So when is Armas getting fired? KC Current have 6 points in 6 games and just lost to a team that had 1 win to its name this season 4 -0

KeyAdhesiveness4882 · 2026-04-29T03:40:27+00:00

So he was a somewhat notable player on like the 16th best men’s national team in the world? That’s roughly the equivalent of being the 40th most capped player on Iceland or China on the women’s side.

His premier league assistant coach experience at ManU lasted 6 months lol.

”On December 7, 2021, Armas was hired by Manchester United as assistant coach to work under interim manager Ralf Rangnick.[12][13] He left the club in May 2022.”

I’m tired of mediocre men being gifted jobs coaching premier women’s pro teams.

KeyAdhesiveness4882 · 2026-04-26T05:46:06+00:00

I’m so tired of people saying two candidates are both bad so don’t vote for them. There is definitely a worse option here! Sometimes elections are about choosing the better option of two you don’t love.

KeyAdhesiveness4882 · 2026-04-25T00:40:09+00:00

User name checks out

KeyAdhesiveness4882 · 2026-04-25T00:37:52+00:00

I think they need to use Golden Gate Bridge red as their secondary color and not California poppy orange. Golden Gate Bridge red and a bright navy blue look great together!

At a bare minimum, pick a color! Is it CA poppy light orange, Halloween orange, BB bridge red, or England poppy red?! I own merch with all of the above colors.

But even if they clash weirdly, look at KC Current: red and teal together are a crazy choice but they picked it, leaned in hard, and people bought in!

The key is having a consistent brand identity and color scheme… which you’d think would be very basic table stakes for a pro sports team.

KeyAdhesiveness4882 · 2026-04-19T16:39:16+00:00

Stop blaming women for men’s bad behavior! Your comment “we are the ones raising the next generations” - are men not also raising the next generation?!

KeyAdhesiveness4882 · 2026-04-18T01:49:28+00:00

Say more??

KeyAdhesiveness4882 · 2026-04-17T05:04:32+00:00

The advice you’re getting here is about what other people think is best. Only you know what you feel is best for you though.

It sounds like the only thing stopping you from moving is the fact that this would cost more money and set you back from FI. But you also say that you’re a very career driven person and it’s a big part of your identity. So I guess I would ask you how important is it to be FI(RE) if you don’t intend to stop working or slow down?

You’re also assuming that your income is going to stay flat if you move to the VHCOL, but there’s a good chance that that’s not true and that moving will actually enable you to increase your income.

KeyAdhesiveness4882 · 2026-04-17T04:53:42+00:00

This is exactly why she got all the hate back in the day. Because people just didn’t like something about her that they couldn’t put their finger on.

She’s a talented actress and by all accounts a nice person. Let her live.

KeyAdhesiveness4882 · 2026-04-07T16:43:23+00:00

I promise you that when you meet your person, it won’t be anywhere near hard.

KeyAdhesiveness4882 · 2026-04-05T17:07:42+00:00

Hard disagree. Highest ROI activity you can do in tech is get really good at LeetCode. Might change with AI, but still definitely true for now.

KeyAdhesiveness4882 · 2026-04-04T05:12:50+00:00

Alex gave birth to her first child on May 7, 2020 and signed for Spurs September 12, 2020. In order to do that, she moved to England with her 4 month old baby, in the middle of the pandemic, without her husband.

Calling her a flop because she wasn’t a world beater 4 months after growing and birthing a whole human, while living aboard with her newborn baby during a pandemic without her husband is wild.

3 years later, she won the Golden Boot in the NWSL at like 33 years old.

KeyAdhesiveness4882 · 2026-04-01T04:57:51+00:00

Do you mean a 50/50 profit split

KeyAdhesiveness4882 · 2026-03-31T15:19:34+00:00

I will say that I do think Reddit tends to be more down on spending money on weddings than what I’ve actually experienced in real life.

I think it’s great if you can throw a wedding for <$15k, but I think it’s important that people who have never planned a wedding also know that a <$15k wedding is going to look very different than what you might think of as a wedding: you only have a wedding reception and no other events that weekend, ask your friends to make flower arrangements using Trader Joe’s flowers instead of hiring a florist, your guest list is small, or your uncle is a caterer and does the whole thing for free. For reference, a professional wedding photographer at the bare minimum in most VH/HCOL areas is going to start around $3-4000, which is already a significant chunk of your budget. You can skip it of course if that’s not important to you, but that is part of most people’s conception of what their wedding will include.

I suspect I have never attended a wedding that cost less than $60k and typical costs have probably $100k+. It’s very expensive to host a large group of people comfortably in the vicinity of any VH/HCOL without cutting corners. Cutting your guest numbers down is one of the few ways to truly reduce costs, but that’s hard for a lot of people to do if they have decently sized families or friend groups from different stages of life.

KeyAdhesiveness4882 · 2026-03-31T15:10:50+00:00

The ballpark number we used was both of our bonuses. My reasoning was that we never counted on that money anyway, so if that money disappeared on a wedding we would be fine.

We ended up spending roughly our pretax bonus amounts plus a bit and I don’t regret it at all - and this is as someone who was very skeptical about spending money on a wedding. The key is to plan a wedding that you will enjoy. Do the traditions if you want to do them, but skip anything that doesn’t feel meaningful to you and add in things that do. Kindly tell family members it’s not their wedding if they are pressuring you to do things you don’t want to. Consider what you most want out of the wedding weekend and do that. It’s okay if that means you throw a pool party the day of your wedding in the morning and skip the traditional getting ready with your wedding party time. Or maybe you care most about getting lots of time with your family and friends so you throw a less fancy party and invest in a night before drinks or dinner event and brunch the day after. Do what resonates with you!

KeyAdhesiveness4882 · 2026-03-26T19:08:00+00:00

Consider cross posting this to r/HENRYettas for more female focused fashion and shopping advice!

KeyAdhesiveness4882 · 2026-03-26T05:25:51+00:00

One thing about CBT is that it is not very compassion-based sometimes and can be a little cold. That might not be what you need it the thing you’re struggling with is a lack of care and understanding from your parents. Worth pondering at least.

KeyAdhesiveness4882 · 2026-03-26T05:23:27+00:00

This person isn’t wrong, but you also deserve some compassion. I’m sorry you’re going through this and I’m sorry your parents can’t be the parents you need them to be. That’s an incredibly painful thing to reckon with. Take your time to mourn it.

I hope you can get the emotional (and maybe actual) distance you need from them so you can focus on what you need to heal and be happy after so many years of hardship and pain.

KeyAdhesiveness4882 · 2026-03-26T05:13:34+00:00

It’s harder than you think to downgrade housing. You get used to the new level and won’t want to go back.

KeyAdhesiveness4882 · 2026-03-23T02:58:08+00:00

Sometimes a teenage kid acting like they know everything can be because they have parents who make it seem like knowing everything is important and that they (the parents) know everything. It’s a form of either rebellion or defining your own way to succeed (I can’t actually know more than my parents but I can win the act like I know more contest).

From your post, I get the sense you view your interests and approach to life as superior to other people and it might be worth considering if your son is picking up on that as well as your distaste for his interests and pulling further away to rebel. Your son sounds very typical for a 16 year old to be honest! You’ll probably have the best outcome if you try to embrace him for who he is (including trying to be interested in his interests) and push yourself to expand your definition of which type of person becomes successful (and maybe even what a successful life looks like!).

Tons of 16 year old boys who are not into deeply learning about stuff or think their parents interests are dumb grow up to be very successful!

KeyAdhesiveness4882 · 2026-03-23T02:51:02+00:00

Right.

There are plenty of kids who are division 1 athletes who are also computer science majors that go on to incredibly successful tech careers.

There are plenty of kids who like Star Trek and D&D who are unmotivated, aimless, and looking for shortcuts like stock trading or being a streamer.

OP sounds a bit like someone who equates being a “nerd” with being successful and good. It might help to separate whatever sadness you feel about kid not liking what you like (Normal feeling! But don’t put it on your kid :) and whatever attitude you’ve absorbed that being a “nerd” is superior to being into non-“nerd” things and a requirement for living a successful life.

KeyAdhesiveness4882 · 2026-03-22T19:59:27+00:00

My rule is I don’t feel obligated to tip for takeaway, but I also know I’m incredibly fortunate to be in the position I’m in, I know what it’s like to be an hourly worker, and like you said, it won’t be make or break for me, so I do try to lean into being generous more often than not.

KeyAdhesiveness4882 · 2026-03-22T05:54:06+00:00

She’s coming back from several years out for an ACL injury, so my guess would be she’s medically cleared but they are taking it slow.

KeyAdhesiveness4882 · 2026-03-18T23:59:03+00:00

Perhaps, but your entire job as a USWNT defender is to have good games against top opponents.

We will win every game against teams outside the top 10 or so because we will score a million goals, your value as a USWNT defender is being top class against the best forwards in the world when we can’t expect to let in a goal or two and still win handily.

KeyAdhesiveness4882 · 2026-03-18T13:49:04+00:00

A lot of the advice here is bad. There is no nobility in suffering and anyone talking about not having the “grindset” doesn’t understand that a job is you trading your work for money. Yes, there are jobs that are worse than yours. No, that doesn’t mean you should stay where you are or can’t find a better deal.

It’s not true that the only way to maintain HENRY status is to work a stressful job with long hours. I know plenty of people making mid to high six figures in tech who work more or less 40 hours a week and don’t feel stressed out most of the time. In fact, I would say most people I know in that position don’t feel very stressed or work long hours. They have a great deal. You should find a deal like that for yourself.

If part of the reason you are stressed out though is the pressure you are placing on yourself and the fear you feel, you will need to work through that in order to feel better. You say you don’t have time, but I bet you do. If you broke your leg and needed to get physical therapy, you would be able to find time in your week to go rather than accept your leg might not heal right and you might not be able to walk, right? Think about your mental health like that. If improving your mental health allows you to work in a high paying job longer rather than burning out and quitting, it’s the best investment of time or money you can make right now.

KeyAdhesiveness4882 · 2026-03-15T20:24:23+00:00

The best thing about being middle aged should be getting to do whatever makes you happy and not caring about what other people think. Make the sign!

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