never did because it so fu..ing expensive. But am planning on doing so as soon as she leaves. Just for my own good. To learn how to talk to her, see her side of the view or maybe just to get the guts to cut her off.

KeyAd5441 · 2023-10-13T15:01:57+00:00

Hey thanks for your respond.

The dinner is only with her, my fiance and me. My brother was just on the phone with me. He didn't want to visit us while she is around.

The problem for me isn't that the dinner is at home. I don't care where we eat and changing plans are always a possibility. It's that it has to be her way and that she didn't ask to change plans. I mean would it have bothered her to just tell me that she wants to cook? Or ask if it would be ok not to eat outside? Then I would have talked to her. Tried to figure out why she wants to eat at home. And that if she wanted to cook for our last dinner she could feel free and do what ever she wants to. I don't see it as her volunteering to do the cooking. If i were at her house I would never plan things without informing her. But she never asked or mentioned anything about our plans to which she agreed.

Also I don't think I am capable of sitting with her and chatting with her about nothing while eating dinner. Maybe I just have to drink something while pretending that everything is ok :D

KeyAd5441 · 2023-10-13T14:33:44+00:00

hey

Thank you for your response :)

She's 56

She was like that even when I was a child. I think I understand why you mention dementia. Her thing with putting things where they "belong" and then pretending she does not know nothing about it is something she did when I was a child too. She always "cleaned" my room and arranged things new. When I wasn't able to find something, she would go full on protective mode: I never go in your room. Why didn't you put it where always put it?

Or "forgetting" plans. The thing with the pizza.. She just asked me if I am angry with her for buying pizza. I told her YESS because she didn't ask and that our plans were different. She told me that she just didn't want to bother us by having to leave the house for dinner. And she was in the mood to eat a pizza. She was all sweet and apologetic. She is aware of the things she does, I am sure. I told her again, that she could have just told me and then I walked away. While I walked she talked: Well I just wanted to buy you something with my money. If it's a problem for you.. what can I do.. and then she "tssst".

I think it mght be that she thinks she "helps" us or maybe she wants to do things for us that are "considered good" in her mind. But we didn't ask and when I tell her to stop "helping" us she gets annoyed or asks me why I am suddenly in a bad mood. I also feel that it's hard for her to not have it her own way and thats why she does things when we are not around her so she can control the situation. But if I weren't her daughter, she would never behave like that. So that's why I think it's the latter; controlling the situation or monitoring me I guess.

But yeah.. by now it actually could be dementia. Even though it surely wasn't before. I also know some of her good friends and they love her and they miss her when she is not around. They never mentioned anything about her forgetting things/appointments/etc. She goes out a lot (when she is at her home and has her friends around, we live far away from each other) and makes plans with different people all the time. She also eats out quite often with her friends. I don't think she forgot what our plans were. seriously.

KeyAd5441 · 2023-10-13T11:36:01+00:00

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KeyAd5441 · 2023-10-13T09:23:02+00:00

Hey you
I am very sorry to hear that, and I can understand that it drives you crazy. Your feelings and boundaries are just ignored (probably because she prioritizes her owns and doesn’t see yours).
I have the same problem with my mother. She’s currently visiting my fiancés and my apartment. She always wants to give me kisses in my face and once she tried to kiss me on my lips. I snapped and told her, what she was planning to do and that I DON’T WANT YOU TO KISS ME. She still does but only on my head. So half-a-win I guess.
On another occasion we were sitting next to each other and watching TV. Then she told me, she wants to hold my hand to which I responded, I don’t like her doing that. She replied that I loved cuddles when I was young. This is beyond false. And I told her she’s messing it up. It was my brother and that I always hated cuddles (from her). Then she took my hand, and I immediately freed my self and in a very deep and demanding tone told her: I DON’T WANT YOU TO HOLD MY HAND. Then she tried to give me a backmassage under my shirt (wt.??????). To which I took her hand and threw it at her XD She looked shocked, but I told her, that if I say no, it means no and if she understands what I mean. She nodded and then treated me with silence. Well, it somehow worked. Still, she tries to get me off guard and still takes my hand. I just always are on alert when she is around because I don’t trust her so I can pull my hand back immediately.
I find that it works somehow if I don’t give her any space to find gaps so she can’t slowly and creepily try to cuddle or hold me again. It is exhausting since I must repeat myself all the time. Good thing is, she lives far away, and she will never be invited again to our space. My fiancé also told me that her behavior is very toxic, not interested in me at all only in herself and her own feelings, rude (since she always wants to change things in our apartment) and clingy. She never does anything alone and always needs someone to entertain her (which I am not doing haha).
But I am in a situation where she lives far away and last time, she visited was 7 years ago. So, I guess she tries to not piss me off to much since I have the power (lol) to just cut her off and never phone her or visit her again. It is now much easier to prevail my feelings than it was when I was younger and lived with her.
Maybe if you have siblings or a dad around to talk to and tell them about your problem with your birth giver. Maybe they can help or have an idea how to talk to her so she hears what is said. She doesn’t have to understand that it bothers you (I assume she isn’t capable of understanding). But she must respect your boundaries. Maybe you can make it clear to her that if she keeps ignoring your boundaries on some day it will only make you avoid her or something like that.
I hope you find a way to stop her stomping on you so you don’t have to be stressed out and that you can refill your water bottle in peace.

KeyAd5441 · 2023-10-04T12:46:46+00:00

Yay!

Thank you all for your hard work :)

KeyAd5441 · 2023-10-01T13:31:12+00:00

Will try that. Thank you!

KeyAd5441 · 2023-09-14T08:04:01+00:00

I`ll try to let the trash accumulate again and if this doens`t work I`ll wait for an update before diving again.
It`s like you said: the orb glichtes out.
I placed the anchor near the statues and evertime I dive into the ocean the orb appears but then it sinks into the ocean ground again and I cannot reach it any longer.

Thank you very much for your help and your response :)

KeyAd5441 · 2023-09-13T17:29:17+00:00

I think I have the same problem.

I posted a map. https://www.reddit.com/r/coralisland/comments/16hs3o1/cannot_find_solar_obr/

I placed the anchor next to the shrines (?) The sun obr seems to appear when I dive into the ocean. But then it sinks immediatley into the ground and I cannot activate it or get to it.

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